Separate Houses

05-May-23 21:42pm
2025
You are very wrong! It's not fiction as I, and some others have said. When you don't know you should not comment. Besides, even if you live with a partner, they are going to die, or if you go first. I can think of a few older relatives who will have that happen one day. I bet they are in for a bit of a shock!
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04-May-23 14:51pm
boy blunder
an interesting theme for a book but destroys the concept of marriage i believe
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- 04-May-23 18:42pm
  2025
  You would not have a clue about what constitutes a good marriage you fool,.
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04-May-23 08:29am
Amy B 1078427
No
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03-May-23 23:51pm
Scott S 68719
Definately. It gives you space to look forward to seeing each other.
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03-May-23 23:07pm
Kathy A 494332
It sounds like good friends more than a married couple.
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- 03-May-23 23:15pm
  2025
  So be it!
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03-May-23 21:59pm
JANET R 328390
Well I was in a great relationship once - for 17 years until he ended up dying of cancer. We had both been married before and that worked very well for us. We had also been living on our own for several years - so liked our own "space". We had a great life together - did a lot of travelling.. So for me - yes I agree with it.
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03-May-23 21:46pm
2025
Kids should always come first, not selfish parents. Too many kids have their life destroyed by parents. Why do you think domestic violence is so common? Get out before someone gets hurt..
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03-May-23 21:40pm
Ernie 67
Would depend on the couple
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- 03-May-23 21:44pm
  2025
  It would and it works!
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03-May-23 21:38pm
Francis S 1044530
For me no! For others if it floats your boat do it
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03-May-23 21:24pm
2025
Why do others care what people do ? Mind your own business. Are you scared to be alone yourself? I think that's so desperate and kinda of sick. So many people, particularly women put up with unhappy relationships BCS they are too weak to leave. The ones that do are smart!
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03-May-23 21:21pm
Helen L 750218
nope
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03-May-23 21:21pm
Mary G 409440
No
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03-May-23 21:09pm
matthew f 520557
Rich people problems
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03-May-23 21:07pm
Pam G 449028
What’s the point of them getting married, doesn’t make sense to me.
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03-May-23 21:03pm
2025
What people do with their partners is no one else's business. People break up all the time.
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03-May-23 21:02pm
Janet H 854956
I really don’t see the point!🤷‍♀️
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03-May-23 20:22pm
Debra H 446555
Why bother getting married if you are not going to live together
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03-May-23 20:10pm
2025
What couples do is there business and has nothing to do with others. If everyone got on the world would be a perfect place but it never had been and never will be. Even most marriage counselors say it's best to live apart if you can't live together in peace. It's the only way for some people.
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03-May-23 20:04pm
Bill H 487635
At least you would win an argument
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03-May-23 19:37pm
Magnum
Yes
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03-May-23 19:31pm
Katzeye
Wouldn't it be easier and cost effective just to have separate bedrooms? I personally wouldn't do either because if you love someone and marry them why an earth would you want to live separately and when things get hard you either work it out or you walk away.
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- 03-May-23 21:20pm
  2025
  As if life were that simple! omg. Dumb!
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03-May-23 19:25pm
Pat C 618241
In some parts of the world we know that rich men have more than one wife and he visits different wives in different houses. Apparently, some wives are happy for the domestic help from other women in the family but I think it might have underlying dark thoughts from some or all of the secondary wives.
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- 03-May-23 19:31pm
  2025
  I don't think she was meaning that. It's more about a couple living apart as the husband struggled to live with her.
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03-May-23 19:15pm
2025
I knew some kids who didn't even have their own parents. That would of been horrible to me! Growing up as a adopted person they were. I would of hated that!
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03-May-23 19:08pm
Paula J 395266
We're flat out paying the expenses for one house let alone 2. You would need to be earning a very high salary in order to run 2 households.
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03-May-23 19:05pm
Dimitri T 100433
as a married person like to live with my wife
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03-May-23 18:51pm
2025
What's the name of the book, Marietta? I'd love to read it?
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03-May-23 18:50pm
Manel 1271300
Be happy caring and sharing Life is too short for these rifts created by humans without feelings🥰😍🙂😃🙃😊
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03-May-23 18:47pm
2025
Marriage is only a institution. Cohabitation isn't set in stone either. If people don't get on then they should live apart. You will be doing yourself, the other person, and any kids a favour. It's easy if a couple don't have kids, but many do, so that's half the problem.
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03-May-23 18:44pm
Catalina
It might work for some people and doesn’t for others. Good marriage/relationship doesn’t depend on living in separate houses, I think.
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- 03-May-23 18:49pm
  2025
  True, and my parents got on better when they were apart.
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03-May-23 18:32pm
2025
There are thousands of divorced couples, single parents, step parents. I'm so glad I never had a step parent.
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03-May-23 18:12pm
Elvira D 70287
I personally don't see the logical sense of being married and living in separate houses, then there is no need for marriage because the fact is when you marry you become united, its the foundation for creating a family and working together under the one roof and creating a special bond, facing the good and bad times.
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03-May-23 18:12pm
eva 1290675
i have heard of that idea and think its good as long as you both spend time together enough time that you both agree on
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03-May-23 18:11pm
2025
Was a good topic Marietta. So common esp today, as so many people break up and esp with kids. There's nothing fiction about it as it so real. So many without a mum or dad, many end up with a step parent. I know a few couples they broke up and they had kids. Many parents are living apart.
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03-May-23 17:57pm
Luvvy dove
No it would not be a good idea you should live with each other to find yourselves together
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- 03-May-23 18:13pm
  2025
  So you say, what about the kids?
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03-May-23 17:21pm
Denise 1280974
I love my boyfriend, I'm a neat freak and he's a kind of never put anything away kind of guy and has a lot of stuff. We live together in my place which is small and way too crowded. I can't handle the constant messiness it screws with my serenity. It's the only thing we ever argue about. I don't like what I've become which is a nag and am bitchy at him. I think our relationship could be perfect if we didn't live together.
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03-May-23 16:36pm
Tiffany L 690503
I really don’t know
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03-May-23 16:36pm
Bugalugs
I don't "bel;ieve" in marriage and would never be part of it. I think two people can have a close and loving relationship without it and they don'r "need" to live together. So long as they can afford it why shouldn't they have seperate homes?
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03-May-23 16:34pm
Luke W 72035
I don't see the point in getting married if you don't want to be around someone or are worried you won't accept and tolerate each other. Seems more like a friendship with benefits situation. Imagine the impact on house prices and living standards if everyone wanted to live alone.
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03-May-23 16:27pm
Maria B 89860
Not sure, that this is what marriage is all about and what would be the point of getting married it not to live as a family unit.
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03-May-23 14:55pm
Sonya F 68771
Why get married then
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- 03-May-23 18:16pm
  2025
  We are talking about breakups. People do live together before they break up.
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03-May-23 14:55pm
Carol S 657195
It might be a good idea for them, but for me, it wouldn't seem like much of a relationship if you aren't together. What kind of love is that? The matter of trust would be a huge problem for me. I wouldn't trust him for one second. I don't trust men anymore as it is. My last husband cheated and lied, and I was entirely blind! No man can love me so perhaps a half-assed relationship is better than nothing!
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- 03-May-23 16:38pm
  Bugalugs
  You say "no man can love me" well, if you cannot trust someone why should they trust you?
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- 03-May-23 18:17pm
  2025
  People don't always get on so they should live apart if that happens. Why put up with crap?
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- 03-May-23 18:18pm
  2025Bugalugs
  Exactly romac!
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- 04-May-23 09:35am
  Carol S 657195Bugalugs
  because I am a very trustworthy person, and people can sense that right away. I am so transparent that they call me "Saran Wrap," Most men show me right off the bat that they can't be trusted! When they say they are coming over and don't show up, that's a pretty good clue!
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03-May-23 14:49pm
merricat
No way! What's the point of getting married if you 're not going to share your lives? It is expensive to maintain separate households, and what if there are children involved? I can understand separate bedrooms, if one partner snores, or requires different sleeping conditions, but marriage means sharing lives.
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- 03-May-23 18:19pm
  2025
  My parents were still in contact but thought it best not to live together. That's healthy!
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03-May-23 14:35pm
Tupulua S
What ever happen to , TILL DEATH DO US PART" Is that LOVE has no hold on the marriage
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03-May-23 14:28pm
Charmaine M 596083
Too each there own but why get married n life seperate life's
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03-May-23 14:18pm
Merci
I can see the merit in maintaining a degree of separation as was done historically where there were manor houses and large estates to be run but with the advent of smaller homes located closely together it would not be practicable
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03-May-23 14:03pm
Emma F 1171442
No. Takes away the uniqueness of what true marriage is.
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03-May-23 13:50pm
Cynthia D 1209850
There is no point to marrying then.
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- 03-May-23 18:26pm
  2025
  What if they are not compatible and don't find out that until some year later? Happened to many people's.
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03-May-23 13:48pm
lynda e 390007
Would not suit me but each to their own
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03-May-23 13:45pm
Jessie D 1191842
Does not make sense to live like that. You either live together and make a proper home or do your own thing. What happens if you have kids?
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- 03-May-23 18:27pm
  2025
  That's why you live apart, you do it for the kids.
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03-May-23 13:42pm
Rebecca B 614374
Why bother getting married in the first place? It's a partnership, where you make compromises and give and take. Living apart defeats the whole purpose.
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03-May-23 13:27pm
Aimee F 477567
It works for some. If you had children via previous relationships could work especially if all kids dont get along. I no of a couple of couples and this has worked perfectly for them.
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- 03-May-23 18:29pm
  2025
  Exactly. Only those fools on here think you can't.
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03-May-23 13:14pm
2025
Single parents are everywhere these days. I think it's disgusting that so many kids grow up without a dad. At least I had a dad! He only left when I was 13, to live with his mum, until she passed away. He was still involved with us, just not living together as a family. It was the best for all concerned.
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03-May-23 13:03pm
Paul J 94868
No...
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03-May-23 12:55pm
Debbie W 69651
Would have loved this idea if I had the money but what happens if you have children. Do they split their time between homes or do they just live with mum?
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- 03-May-23 12:58pm
  2025
  In my case I lived with mum and siblings. It was a very acceptable arrangement for all of us. Dad still saw us and provided for us. So it was all friendly. Unlike many bad breakups where you get single mums and dads. It wasn't like that! It was all good, they were communicating.Edited 03-May-23 13:01pm
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03-May-23 12:53pm
2025
These days... more and more people don't even get married. They live as defacto couples. That's pretty odd too! But some break up...and the kids end up with both parents living elsewhere. This is very common today. It's no different to what the writer above was referring too.
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03-May-23 12:52pm
Catharina 1274733
a big YES
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03-May-23 12:51pm
Joe B 288252
Rubbish idea, double property taxes, insurances, maintenance etc. if you don’t want to live together don’t get married………lol
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- 03-May-23 13:04pm
  2025
  No. Wrong! my father went to live with his mum, so. She was a bit sick so it was another reason as she lived alone. They weren't divorced. What about what's best for kids? Get with the times, Joe! Your out of touch!
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03-May-23 12:28pm
Christine M 323842
Sounds perfect. I could have the nice little inner city terrace house that I always wanted, he could have his house with a triple garage with car carcasses all over the place like he wanted. Maybe we wouldn’t have wanted to kill each other and separated!
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03-May-23 12:27pm
Colin L 88398
No
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- 03-May-23 12:45pm
  2025
  Yes, it worked for my parents, thank you!
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03-May-23 12:20pm
2025
Many former partners live like this. After some years of living together they stop getting on so they seperate. Many have kids and still the other partner has to pay maintenance to the rest of the family. It's better than living together arguing in front of the kids .
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03-May-23 12:15pm
2025
I've heard of people who weren't married ... but in a relationship., not living in the same property. People do it for all sorts of reasons. Some just wanted their own space.
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03-May-23 12:11pm
2025
It's called a separation, not necessarily a termination of a relationship. Since it happened to my parents... I should know how it worked. Some ignorant comments on here from some people.
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03-May-23 12:02pm
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Hope you didn't 'purchase' the book. sounds like a waste of time and money
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03-May-23 12:01pm
Shawn B 1061185
Well, it certainly makes very little sense economically, buy as they say; different strokes for different folks.
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- 03-May-23 12:11pm
  2025
  It's not always about economics.
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03-May-23 11:48am
Igor A
These days nothing seems to be odd or queer.
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03-May-23 11:43am
Linda C
I have heard of this including an actor in Australia who did this. I think it is odd personally but can understand the benefits.
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- 03-May-23 12:14pm
  2025
  It's not odd at all! I think your reference to something totally different.
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03-May-23 11:40am
Kathy 1270954
I think it really depends on the couple.
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03-May-23 11:40am
Ann J 1179342
Well it would work for some and then for others no! But look at the White House the President has his side the the first lady has her side each with its own butler and staff.
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03-May-23 11:21am
IdentifyAs
That's not a marriage, just friends with benefits. My now ex suggested this after being together for 40 years. Nope. I divorced him asap.
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- 03-May-23 12:06pm
  2025
  People break up...you, it's got nothing to do with what you are referring to. Don't confuse the two.
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03-May-23 11:16am
Rosie K (NZ)
It can work for some.
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03-May-23 11:11am
Mopos
No, this idea should stay in a book......
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- 03-May-23 12:07pm
  2025
  How would you know?
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03-May-23 11:10am
Robert T 597718
no separate houses separate hearts
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- 03-May-23 12:22pm
  2025
  Why not?
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03-May-23 11:08am
William P 589978
Sounds most odd to me.
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- 03-May-23 12:08pm
  2025
  Is divorcing odd too?
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03-May-23 10:59am
Daniel A 2
Depends how they are living together. If they can afford it, then they could call it some sort of mansion. if they are not living together then they are not really married or in a relationship, who knows they're not cheating.
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03-May-23 10:58am
Elizabeth A 807208
was this a true story or fiction - they must have been getting on each others nerves even before they married for him to even suggest this
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- 03-May-23 12:23pm
  2025
  No, it happens alot. Where have you been lady?
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03-May-23 10:42am
Erica L 393135
Every marriage is different, and we all have to find what works to make us happy as a couple. So, if both parties agree and they both are happy this way, I say do what works for you. Who are we to judge and apparently, they made it work, because there not divorced and are still together, happily.
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- 03-May-23 12:24pm
  2025
  It worked for my parents.
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03-May-23 10:33am
Alison G 981912
I like my own space more than any guy who might share it with me. I'd be happy if a guy kept his own space & we just spent time together when we wanted to not just coexisting in a space because that's what conventional relationships look like.
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- 03-May-23 12:26pm
  2025
  I agree! Who wants to live like your being suffocating!
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03-May-23 10:33am
Cheryl Katt (AZ)
Unless you were well off, I don't see how it could be possible in this economy. I lived by myself for a lot of years before my second husband and in the years since he passed. I have a BF but our relationship would be much more relaxed if we each had our own space. Same house would be okay, maybe opposite ends?
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- 03-May-23 12:27pm
  2025
  You don't have to be rich to make it work.
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03-May-23 10:14am
Christina P 1042585
Just don't get married,live in your places and date.
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03-May-23 10:12am
Robyn B 1239927
I've never been married, but sometimes I think if I ever did get married, this would be the way to go!
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- 03-May-23 12:29pm
  2025
  Yeah, why not?
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03-May-23 10:11am
Jan H 753322
No,why would you get married in the first place, this is a silly idea
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- 03-May-23 12:30pm
  2025
  Not at all! You don't know much.
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03-May-23 10:03am
PEN15
It’s a good idea if it suits them. Who am I to judge what works in someone else’s relationship?
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03-May-23 10:00am
nina m 212027
pack your bags and we will live seperate lifes
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03-May-23 09:56am
Sandra C 12043
Not for me but it might suit others. Who are we to decide what is good for someone else. There's an old saying "To each his own"
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03-May-23 09:39am
Diane P 1096132
Yes
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03-May-23 09:16am
Sheree T
Why would you even bother to get married. I would not accept that at all.
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- 03-May-23 12:32pm
  2025
  It's not planned...people break up thats why.Edited 03-May-23 12:32pm
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03-May-23 09:09am
yvonne l 1107206
the way things are to day ho knows
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03-May-23 09:01am
SueS
What is the point of getting married
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03-May-23 08:57am
Annette D 716821
Sounds expensive to me!
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- 03-May-23 12:32pm
  2025
  Not to all.
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03-May-23 08:55am
mary c
Yes.
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03-May-23 08:55am
Roberta E 611945
Why bother getting married
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- 03-May-23 12:33pm
  2025
  That's their business.
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03-May-23 08:36am
Michelle 1281734
No, that is just ridiculous. Why get married to live separately?
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03-May-23 08:30am
JANN R
No if you are going to live in separate houses why get married just stay friends then you can live your own life
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- 03-May-23 13:20pm
  2025
  In my family's case they did live together. But change happened.
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03-May-23 08:10am
Jania S
More insanity. what selfish idiot thought this up??? some guy/girl who wanted sex without the responsibility???? and what country was this in. I seem to be blessed I havent been around selfish people
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- 03-May-23 13:22pm
  2025
  No, it doesn't work like that. Ignorant sod!
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03-May-23 08:08am
jim m 896295
not
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03-May-23 08:00am
Teri 1282723
I guess I should add that it's been around 25 or 30 years that they've had this arrangement.
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- 03-May-23 13:23pm
  2025
  Longer.....
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03-May-23 07:58am
Teri 1282723
It works really well for someone close to me and her husband. She lives and works close to family in Ontario, while he lives and works in Alberta near other family members. Visits are regular throughout the year and neither has any plans to change this arrangement. I'm twice divorced and maybe this would work for me???
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- 03-May-23 13:24pm
  2025
  Yeah, you are right! It was just a break up and they didnt live in the same house. It doesn't mean that they didnt get on. My mum never had another man. She was a decent lady!Edited 03-May-23 13:27pm
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03-May-23 07:52am
pam rae
crazy, why get married then
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- 03-May-23 13:25pm
  2025
  Bcs it's their business. Why do people divorce?
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03-May-23 07:49am
Shelia C
I very much doubt it 🤔
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- 03-May-23 13:27pm
  2025
  Ru sure?
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03-May-23 07:46am
Lance P 1114997
Karen I hear you
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- 03-May-23 13:27pm
  2025
  lol
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