I can put up with about anything except a liar and a thief.

People lie for themselves, if it's to make themselves look good, or keep themselves protected. or for being seen as who they really are. I just wish people would stop, it would save everyone a lot of time, heartache, and making others feel crazy. What a world this would be if everyone knew how to just be honest. Now that's a world I would love to see. We should all test ourselves for the day and try to go all day without saying one lie.

What gives us brains can also gives us bad behavioral traits.

Learned behavior may be behind a large part of this lying that humans do.

I don't know. If I had even thought about lying as a kid I would feel so bad that I couldn't do it. I get why someone would if their family member or something was in serious trouble or like a life and death situation, but just doing it for no reason other than the sake of lying makes no sense to me. I even have known a few of those pathological liars and I wonder how or if they even know when they are telling the truth. Truth can hurt sometimes, but in most cases it is just better to say the truth and deal with whatever outcome that may be. Lying to make yourself seem or look better is just ridiculous in my eyes. We are who we are and people will either like us or not. I wouldn't want someone liking me for all the things I never actually did. I would feel like they didn't like me for me and wonder if they would even like the real me. Sorry for the long aspect of this, but I have been wondering this same question myself. I have had a couple people lie to me lately and I just wonder why they didn't speak the truth or just say nothing period.

Is honesty so difficult?

No idea

I really do not know why people cannot be truthful. Its difficult to fathom it out

It is in the nature of things.

Lie to get out of something they don't want to do.... probably best to just say NO... because it's the truth! Some people find it hard to say no tho

lazy buggers thats why

Many times people will lie to keep from doing the job they are being paid to do, this one really upset me too.

One lie that upsets me the most is when a Dad or Mom says they will visit their child, and never show up. This happened with my Son years ago and now is happening with my Sons Granddaughter who is only 3 years old.

People lie for different reasons, but always to mislead and avoid the truth. The serviceman might have gotten busy or simply can't be bothered, as for your friend obviously they can't be trusted so are they really your friend.

Because some people are just plain EVIL. Sometimes their lies harm totally innocent people. And they will pay one day for this at the end of our lives, of this I am just so sure.

To much to do have to react to

With the service department - it is probably his way of fobbing you off. As far as the "friend" goes - I personally would not call that person a friend. Sometimes friends can not be truthful because they don't want to hurt our feelings. Still it is NOT ACCEPTABLE by me. There is always a way around things. As far as I am concerned I am only interested in HONESTY - and all my friends and family are well aware of it. Therefore a lot of people do try and avoid me. HAHAHA As far as your friend goes - I would give her one chance to explain - after making her aware that you know she lied to you about something. Then decide if you are interested in having her as a friend. BUT be warned - a lot of people will try covering up a lie with another lie - and so it goes on. Best wishes to you and Merry Christmas. Edited 23-Dec-22 20:22pm

Coz they don’t feel good about themselves

Because you said 'found' instead of 'find'. Friend naughty.

When you are dealing with someone who has a severe mental illness, personality disorder, and/or brain damage sometimes it is necessary to withhold truths or information from them that may otherwise result in people close to them getting hurt in some way.Edited 23-Dec-22 18:59pm

Truth & lies are life.

When people tell one lie they just keep going. One lie leads to another lie and it just keeps going.

Lie to make it easier for themselves - They can not be bothered with the issues that will come if they told the truth - Same when you call a help line IT - First thing will be restart your computer and call me back - You don't get that person and their stats look good - Being honest is HARD worker - Easier to lie (white lies ?????)

the truth is too hard for some and honesty is not in their personal dictionary .When you deal with customer service the usual reply is we will get back to you as soon as possilbe there is no time lock in as answers take time and not all contacts are a available or non contactable . When a friend lies its personal gain or cover up and you can tell

Self preservation

To appease

To cover up the Truth that may hurt

The problem with some people is that they cant tell the difference between what is true and false. Those are the people who annoy me the most. They don't bother to investigate a rumour or a untruth. They are really silly and immature. The old saying;. Dont believe everything you hear; Most people are stupid as they do tend to believe what they hear. It goes back to people's upbringing where they aren't taught to think for themselves. And anyone who says they never lie is a big liar!Edited 23-Dec-22 16:15pm

cowards .. selfish .. self centered

Still trying to figure that out myself. Why are so many amazing men including those I know being accused by woman of crimes they didn't commit, hasn't always ended well and has the potential to ruin the rest of their life. Yes definitely lying for those who doubt, the lucky ones could prove it with a text, video, witnesses but come on ladies why do you keep doing this.... Attention, insanity!!! Please remember you hurt the woman around these men too including myself. For those who have legitimately been hurt by someone (men or woman), this isn't about that and remember those lying woman are disrespecting your truth too.

I think people lie for many different reasons and sometimes it's to spare your feelings. People don't always ring back when they say they will but that could also be for various reasons - they got too busy, had the wrong phone number or they just plain forgot.

I would surmise that you need to be able to distinguish between a lie and other circumstances. There could be a dozen reasons why you didn't get a return call. Quite possibly they were all legitimate. I would certainly take a "friends" suggestion with a grain of salt. Now, on the other hand, if you were a left leaning politician I think they would do a lot better and if they were right wingers they couldn't help themselves. Don't forget, people may just not want to hurt your feelings. They don't want to be the ones that caught somebody doing something they shouldn't with someone from the office. ;)Edited 23-Dec-22 15:32pm

Just a way to put you on hold.

No comment

They teach to lie convincingly before they enter politics

Company workers lie, because they are lazy and don't care. Other people lie; because they are insecure and are really lying to themselves.

They lie because they can. How do no when a politician is lying, his mouth is moving

People seem to rarely call you back these days. If they can't text, you're just screwed! No one has any social skills anymore. I've been waiting for weeks to find out about a medical bill. People just don't doe their jobs because they're just there for the money, and friends, well, who knows. Sometimes there is a reason that she doesn't want to share. I was raised to tell the truth, but as I've gotten older, I had to admit that I do lie just not maliciously. I have a sense of humor that makes me stretch the truth and add things that didn't really happen. People that know me, know this, but some people with no sense of humor believe the crazy stuff that I tell them! They have to be pretty dumb to think I really did some of the things I say I've done. I'm just crazy old me, and I like me this way and so do my many friends!

Dianne your statements is confusing to me. I may not have been a lie sometimes things happen and a promise cannot be kept. please re write you complaint and question.

Delayed Response

Lack of respect for the other person.

Easier to tell the truth, you never have to remember what the lie was. Although some lies are classified as "white lies" to soften the blow or cause least offence. At the end of the day a lie is a lie.

some people get paid very well to lie,, lawyers come to mind here,, but everybody lies at some time or other, anybody that denies that,, well you get my point, it is part of human nature, some folks say, well it was just a little white lie, that is like saying,, it was just a small knife i used to kill him your honor,, i rest my case ;-))

My pet hate,although I have to admit I have a few times. For me I did it out of fear.

Liars have to have good memories, otherwise they'll get caught out

It depends on the situation

sometimes it makes them better by lying and other times to possibly make you feel better!

He proable got busy forgot call back actually not lie he's proable busy dealing with others.

Nothing worse when somebody says they will call at a certain time and you wait around for the call, like I have nothing better to do waiting.Edited 23-Dec-22 12:28pm

Define lie. What you claim as a lie can be someone else's honest attempt to do the right thing by you and their work stops them in this case returning the call or whatever it was that they where tracking down gets lost in the system. The persona t AU Post who says it's on the line now and the letter falls off the belt and gets missed for several days hasn't lied to you they have told you what they know of as the truth. Following the tracking number of a parcel can say it is in transit and it gets delivered 2 hours latter again not a lie just the Technology has failed because it didn't get scanned somewhere or the system was overloaded and crashed again not a lie just Crap Happens. As for your fiend that all depends on what they said they could have said something they believed was true like some people are waiting in car parks and stealing your car and everything you have in your arms when you get back to the car or one of the many hoaxes about Fraud that is currently circulating. What you have to remember is people can only tell you what they know or in most cases have been told is right and when that turns out not to be correct they have not told you a lie just what they have been told as truthful. I remember a case many years ago where one of the guys where I was working a tthe time arranged to find out about something for a customer had to go out to do something and got hit by a drunk driver and ended up in hospital for weeks in a coma. When the person he was supposed to ring back eventually rang up off the planet it was no excuse that they guy had nearly died he should have rung her back to tell her that he was in hospital in a coma some people are that unreasonable.

An office can get very hectic at times and he might not have had a chance to call you back, or it might have slipped his mind because he was so busy. Did he apologize? If its the first time, give him a chance.

Maybe he has not been able to find out what it was you wanted to know so though he said he would call you back he did not Intentionally lie. How did you find out what your friend had told you was incorrect? Can you really say she deliberately lied to you, or did she simply pass on incorrect information she had been given or which had been reported by the media?Did you speak with your friend and tell her that what she had said was incorrect? If not, why not?

They lie to cover up their stupidity, incompetent, none social behaviour and the problem is they get away with it. No one questions them about lying. We were once told if you have nothing nice to say then don't say any thing at all but the silence will kill you and you'd never hear any one talk again if we all put that old saying into reality. The truth hurts and some people can't handle the truth as simple as that. Some people also don't care about any thing and a lie is just some thing to make life more interesting.

The lie sounds better than the truth, wants to hide the truth because in some cases it can be shocking etc. It's frustrating when people lie but thinking about the reasons is just going to cause you stress.

because they dont have the guts to tell the truth

People lie for any number of reasons. It can be due to low self esteem and they do it to make themselves look or sound better, or because they have done something wrong and wish to cover it up. Or, in the case of consultants over the phone or in other service departments, they say they will call back later because they just don't want to deal with you or be upfront about what they don't know.

I took a pretty girl home once. Well at least she said she was a girl. That turned out to be a lie. Bugger. The worst part was that she was better hung than me.

They are afraid of their own ability to be truthful. It is easier (so they think) to give a throw away remark than to actually tell it how it is. Sometimes it is in shame knowing that previously they have lied and continue the charade by adding more lies as alibi.

No idea

some people can not help but lie - they will get caught out eventually

People sometimes lie to Disguise who they really are. OR Controll pretending to know better then you .Or not know the answer to your query at all. People also lie out of fear. These are just some of the reasons. V

I lie because i get tired standing up all the time...

Sine lie cause it’s entertaining

people lie to get out of trouble and they realy don,t no it,s a lie i told my grand kids never lie cause one day it will come back and bite you on the bum then you have to remember who you told the lie to and it,s gets bigger all the time

People lie for a number of reasons eg to make themselves feel better/more important, for "one upmanship", gossip etc. In your case the man may not have been lying i.e. other duties could've taken precedence. However that being the case he should've made it clear from the start that he would try to get back to you but couldn't guarantee it. I know how frustrating it can be however when this happens as it does make us feel less important/valued

The man who said he would ring you back probably was unable, at that time, to find out the answer to your problem or he just got so busy he forgot. He was not lying. Maybe your friend thought that what she told you was true, why not ask her? The problem for habitual liars is that they cannot remember what the lie was they actually told you, eventually they always get caught out. Sometimes people lie with the best of intentions. They don't want to cause you unnecessary worry, they don't want to hurt your feelings. "Is my bum too big in this?" Most people will tell you "Of course not" even if it does!

I guess its ok but you need to have a good memory to remember the fibs you have told.

A little known fact is that if someone says he or she is lying, and they’re telling the truth, they’re lying and telling the truth at the same time!

some lie to not hurt you, some are lying to themselves so therefore lying to you. and bussniss just lie to you in hope you go away.

People lie to make things easier for themselves or to make them look good. It is frustrating when someone promises something and then they don't fulfil their promise. What can you do?

Sometimes it is for selfish reasons! Other times, folks may simply forget. I always err on the side and f caution but if/when it happens again, my tolerance is lowered substantially!

Welcome to government agency they are not helpful at all when you ask them somethings. You say one they say something else or not help at all. What the point paying tax money for somethings like this if they can't or will not help at all.

Man from department didn't really lie to you who knows what came up or he just forget. But why do people lie it's very good question. I came across few different liars in my life. Some are insecure, some are as a matter of fact dishonest people, some just wouldn't simply admit what they have done or are feeling ashamed. Who knows but i think this is something what is gonna continue with human rase. Try select those people and get them out of your life.

Sometime I feel people lie to get intension from people or they know they have done something wrong and lie to get out of it.

I WOULD RATHER BE TOLD THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT HURTS YOU I HAVE BEEN KNOW TO TELL THE TRUTH THAT HURTS SOME PEOPLE BUT I WOULD RATHER THAT THAN A LIE IF THEY CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH THATS THERE PROBLEM NOT MINEEdited 23-Dec-22 10:08am

Because it's more fun than telling the truth.

Just want the money not the work details and since we deal more online than in person easier to get away with it

its his buzz

Money and sex.

To try and impress people

Because some people don't want to believe the truth and they start gruelling you into trying to make you change your mind ... I just say to them "believe what you want, why bother asking" and walk away. Oh, they don't like that at all. Hope they give themselves a hernia trying to turn that into a lie about me or anyone else they treat in that manner.

i'ev found that there are many reasons, some good and some bad, toolazy, too busy. don't want to upset you, don't care, don't want to hurt you and don't give a shit. That 'list' soesn't even scratch the surface, But basically people lie because they can. What you've experienced should not be interpretted as an individual employee lying to you but rather someone stuck in a demanding position trying to do their best where an employer is NOT ensuring that there are adequate human resources to get the job done. Get used to it after all 'Your call is important to us, please wait while you are transferred to the first available operator.'

lying is a sin part of the 10 commandments.

Service seems to be a thing of the past. I no longer expect it from any where, but is nice on the occasion it happens. Not sure why some feel the need to lie-guess it's different strokes for different folks

I remember my mother asking me to do something which may have repercussions if I went ahead with her wishes. So I let her know I will do as she wishes but did the opposite. Months later my mother paced the floor with regards to her decision. I asked her, are you regretting the decision, and she said yes and I let her know I did not go through with it and she hugged me. It was a card of a monkey that she wanted to send to my father. As we had not seen him for years due to his behaviour I was concerned so I pretended to take the card and post it at work, but instead I ripped it up and threw it in the bin. She lived happier ever after

when your wife asks does this dress make my butt look big should we tell the truth or lie, what do you say to a workmate who hasn't showered for a week do you say something or embarrass them, when you get a gift you hate do you say I love it, do you tell your workmates the boss is making lots of mistakes, do you point out the errors of your workmates, do you tell your wife one of her friends is gorgeous or beautiful when you have one friend complain about another friend do you speak up or keep them apart, lying is a way of life there are good and bad lies, we all do it in some form, all up honesty is the best policy sure enough but I have gotten into more trouble telling the truth,i just try and be the best person I can be, one more, if you pay for something with a 50 and you, get change for 100 because the attendant isn't thinking do you speak up or run, I think that's as dishonest as a lie but what would you do, to me these are a form of lyingEdited 23-Dec-22 06:20am

to cover something up or they feelinsecure

A friend once told me one story and her husband another. I listen but say nothing. Truth always comes out eventually so it is better not to lie.

As for the service department, it may not necessarily have been a lie: they may have been inundated with work and didn't have time to get back to you or have someone get back to you. As for your "friend", if they consider themselves your "friend", then why the need to lie?

ASK TRUMP I AM SURE HE CAN COME UP WITH HIS MILLIONTH LIE

To save from being scolded.

I think the reason why people lie is because they don't want to the truth especially if the truth would hurt people feelings.

There are a few degrees of lies, some justifiable, some reasonable and some understandable. What you don't know can't hurt you.

People lie to protect themselves or others. People may not mean to lie. At the time they might mean what they say and then they change their mind.

I think a lot of the time, people lie because they're scared of how you might react to what they say or they don't want to hurt you, others lie to make themselves look good/better than others

To qualify themselves, but also,..."INSECURITY" within themselves.

Lies are necessary to maintain a sense of social harmony. Some lies are non consequential. Some have a big impact. But wether you make them or get them, lying is a necessary human foible. The last thing you want to do is get upset over lies. In fact, if you view them pragmatically, lies can tell you more than the truth.

The man at the service department probably just clean forgot to call you back. He probably had other things on his mind, or he had a very busy day with many telephone calls. He could have even got sick or only works part time at his job. I'm guessing that his memory totally forget, to get back to you Dianne. I don't think the man was lying. He totally forgot to ring you back. This is quite common in my opinion. Give the man the benefit of the doubt. If you are lucky, you might get a call later in the week as he may need to research the information that you requested. Try not to assume or judge the situation. It is a poor service if the company doesn't get back to you, on the matter of your concern. Ring again and ask the same question. Don't give up on the one call. Ring another company, if possible.

We lie (including me) - it is in our DNA (LOL) - about everything - on an economic level, international level, political level, religious level, social level, etc. You name it and we still lie (aka history repeats itself) - on a personal level and societal level! So much for homo sapiens - not lying and we have been on this planet for over 200,000 years. Unfortunately, we have not evolved and be able to state the TRUTH on any subject matter (LOL)!Edited 23-Dec-22 12:32pm

Sometimes the truth hurts so we lie. We lie to make people happy and we can lie to make them sad. Not all lies are bad and yes some are very bad but we are not the best at lying. The best liars in the world are politicians