Someone once said 'Neither a borrower nor a lender be'. How I wish I had heeded their advice. My own family members and relatives and old friends ALL owe me $$$ but before she died in 2010, my late Mama told them I did NOT need the money so they need not pay me back! She also told me that as they are relatives and friends, it would be insulting to have them sign repayment agreements in writing so now they WILL NOT pay what they owe! Too bad we ain't in Arabia where failure to pay a debt could get you killed or at least maimed since thieves have their hand cut off both as a warning to other law breakers and to identify known thieves!

if they do not make an attempt to pay you back they are not much of a friend

I need them to tell me why they are not paying me back without me having to ask and explain why they need the new loan if I know that they are honest and just having a hard time and I have it to spare with no hardship then that is okay otherwise I will try to find another answer to their problem

Lent $1,000 to a friend, who then blew me off and finally told her hubby who didn't know about the loan, but he paid it back.

Pay for the item only if its a need and not a want .

I’ve seen people end friendships over ten dollars it’s so pathetic! If i give a friend money it’s a gift, I don’t want it back.. if I have it to give I will, if not then I can’t

"Never a borrower or lender be" as my Grandfather would say( He was a banker) . If a dear friend or family member needs money I would rather give it to them .There would be no obligation to pay it back.

2pts

People need to learn how to be responsible for their finances

I don't borrow and I don't lend. If I have a type of emergency, my Eldest Son will lend me whatever I may need and I immediately pay him back whenever I say that I would, but that is all...I don't have many friends, if not any at all and I like it that way. My mother always taught me that, "your friend is a buck in your pocket" and I believe her, though she may not be with me now, she always gave me very sound and smart advice which I highly value and admire.

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1 miserable point.

Have never had a friend ask for money but do have a lady that spent lots buying Avon off me & let her accrue a bill which she still owes

hi Hanno, have a good one...!!

None of the answers totally suits my feelings. I would stop lending money and just give it to them. Unless it was going to drugs, yes, I'd give them money. As long as I can help out, I will always help out a friend.

People who need to borrow money from friends are people who cannot manage their own finances. If they can’t manage their own finances, they are not going to manage to pay it back. I also think it’s rude to ask someone else for money. Sort it out yourself or go without.

I once lent money to a now very ex cousin of my wife.she swore she would pay it.got nothing but her promises. She told me it wasn’t a loan but a gift. I told her if she sees me in the street that she had better lay with all of the other vermin as i would flatten her like a cockroachEdited 28-Apr-25 22:22pm

To be honest .... a couple of times I have helped my kids out - but it has always given to them. I would never lend a friend money.

never lend money at all why should I earn that money with hard work why give it to someone unknown.....

Yes give once and if don't give back them next time no

Yes I gave my answer!

5pts No, as they need to learn to pay you back for what they borrowed

I don't lend money and I'll correct the incorrect spelling and poor grammar. I don't lend money to anyone at all.

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5 points for number two, the most popular one. No, I have loaned money in the distant past and not been repaid so they never got a second chance to "bite" me again.

once bitten never again. Don't care if it is friend, family or whomever. You borrow it is an obligation to repay it asap

1 point

Not a habit of mine so no issue

I live on a smell of a oily rag and got no money to lean,

hmmmmm, not what I voted

I have no money to lend

In do not lend money to anyone at all.

Terrible grammar and spelling

Know one at all? Just what does that mean? Surely you mean I don't lend money to NO one at all? Your grammar needs some attention.

I never lend money if I can't afford to not have it paid back. That way, if I do get paid back, it's a nice surprise. Otherwise, I've given a gift.

Know one ??

1 Yes one of my daughters is always in trouble. Can never see it being paid back unfortunately. What can one do have to eat & live. :(

Give money, do'nt lend it.

AI is supposed to help??? The Ai used at REWARDIA can spell and doesn know grammar

I help people out BUT when anyone asks for a gift and states they will repay and when, AND THEY DONT, They never get a loan again. Dont need to argue or lose acquaintance, But no more lending

Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back! (Oscar Wilde)

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4 pts

I'm a bit of a fool when it comes to these circumstances. Or is it just because I'm to kind. I don't want anyone asking me for money okay.

I don't lend money to know one at all...so said the poll question. The butchering of the English language on Rewardia never ceases to amaze me.Edited 28-Apr-25 10:03am

What sort of English is " I don't lend money to know one at all" REALLY!!!!!!!

I don't lend money to anyone at all now that I am Retired, nothing to spare and those that I had always helped out in the past, never chased them to be paid back, have conveniently forgotten about it.

4pts Too many variables to answer

2 points for, Not Anymore! Like I've posted before, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." I used to, but I need what I have now at my age, and can't afford to lose any. "Never lend more than you can afford to lose." ;-D

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I don't lend money to friends (under any circumstances) are you 'will not' have any friends. If you need to borrow money - then try using your family as an ATM - LOL!Edited 28-Apr-25 18:38pm

I prefer to give it as a gift, rather than burden someone in need by add8ng more debt load. I usually say to pay it forward.

6 pts

I lend money to my dad all the time but he hardly pays it back ??

I do not borrow money from anyone nor lend to anyone, Like the saying, "Neither a lender nor a borrower be".

...they are NOT paying you back...and you're STILL lending them money? You realize YOU are the sucker and THEY see your "relationship" as purely transactional and they are sociopathic and a degenerate because they are NOT paying you back. This is a "YOU" problem that you need to address. How do you do this? CUT THEM OFF COMPLETELY. I do NOT care how long you've known them, whatever. AXE THEM. And, then, move forward and LEARN the lesson you NEED to learn from it. The hardest thing in the world IS to say "no", yet, the most empowering word in the world IS "NO"!! ;)

We are commanded to give to those who ask. The wicked borroweth and payeth not again, but the righteous showeth mercy and giveth

4 points. I don't lend money to ANYONE at all.

2 pts when you give money freely, then do not expect the effect of the outcome (not getting it back).

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It is not a loan if the intention is never to repay.