Life takes you in different directions; sometimes, you lose touch or drift away from some friendships. You can always look them up that is the one advantage or social media & if nothing comes of it, take it as a way the universe is telling you it had its time and move on :)

YES. FRENDS ARE OVERRATED

Yep. Too many complainers on here.Edited 21-Jan-24 00:25am

SORRY BUT IT IS PART OF LIFE PEOPLE MOVE ON

Yes you loose touch, life changes & an array of circumstances..!

Yes, sometimes life gets in the way.

yes

It is sad but true. I have had friends who at the time of your life they are important and then changes like the pandemic or retirement you go different ways. I think at this time people aren't as close as they used to be and friendships suffer.

Yes absolutely, when your values no longer align and your life circumstances move in vastly different directions. It doesn't lessen the value of the memories or friendship you once shared, it also does't mean that people remain in your life for every phase.

It can't always be helped.

They're not friends if you've lost touch

it depends on type of friendship you have

You know the saying some friends are for are reason or are season. Well the rest is history. Viviane

I gave up keeping in touch with "friends" years ago & guess what ? They've never made a effort to contact me either. It was always me that kept in touch with a phone call, Christmas card or I would drop by their house but when I stopped there was no contact from the other side.

Yeah of course. Things happen.

If they are really good friends - they will usually come back to you - even if there is no contact for a while. We have a lot of acquaintences in life too - not really true friends - and they are usually the ones that disappear. If you want to stay friends with someone - you have to BEHAVE like it - and make the effort to keep in touch - even if it is only occasionally.

I recently came into contact with a close friend of 25 years ago while on vacation. We just happen to bump into each other. The sad part was they were no longer the person I remembered. It kind of spoiled my happy memories that I had of him in our teenage years. We were like twins. I had always wondered what happen to him but it was as if he had forgotten me or couldn't care less.

It happens. It must be okay, because it happens to everyone. it has 2 sides to the story always remember. Just recently I was listening to a few hours of speaches about AI robots being introduced into society this year, and how it will end up making a big change to society when people will be capapble of making better friends with AI robots than humans. So for that reason try not to loose friends. Edited 21-Jan-24 07:16am

Absolutely - usually the feeling is mutual

Ok or not ok, it happens.

If we have a genuine intention to be friends with someone, they always stay with us, every moment in our lives! They share our happiness and sorrow, they are there when you need them! I believe good true friends stay in our hearts ❤️ forever!

If they are really good friends, they always come back to you. Memories of our past friendships still kept alive! We will be friends in our life time, and beyond! I believe in truly faithful friends, who expect the best of you, and they are there when you need them! We grow old together and never be apart!😊😍👍

i lost friends when my comp went out on me !

i found that i lost my friends when i retired from work.

I got no friends so I can't answer this

It can't always be helped .Reconnection can be tried .

a happy birthday or merry christmas these days is enough. people move around a lot and we are all soooooo busy it can be hard to keep in touch

Once a year with birthday wish or happy new year will be great : ))

I haven't been in touch with a few friends but we remain connected through fb.. or wechat etc.. gets awkward with age cos dont really know what to say sometimes..

If your connection is strong you will reconnect in the future

If you let it happen for too long you sometimes find life has taken them for good. Sometimes distance does make the heart grow fonder but don't forget to get in touch before it's too late!

No, it's not ok, but life happens. In the last 2 years I have had old friends contact me. I lost touch with them over 50 years ago. It was nice to catch up.

Some relatives are just as bad. One of mine moved and didn't bother to tell me her new address. Verbally - friends are more important than family

It is not always easy to keep in touch with old friends so I think it is a good thing to make new friends.

I find having moved from where I was loving and moved to the other end of the island it has been harder for me to make friends like I still have in my previous home town. I'm glad to have these friends of all generations it doesn't make it feel as though I am alone. I am glad that we are still able to contact each other and know and let them know we truly do think about them often. I always had the upbringing A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Sometimes we do not keep in touch with friends and it should be a two way friendship so both parties should remember to ring the other to keep the friendship going,

Depends on friends how good they are

yes specialy in the old days where you where moving and there was no or little internet

I don't think people care and a lot are very shallow. We lost a lot of so called friends when we lost our business and house to the banks. It was like we had the plague!!

Of course its OK to lose touch, people move from one are to another and sometimes to a different country. We did this and after a few years they, and we, forgot Birthdays, Christmas came and went, we all made new friends and our lifestyles changed. That's natural.

Our life takes us in different directions ,but thats ok

Yes it has happened to me, and I see others on FB who I know are friends in common. But no one messages me, I am spontaneous and will shoot off an email and just say hi. But I am slowly coming to the conclusion that many don't care.

As we grow older our ways change and sometimes old friends don't fit in. Most of my friends have either passed away or moved away so I find my family takes up most of time. I have three great grandchildren and another one due in June this year. One actually lives next door to me and I have so much fun with him that I didn't have with my own children as my days were spent washing nappies etc. So I am enjoying my times with family.

I think life changes are the reason most people lose contact with friends and I think that’s perfectly ok

Yes sadly we do life moves on n some of us move away that said I get tired of how some people think they know who n how you are because the chat on social media to each other from time to time ggggrrrr

It's O'kay to lose touch with friends. You usually find new friends at clubs and other organisations you get involved with. Just accept making new friends along the way in your life, if that's what you really want.

I was supposed to attend a 70 year reunion of my grade 1 class but financially couldn’t make it. A lot of those who did I haven’t seen since I left high school and started working. Oh well I look forward to the school celebration for 150 years and will make every effort to get there.

Of course it is. There are always opportunities to meet and make new friends. Usually at work, however you know who your true friends are because you don't 'lose' contact with them at all...simple really

Because people are busy and they have families, work, hobbies, etc. So what!

It happens sometimes you find your way back

friendships, like all relationships take work. Most ppl CBF to work at that. Friends are also overrated, many only suraface when they need u & are nowhere to be seen when u need them. I myself have no freinds...I cant be bothered dealing with all their crap. I'm quite happy with myself and my partner & my two kids and their family.

Sometimes it happens

Afraid so, since my girlfriend came into money she's ignored me.

we all drift apart and we all have different directions in life

I grew up in a small town and went to a small school, but I had lots of friends. In the last few months, I have had to go back to the town for funerals and special occasions. It is so so great to catch up with the old friends. Recently I had to go back for a special occasion and saw some really great friends and one lady I saw was a sister of one of my friends I went to school with. Later that afternoon my friend rang around some of my Aunties and eventually found where I was staying. We meet the next day and talked for over three hours. I left that friend and went to visit another on for lunch and again spoke for over three hours. It was wonderful to hear what they are now doing, swapping photos and stories was great. I now have their phone numbers and will keep in touch.

A lot depends on what you mean of as "friends?" Will they try and help if you're in trouble? Will they give/loan you money? Will they offer some helpful advice when you need it? Or will they just give you the time of day? What are your personal requirements for friendship? For me, it's someone I can count on completely, through thick and thin, regardless of what I need or ask for. They and I, must never take advantage of each other no matter the circumstance. If this describes your relationships with "friends" you have nothing to worry about if you lose touch. The internet is a marvellous thing for finding people sometimes and if you're thinking of or looking for them you can rest assured that they are thinking or looking for you.Edited 20-Jan-24 13:24pm

Just part of life , people make choices for themselves or families and anyone else becomes collateral damage. If the friendship is strong it will remain that way no matter if you have drifted apart.

It is called life and it happens to everyone as they grow up.

Not if they are true friends

Absolutely life changes and we have keep moving with it. Sometimes we are lucky and cross paths again

Some friendships stay and some go away.

I don't think you ever lose touch with true friends.You may not see them for a long time through distance or life changes. The people I have as friends I have known 30-40+ years. If I run into friends I haven't seen for a while, it's like we talked yesterday. Over the last couple of years I looked up a heap of old friends I hadn't seen for years and it was the same...we had some great chats. You also may have a knowledge that only a good old friend has. I sent some photo's to a friend I haven't seen since the 1980's. She had lost all of her photo's over the years. Her granddaughter was thrilled to find that Nana had exactly the same hair as her when she was young. LOL

I recently moved and found some old birthday, christmas cards etc and could not remember who most of those people were !!

People drift in and out of other people's lives all the time for numerous reasons ... it's just called "life". 🙂

I don't care if I lose touch my so-called friend over time is because they are too toxic to keep in touch anyway in which I like to be a loner anyway.

Sure it is but when you remember them then it’s not hard to make contact again these days

i got very sick 5 years ago and have not seen my so called freinds since not even a phone call

If they are close friends, then I say no. What if something terrible happened to them, you'd feel terrible for not knowing. They would feel the same if the situation was reversed.

I was always a loner as a child but my street was full to the brim with migrant families, like we were; best time ever! During school, I only had 2 close friends and nowadays I don't really have any.......'friends' tend to 'stab you in the back' anyway at one point or another so for that reason, I count no one as a friend and am generally suspicious of peoples' motives.

The road of life begins with our parents as friends. Each stone along the way is a paver that may be friend or foe, but it is a stone that makes way to the end of life. Be grateful for all the friends, drifted away or hung tight to... we are fortunate to have had that life happen. ;) Cheers!

no

True friends always stay connected . Friendship is like the stars you may not always see them but they are always there .With so much social media its a push of a button to stay connected. Friends come and go but family is forever.Edited 20-Jan-24 09:35am

We will have many friends in our lifetime. Most will come and go. I have one best friend, that even though we don’t talk a lot (she live on the other side of the country from me), we are still there for each other! We’ve been friends since we were 19. We’re now 67!

There are 'friends' and friends - a big difference.

Friendships go through changes, sometimes losing touch and regaining contact is a natrual path for that friendship. Sometimes people grow apart and that's fine too

Real friends keep in touch!

Yes, people enter into and out of our lives. As we grow and pursue new interests, we realize that one season ends and another begins. It is likely that those friends are going through life in the same way. People enter our lives for a reason and perhaps for a limited period of time but understanding why they were there and what they did for and what we did for them is more important.

Sure it's ok just make sure you regain touch at some point

Friends come and go. My long time friends do not have the same interests so I have found a group of friends the same hobbies

I have a close friend who lives in the north island (NZ) and I am at the bottom of the south island. we contact each other about four times a year and it is as if we had seen/spoken to each other just yesterday. We are always available when bad thins or good things happen. Usually people only have acquaintances not many true friends.

Yes it is ok because if they are true friends you will reconnect

Yes its okay.

I have lost touch with some of my friends but I would love to know how they are going I think it happens when you move away and they loose touch with you but I never stop thinking of themEdited 20-Jan-24 08:05am

Depending on the circumstances, I think it is OK. I have one friend that is more like a sister. I have other griends that I have lost touch with. Some are due to moving away, outgrowing interests that we had in common growing up.

No, it is not ok to lose contact with friends, true friends stick to each other no matter what. I have had friends who have passed away. they are still in my memory they are gone but not forgotten. I have a couple of friends that have gone Over to Australia to live but we keep in touch. I have one close friend living near me we are more like sisters. I have another friend, but we are not close

2 way street when you think about it... but a good friend is someone you can catch up with whenever you are able and there are no hard feelings or questions as to why you haven't been in touch.

It's fine. I think people get busy with family, careers, travel, life events. If you are missing someone though, let them know & see if they want to catch up & if you get mucked around, they're prob not meant to be back in your life & remember the good times you had.

you never lose touch with friends, you only lose touch with acquaintances,,

I make it a priority to keep in touch with family and friends. Every 3 months I ring and touch base.

This is normal and it is amazing how good it is when you do catch up. I lost contact with a great friend for over 16 years but when we met up it was as if we had just seen each other yesterday.

I have one friend who I still keep in contact with. It will be 75 years the day school starts this year.

probably not

Not if you can help it. Most of my good friends I have lost contact with is because they have passed on

It is okay to loose touch when a friend does the wrong the thing by you. It's so important to stay in touch with family as you would like to think they will be there no matter what. It's a personal preference. Edited 20-Jan-24 06:21am

Live happens in stages. For instance, we have friends in elementary school for perhaps six years. Then we go to middle school or high school or perhaps move, and those friends are no longer around. When we mature, we can outgrow our friends. We no longer have things in common with them. They have new friends, and you have new friends. It's part of life. I have had friends for years, then a divorce happens or someone moves, and it all changes. You enter a different stage of your life. As I look back, I've lost touch with friends and have some regrets about it. However, there were reasons it happened, and they can contact me, if they want, as easily as I possibly could contact them. However, we usually don't after a period of time. No too long ago, I found a good friend from high school, and she writes me sometimes twice a week. Her letters mean so much, and we have so much to catch up on. We plan to meet when the weather improves. She's probably about an hour away so it's a great possibility to meet. We are still good friends but have probably lose to 50 years to catch up on. A lot has happened, and she even was one of the first women to join the military which makes me very proud of her! Life has changed for her. Her husband has dementia so it's difficult for her to leave him alone. This situation is not the norm, but I'm so happy to be in touch with her, and it shows me that she was a much better friend at the time than I realized! Life is full of surprises, and the one word to describe life is "change." We are constantly changing, our situations change, and friends come and go. It's how life is for everyone. Just have no regrets and cherish every friend you have at the moment!

A reason, A season, A lifetime.....great quoteEdited 20-Jan-24 05:52am

It is normal. Move on and live your life.

It is normal sometimes, but when we get back together, we regret the time apart.

It is normal. The real ones will never really leave though

In reality no it's not ok, but we all tend to do this over time without meaning to. I have done this, over time when you get older, you start to wonder why did I do this? Many times can be from laziness & you give up trying to reach someone. I went through a period of it's me, me & me trying to make contact. I get sick of this. A street goes two ways, so does life. What is wrong from the other end to contact you as well. This was one of my reasons not to make contact as I get sick & tire being me always doing my best. Either you put up with it or you have no-one. As time goes by, everyone disappears eventually & that is when you feel sorry. Many people get older, move on or pass away & then you question what have you done over time. To late to change the pass, but never to late to change your future. Hurts like hell, but keep trying.