Discussion of the Day
Your 15-year-old self
Timtam01-Aug-22
If you could go back in time and tell your 15-year-old self 1 pearl of wisdom, what would it be?

Something to avoid ? Something to embrace? Stock market tips ?
What would it be?
Comments
  • What would you tell you when you were young Tim Tam? :)
    ·
    • My advice to myself was don't take wrong advice from my European parents and could have started buying investment property's when I had the chance at a young age but no my parents wanted me marry and start a family. Boy I would be a rich women today.
      ·
      • To be happy with who u r & stop wishing u were older
        ·
        • Don't allow people to put you down. You are very capable and you can do very well all what they say you can't. Don't take 25 years to find this out like me.
          ·
          • Enjoy school as when you leave, it’s the real world and you have to work till whatever age before you can retire. Thinking about it freedom no worries and lots of holidays. Adult life is ok but lots more responsibility and stress of life.
            ·
            • I'D TRYTO MAKE MORE MISTAKES. I WOULD LIMBER UP. I WOULD BE SILLIER. I KNOW OF VERY FEW THINGS I WOULD TAKE SERIOUSLY. I WOULD BE CRAZIER. I WOULD CLIMB MORE MOUNTAINS, SWIM MORE RIVERS,AND WATCH MORE SUNSETS.I WOULD EAT MORE ICE CREAM AND LESS BEANS. I WOULD HAVE MORE AVTIVE TROUBLES AND FEWER IMAGINARY ONES. IF I COULD GO BACK TO 15 I WOULD START BAREFOOT EARLIER IN THE SPRING AND STAY THAT WAY LATER IN THE FALL.I WOULD PLAY HOOKY MORE. I WOULDN'T MAKE SUCH GOOD GRADES EXCEPT BY ACCIDENT. I WOULD RIDE ON MORE MERRY-GO-ROUNDS. I'D PICK MORE DAISIES
              ·
              • This was when my bought me a pair of staggers jeans, they ere the must have jeans way back then. Thought I looked pretty cool to.
                ·
                • Not everyone can be fully trusted...remember that.
                  ·
                  • If I were to go back to meet my 15 year old self I would tell her she turned out well and can be happy with herself.
                    ·
                    • To learn to be more tolerant of people.
                      ·
                      • Never ever lend money to relatives
                        ·
                        • take more calculated/balanced risks to enhance future life advancement
                          ·
                          • Don't marry him
                            ·
                            • Carry on
                              ·
                              • Be yourself and don't try to be in the popular group
                                ·
                                • Stock market tips :)
                                  ·
                                  • Don't marry young because your likes change within a few years.
                                    ·
                                    • It depends upon the person. I met hubby when I was 17 and here we are 56 years later. Mind you, I don;t like old men much so wouldn't marry one.
                                      ·
                                  • 15 year old self was very young and innocent. Fast forward three years to 18 and it would have been to stay away from the bad boys and let yourself be treated well...never really learned that though. Though thinking about what i would say to a 15yr old today it may be quite different. the world is changing and not doing so well in some ways- i'd tell a fifteen year old to enjoy the moment more!
                                    ·
                                    • dont get married stay single and free
                                      ·
                                      • haha..funny when young all some of us want is to be married and decades later ummmmmm...
                                        ·
                                    • Maybe start a revival of those HOT PANTS those ladies are wearing. Better than the crap some people wear today
                                      ·
                                      • At 15 there was no such thing as COVID. The music was hot back then. How things have changed for the worse, the worse, the worse . Sometimes you wish you could go back ..
                                        ·
                                        • I would tell her to run to all the men that I care about and tell them to stay away from the psycho woman that will ruin their lives with false accusations. Some will be lucky and be able to prove undeniably that it was fake but others won't be believed despite evidence including dna. Either way in these me 2 times it's destroyed all their lives in ways that can't be taken back. I'd love to protect them from that because they are the good men that woman complain don't exist and as a woman I'm blessed to know them.
                                          ·
                                          • You are beautiful! Love yourself
                                            ·
                                            • Whatever you're thinking about doing...Don't!!! It won't end well.
                                              ·
                                              • haha..i feel bad how mean and thoughtless we were- tho a bit older- like 19. Ditching girlfriends to climb into guys cars that we had just met on holidays and drive all the way down the island with them. Though my friend ended up marrying the friend of one of these guys haha. They still happily together 30 plus years later.
                                                ·
                                            • Not to drink so much cow's milk. I could have saved undergoing a breast reduction caused through drinking all that hormone-laden cow's milk.
                                              ·
                                              • So your saying cows milk was to blame?
                                                ·
                                            • look after yourself, mentally, physically and spiritually. Look after your environment, plant trees and save money
                                              ·
                                              • OOOOPS
                                                ·
                                                • Stay away from boys until you meet David, it'll be a while. don't skip school and ignore the fools. You're smart, act like it. Stay away from drugs and control yourself when you drink or smoke weed. Take care of your body and your mind. Start looking for red flags NOW. People are wolves in wool sweaters. Research narcissist.
                                                  ·
                                                  • Who's David, lol?
                                                    ·
                                                  • omg- they seriously need to have a whole subject at school on Narcissists..and how to not get involved with one- as they are different at the beginning.
                                                    ·
                                                • stay in touch with my school friends
                                                  ·
                                                  • Stay away from credit cards
                                                    ·
                                                    • Being a friend to everyone is as important as being 'top of the class'. Every day is a new chance to be the person you wanted to be yesterday
                                                      ·
                                                      • Be nice to everyone. It will pay off in the end
                                                        ·
                                                        • Avoid everyone and everything you meet or come across starting in about 6 months from now, except for your family, your teachers, and the new guy in your geography class with the English accent! But better watch out for him too! It won't be easy! You'll have to be tough and you have to be smart and never forget where you came from! It's all about to start right about now, so get ready. No slackers! Keep your head up and your eyes and ears open. The habits you pick up now will be your habits for the rest of your life or at least into your 50s! If you know this for a fact, AND IT IS A FACT, and you still make stupid, dangerous, unhealthy choices, then you must not be as smart as everyone's telling you you are. Either that, or you're trying to self-destruct, but on the long, slow plan. Do you think that's a good idea? Of course you don't. Because you really are as smart as everyone's telling you you are, and you're about to be as pretty too, but that's just going to make it all the tougher to stay on target. Don't fall for it! Always remember, no matter who it is that wants something from you (and they all will), you're smarter than they are and you've got everything going for you! You're going to have a lot of leverage so don't waste it! It's a lot but it's not unlimited. Think before you act! It's true, it makes all the difference. If you don't want it, don't take it! if you don't like it, get away from it! If you change your mind after you think about it later, it'll still be there for you then. That goes for everything - yes, everything. Don't you want the best thing no matter what it is? You don't wanna be stuck with crap or settle for less than you have to, right? Then take your time and do the right thing! That doesn't mean you won't have fun. You will have so much time, years and years and years, and I'm just talking about the good years. After the good years, you'll STILL have even more years and years, so you don't have to try to do it all at once. A lot of things, probably EVERY thing, will be even better later, after you're a little more grown up and you've figured out how to act and what to think about it all. it can all get easier, but it WON'T if you do it wrong. Then it will all just keep getting harder and harder until you finally realize you're nearing the end of your good years and you're still struggling to take control of your own life. Why would you give that up to someone else? Especially someone who doesn't know what's best for you. That would be stupid, and if I haven't said it enough times yet, I'll say it again, you're not stupid. And you're not trying to self-destruct. So don't act like you are. Morals really do matter. There really is a right and a wrong, and you really do want to do right. There will be soooooo many opportunities to show the world how special you are, but they will all go to waste if you screw it all up before you get there. Nobody will respect you, nobody will trust you, nobody will admire you if you take the low road and screw everything up before you really even get started on this life ahead of you. You only get one, remember? Think about that, it's not just a trite cliche thing to say. It has real meaning, so think about what that means, because it is literally true and it's crucial. Because trust me, if you take the lowlife route and don't even try to do it right, you will find yourself in your 50s with no one and no thing and no chance to get it all back or to do it over again, and that's what you will be stuck with, because there are no do-overs and you only get one life. Don't throw it away. Think how terrible that would be to come to the end of it and have done nothing worthwhile and be no one you want to be. And just die like that, leaving nothing behind but trauma and regrets. How pathetic! How stupid. And I mean it, everything you do now will decide how it's going to be later. It all matters. Every decision now is a step along the path of your life, and all the paths lead to different places, some good, some wonderful, some bad, some horrible. But it's almost like they're labeled, each step, so you don't have to go blindly. The signs may be kinda hard to read sometimes, but it all follows common sense, and it does all MAKE SENSE. If you can't read one sign, just use common sense, and think about it. Would something stupid like shoplifting be one of the steps on the road to the good life? Of course not. So why would you take that step? Anyone can figure out where any step would lead if it all made sense, and I'm telling you, it all makes sense. Life's not crazy and random and nonsensical. You do one thing, you know what to expect. You know what will happen! And you're right! It's easy to see if you keep thinking and keep watching and keep reading the signs. There are no surprises there. Surprises are elsewhere and they're good things. But if you do one thing that you know leads somewhere and expect it to lead somewhere different that doesn't even make sense, then you know what will happen. It will lead you somewhere that makes sense and that anybody can figure out just by GUESSING where it's gonna lead. It's not gonna go somewhere it would NEVER GO. Life will go where it will go and you can make it go where you want it to by the steps you choose to take. It won't surprise you. Unless you start pretending and lying to yourself and going out all night drinking, driving drunk, screwing up in whatever ways, and telling yourself this will all turn out fine. If you do that, then depending on how much you believed your own lies to yourself, then yeah, life will surprise you. It will surprise you by ending up exactly where you or anyone would expect it to end up if you go around acting like a fool. Nowhere good. Maybe somewhere horrible even. Surprised? Why would that surprise you? I told you it all makes sense, and that wouldn't make any sense to act the fool and do everything wrong and have that lead you to the good life. That would never happen. If you wrote a book and that was your plot, everybody would make fun of it, because everyone can see it, just like you can. It's all there with labels and signs and steps and paths and routes and destinations and they're all there for everyone to see and it all makes sense. So pick a good path. To get a good life. It's that simple. But it's not easy. Trust me, I KNOW. But, I also know you're not gonna listen to anything I or anyone else says and you're gonna suffer for it and that's a shame, but nothing to be done about it now. It's too late now. Maybe it's not too late for someone else, who knows. GOOD LUCK! (You're gonna need it.)
                                                          ·
                                                          • Too long a message!
                                                            ·
                                                        • Be confident
                                                          ·
                                                          • To not trust like I do
                                                            ·
                                                            • Save money
                                                              ·
                                                              • To believe in yourself without doubt
                                                                ·
                                                                • Believe in yourself Listen to parents and keep away from boys, alcohol and drugs
                                                                  ·
                                                                  • Set for 2 out of 3 boys are ok
                                                                    ·
                                                                • Save for and buy a house...
                                                                  ·
                                                                  • True!
                                                                    ·
                                                                • save money.
                                                                  ·
                                                                  • When I was 15years & 10months old, I met the man who was to become my husband. I actually asked him if we could get engaged as he was due to go in the Army & do his 2 years national service. I waited till he came out of the army so when I was 18 years & 1 month, we had a white wedding which was a dream of mine. This coming September we will have been married for 62 years. We have had our "ups & downs" as they say but we have always been able to sort them out. If I had my way again, it would be exactly the same except for a bit more travelling than what we have done. I have been disabled for the past few years & he has become my carer. He now does the cooking whilst I sit at the table & do the food preparation. We work as a team & always have done. Plus I still love this man, my husband after all these years.
                                                                    ·
                                                                    • Oh that’s so incredibly gorgeous Henrietta :-) Congratulations and well done too you both xx
                                                                      ·
                                                                    • MoposMariaj
                                                                      I totally agree with you Maria F, a happy storey indeed, again well done to both of you Henrietta.
                                                                      ·
                                                                  • Do not go to Uni and study Mech Engineering you'll never have safe employment in AU and have to go OS to be employed for any decent length of time.
                                                                    ·
                                                                    • Stay in school, save, save and save your money. Dont believe everything you hear.
                                                                      ·
                                                                      • Alcohol addiction is a serious condition which can result in numerous health problems & complications, not only huge financial loses .... don't drink it like water ....
                                                                        ·
                                                                        • Listen to your parents, they are smarter than you thought
                                                                          ·
                                                                          • That external beauty is not that important. It's what's on the inside that counts. Stop feeling like you're not good enough and just be yourself.
                                                                            ·
                                                                            • Change is part of life, so don't fight it, embrace it. Also, inside every negative event is a positive if you look hard enough. How you react to something is more important than what happens, as your reaction determines what happens next - do you give up and feel sorry for yourself, or look for a positive and go with it? Only you can choose.
                                                                              ·
                                                                              • what people think of you is none of your business
                                                                                ·
                                                                                • believe in yourself and be happy and follow your dreams
                                                                                  ·
                                                                                  • Enjoy life but do not marry your first love
                                                                                    ·
                                                                                    • Believe in yourself and work toward what you want - do not get married at 18 you are still growing up.
                                                                                      ·
                                                                                      • get a job as soon as you can.
                                                                                        ·
                                                                                        • I wouldn’t go back to 15yr old me, I’d go somewhere really interesting……..lol
                                                                                          ·
                                                                                          • There are so many. But the most important one would be DO NOT get married at 16 and DO NOT remarry him at 22 because you think he grew up and changed. He DIDN'T.
                                                                                            ·
                                                                                            • Work hard. Save your money and buy a house. Get a good career.
                                                                                              ·
                                                                                              • Dont start smoking. Dont waste money on lotto. Work hard but put family before work. Travel more.
                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                • Never pee in to the wind.
                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                  • or right beside an electric fence- thats according to hubby haha.
                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                  • good point.
                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                • Watch your back, look after it and don't try to be a hero.
                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                  • You are a short time single and independant and a long time married so chose wisely
                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                    • Study harder.
                                                                                                      ·
                                                                                                      • should have planted more trees, then we would not have this weather problems we are facing
                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                        • Get a job and leave home. Go overseas and see something of the world.
                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                          • Things happen. You wonder why but down the track you generally find the answer be patient
                                                                                                            ·
                                                                                                            • Spend more time with my parents both passed away now and talk more about my ancestry
                                                                                                              ·
                                                                                                              • never trust any woman, ever !!!
                                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                                • I followed my instinct
                                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                                  • To trust my gut instinct…always… And, that I am enough, just as I am.
                                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                                    • Avoid student debt, don't be too hard on yourself, don't waste time on addictive habits.
                                                                                                                      ·
                                                                                                                      • Nothing, when we were 15 it was a different world, where integrity,honesty the basic codes of 10 commandments were lived by all, It was a time where politicians [in OZ] were honest, there were NO LAWYERS as no need, Doctors were real, they did everything except surgery, There was no BIG or little PHARMA, so I would be doing it round about and warning the 15 year old how greed for money and power would destroy the world and humanity.
                                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                                        • I don't know about the integrity and honesty side of it. Back in the 60s and 70s children weren't taught not to get into cars with strangers. Children were too trusting of adults and thought they were safe which wasn't always the case. Look at the Beaumont children and other cases like that.
                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                        • mary cViola
                                                                                                                          True that Viola.
                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                      • I would tell myself to apply myself in high school and go to college, so I could get a better job that I would enjoy. All I would remind myself to never give u.
                                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                                        • A loved one will give you regular little monetary "i love yous" or "thank yous"- put that aside, don't spend it all on them (like you did because you loved them so much and wanted to continue to help them with groceries, etc), they want you to have it because they were forced to take you out of their will and this is the only other way they can help you financially.
                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                          • Do what you want eve if behind parents back.
                                                                                                                            ·
                                                                                                                            • Take education seriously and study hard.
                                                                                                                              ·
                                                                                                                              • Be more confidant girl.
                                                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                                                • Start your own business as soon as you get out of school!
                                                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                                                  • listen to your mother
                                                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                                                    • stay at school and learn
                                                                                                                                      ·
                                                                                                                                      • Chase the money.
                                                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                                                        • There is nothing I would change
                                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                                          • Like Sharyn and MIchael J but I think I would have bought up lots of land
                                                                                                                                            ·
                                                                                                                                            • Listen to my parents
                                                                                                                                              ·
                                                                                                                                              • Believe in your passion
                                                                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                                                                • I stead of becoming a nurse, train as a beauty therapist. No stress, better pay. Trust your first instincts and don’t get married too young?..
                                                                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                                                                  • To have studied law like I wanted to do.
                                                                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                                                                    • Realise that you’re beautiful and not an ugly duck!
                                                                                                                                                      ·
                                                                                                                                                      • Avoid my step father lol and embrace that I become a young mother
                                                                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                                                                        • Lesson #1 Don't listen to idiots. Of course identifying idiots is the harder part than knowing a statement.
                                                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                                                          • Listen. to my teacher and Mum stay at school ,study find a career
                                                                                                                                                            ·
                                                                                                                                                            • Yah all of the above list plus a lot more.
                                                                                                                                                              ·
                                                                                                                                                              • To be much wiser about money and invest in property as soon as you can.
                                                                                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                                                                                • I would avoid hanging out with the wrong friends and having a baby at a young age. To me would have career in a state and make a lot of money by now if I had avoiding hanging out with the wrong friends and having a baby at a young age.
                                                                                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                                                                                  • Run away, far, far away and live! Was already working at that age, plus getting my younger brothers off to school before I raced to catch the last possible train to get me to work by 9am, as mum had already left for work, dad worked shift work so all the household stuff morn and eve was up to me. But would I have run really away?
                                                                                                                                                                    ·
                                                                                                                                                                    • Don't get married
                                                                                                                                                                      ·
                                                                                                                                                                      • Study and work hard and have a career.
                                                                                                                                                                        ·
                                                                                                                                                                        • do unto others, but do it first
                                                                                                                                                                          ·
                                                                                                                                                                          • carry on you're doing fine.
                                                                                                                                                                            ·
                                                                                                                                                                            • Being 15 again I would avoid people that give you their word when someone says trust me they are lying. I would embrace my physical shape I loved makeup and fitting into just about everything. I also would of saved more money for the future.
                                                                                                                                                                              ·
                                                                                                                                                                              • I'd tell them... You are IMPORTANT and You are ENOUGH!!
                                                                                                                                                                                ·
                                                                                                                                                                                • Forget/dismiss what others think of you or how you look to them as their opinion matters little in the greater scheme of things.
                                                                                                                                                                                  ·
                                                                                                                                                                                  • DON'T RUSH INTO BEEN A ADULT......
                                                                                                                                                                                    ·

                                                                                                                                                                                    No comments
                                                                                                                                                                                    AboutForumBlogPrivacyUser agreementContact UsBusiness Page