So sorry.

I lost both my father and my older brother to cancer in a very short period of time most recently. The loss was and still is the most devastating and painful thing I have ever experienced. My oldest brother passed away 25 years ago from a heart attack. Then my older sister passed in 2016 due to negligence while in surgery. And New Year's Eve 2023 my young nephew passed while showering for work from an aneurysm. So many of my family are gone. I prayed...my prayers went unanswered and now yet again, I lost someone else to whom I loved dearly. Ppl say that time heals... I do not agree. It's as though each day is as painful as the day it happened.

I think you are right to pray you have to speak positive thoughts maybe listen to Joel Osteen he has good stuff

Get a book called The Power of Now it help me get through the sudden death of my mother and to learn to live in the Now .If you are able to retrain your thoughts the feelings will change .Its not a quick fix but it can be a start. Take each day as it comes write your thoughts on paper so you can off load and give your self peace and to make space for the positive thoughts. Reach out through your GP for help. Edited 15-Mar-25 08:00am

Sorry about what you are going through. I lost my dad to cancer in Nov 2024, my Nana from cancer 32 years ago, my father in law from cancer, my mother in law also cancer, & sister in law cancer. The pain never goes away, it just gets easier to handle with each passing day. I also questioned God as to why all these kind caring people had to leave us & often wondered if He was punishing me. Keep their memories alive & keep them in your heart & they will never be too far away. You have great guardian angels watching over you. I hope that that things turn around for you & that you are able to enjoy life again real soon. Yes, you should have shared this & I am glad you did. Thank you. Keep the faith. I am struggling with a situation with my youngest son & I have no one to talk to about it. So glad that you put it out there & you have all of us pulling for you. Keep your head up, you have got this!!

I sympathize with you and understand your frustration. I lost my mother and sister a month apart, when I was 3, then later lost my father and aunty to cancer, a few months apart. My father was the toughest loss. Losing so many or someone so close to you can take a toll on you to the point where you start to lose yourself in your grief and you find yourself oblivious to those loved ones who are still in your life and need you to be available for them. But your grief becomes so consuming that nothing else in your life seems to matter because all you can feel is the overwhelming need to feel their presence or at least have them give you some kind of sign to help you understand how to overcome what you're going through. Something to help you move on and let go of the grief that's been crippling you to your core. I hope that you find some way or get that one thing that can help you to understand/get past everything you're feeling. I was lucky enough to have my father come to me/appear in what I would say was in a dream as I slept. In the dream, my father was sitting at my bed watching me sleep and a very soothing melody was playing as he sat there with a smile on his face. After I woke up from that dream the next morning, all that grief and heartache of needing to feel my fathers presence just one more time was finally free to go with him and I was able to let him go along with my grief. I was able to be a better mother for my kids. I wish you the best of days to come and hope you find peace with better times ahead, moving forward because holding on to the past was holding me back from living for those who were still here with me. God bless you and take care.

Make a priority list of goals and chose one or two that are the most important to you and dedicate 10 minutes each day to improving your knowledge on those goals or making small adjustments to achieve them. We have to make changes to see improvement and a small amount of time dedicated each day is much better than no time used for an entire year. Don't expect everything to go right. It doesn't sound nice but in reality that's usually the case. It's more useful to prepare for the worst than to hope for the best. Finally, dedicate time to yourself doing the things you love. Don't be too hard on yourself as you have gone through a lot. Reflect on loved ones and allow yourself to grieve when you need to. Being able to feel is a blessing, even if it's a negative emotion. It's one of the great gifts of life after all and these are the things that enrich our lives and shape us into who we are.Edited 12-Mar-25 15:34pm

In order to grow old you have to be very brave. Only the good die young. I wouldn't presume to quote bible tracts at you.

it is the problem of growing old, people die, and the older you get, there are more, just be thankful for what you have and just put one foot in front of the other and move on, you can't change the past....

The lives of the deceased continue in the minds of the living. Cicero... I think. We miss our loved ones when they're gone.

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Sorry you had to deal with lost. It is not easy. I keep praying for the Lord's help to get me through and to heal my broken heart. Death is a part of life.Keep praying and I am sure your dad would want you to go on with your life.

Sorry to hear you have experienced such loss but view it in perspective that everybody will experience loss in their lifetime. It is how we choose to handle it is what sets us apart. You are probably a lot stronger than you think you are.

Yes life is unpredictable.

Isaiah 22:22

believe that God will look after you

I do understand ..... Somehow we just have to try and be positive - reading and gardening both help me and I try to mix as much as I can with positive people. I find very negative people can really drag you down. I also find meeting people in person helps me - too much social media contact can really be depressing........ I am glad you shared it. Best wishes to you.

Life is nothing and isn't valuable if their wasn't death so value the time you have with the people you have instead of dwelling on the past. Smile happiness is a choice.my mom always told me the pain you feel in your heart isn't sadness it's cuz it's full of their love for us for we take them w us. Edited 11-Mar-25 20:35pm

I am sorry you are going through this. I think nearly everyone does at some stage as death is a part of life . I lost my Dad to cancer when I was 17 and my Mum to cancer when I was 21. He was 54 and she was 48. It does seem that the good die young. I found that it always helped to talk about it and if you are able to mention it to your doctor they will point you in the right direction.

We can’t do anything about the things life throws at us. We can only appreciate the people around us and make each day count.

Hi Sherry: I just read your message & I am sorry you are going through such a rough time. We can't always understand why things have gone sideways, so to speak. I just know for myself that I have to keep in mind that life has no guarantees. I am thankful that I don't live in a war torn area, I have enough money to put food on the table etc. I have lost loved ones as well & I have to ask God "why" & He tells me I will know why but not yet. Please find someone you trust, that you can share your innermost feelings & pray that God will give you the strength to take the next step & find sunshine in the days ahead. Hugs to you.

We will understand God's plan for each of us in due time. That time isn't now. You need to rely on your faith in God and realize he's not the bad guy. On the contrary. God knows and loves us and will have us understand everything in due time. This life is a testing ground for us to grow and learn and to learn to control our bodies and souls. You aren't the only one who has lost loved ones, young and old. We'll understand when the time is right. We aren't God. We don't decide. It hurts and God will make it right when the time comes and is His decision. Kudos for sharing heartbreaking experiences. We all have them.

I ask my mum this happened me being sick . My mum say yes you better sick them me. I question this all why I live? But in the end God knows when my time up no one else

Writing this down and asking is a huge step and well done for being brave enough to take it. I'm so sorry for your losses. It seems to me you have unresolved grief there and perhaps a counsellor might help? Or talk to your doctor? You may be suffering depression and it is really hard to climb out of that hole without help. I have had so many bad and difficult things happen too, but dwelling on the past makes it worse. I suffer PTSD from childhood, was in a domestic violence situation, went into hiding, became homeless for a while and have untreatable and painful health issues. I lost a brother to cancer before Christmas. Sometimes all this gets me down, but I always have plans to work towards, big and small. I've often wondered "why me?" as well. Helping others is a good way of getting yourself out of your head and help you heal. I hope you can find a way out of feeling this way. Remember that those who seem to have happiness might be putting on a brave face. Those who look to have everything often owe all of it. You deserve happiness in your life.

While it's sad that you have lost your father and brother it doesn't help to look at other people and feel they have a better life than you have. Many people seem to be better looking, healthier, richer, but are they really? You can't change your life but you can change your outlook and instead of saying "why me" I always ask "why not me". I have a firm belief in God and he never loads us with anything we can't bear. There is always a reason for everything, and while we may not be able to see it now it doesn't mean it's not there. If you learnt anything from your brother's suicide why not think about helping others by perhaps counselling or volunteering for the help line. There is a reason you are here, but it's up to you to decide what that is.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this! Loss is indeed difficult. All I can tell you is that there is always light at the end of the tunnel but when you are inside the tunnel, you cannot see it and you're in an extremely long tunnel. Praying for you that you will come out of the tunnel soon and find peace and joy in your life.

we all have something unexpected in our lives whether big or small. I lost my husband suddenly 6 years ago, something I cannot comprehend, no matter how much I think about it, Who would ever endure the pain of losing my husband young, Healthy full of life, never smoked/touched alcohol was very fit worked out in the Gym very active..It all happened on friday night at the family table we were sharing stories and laughing. went to bed the next thing saturday morning I got up made coffee went to wake my husband up no response, he was deceased. All I know I am a broken woman I miss the love of my life so much the pain is a difficult one to explain.

I am so sorry for everything you've been through. I don't know why God takes away people we love, but I know that He loves you so so much and He has good plans for you. If you put your trust in Him, He will help you through and you will see better times. I promise. Jesus loves you so much, I'll be praying for you ❤️❤️🙏🏻Edited 11-Mar-25 17:19pm

We all face lost. The only thing I can say is chin up there are still people who love you

That is a lot to take, but don't let it rule you. we have all suffered terrible losses , I know that better than most, this is a decaying world and where your loved ones are is infinitely better

Get some positive counselling don't dwell on things - everybody as you can see from these letters has problems of some kind but don't' get down be positive.

It’s very hard I know but I’m sure your loved ones would want you to live your life is a way that they would have done. X

Life has certainly been loaded with sorrow for you Sherry. Like you I lost first my Dad, then two of my siblings, I lost Mum from diabetes which just leaves me as eldest and my "little" brother who is thirteen years younger than me. I do hope you can turn outwards and find friends who can help with the loneliness of family lost. Would it lessen the pain if you helped others who like you have had their family torn from them, there is a saying that a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved. God Bless my dear.

BTW, I have Congestive Heart Failure, COPD, Chronic Kidney Disease, had my Aortic valve replaced, Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia, type 2 diabetes, and compressed discs and Arthritis in my back. I’m 76 years old.

The longer you live the more likely you will lose someone you love. God might need them more than we do.

I lost my brother in 2020 and just lost my mom to cancer 09/09/24. They say the harder the grief means the harder we loved. This is very true. I absolutely can’t get over her passing. I just get up everyday and try to keep myself busy. This too shall pass. Keep the faith my friend.

Hi Sherry, it truly sucks the hands that some people are dealt. I remember being told, you are never given anymore than you can cope with. This, I believe means we are both tough people. You can choose to change the way your life goes from here on out. It's just a matter of deciding what it is that you're looking for or would like. Then, reach out and get the help you need to make your vision a reality. It is terrible when we loose people we love. I'm attending my favourite Uncles funeral this Friday. You've got this. Your loved ones would want you to be happy and continue living your life. Please reach out to someone. Your GP is often a good start.

All we can do is remember the Serenity Prayer. O God and Heavenly Father, Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other, through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen. Since August, 2023, I have lost my Sister in Law’s husband, and her Son, my younger sister’s first husband and her second husband. SiL’s husband was to Long Covid, her Son to a drug overdose, my sister’s first husband went into the hospital for a routine proceedure, ended up spending 6 months in the hospital due to complications, and her second husband to a combination of Covid, then after he recovered, was helping a neighbor trim a branch on a tree and fell, breaking his hip, then Covid again, leading to constant degrading conditions, falling, and eventual dying in bed. I have heard that God will never give you more than you can handle! So it is up to each of us to make the decision whether to put it into God’s hands as to whether we succumb to ride it out. I truly hope you can deal with it in a positive manner. God Bless and Watch over You in this Life!

Sherry, please, do not loose your hope. Keep praying and something good happen in your life. God does abandoned you. Something good happen to you. Just keep your faith.

Sherry, talking about your pain will help you heal. Our God will soon make His move on Satan, the Devil, through His Son, Jesus Christ, the 144,000 and an army of angels, and they will remove everything wicked from our earth! Don't give up your faith in God! Please read Revelation chapters 12 and 20, and Psalm chapter 37 in any Bible, or go to jw.org online to search for answers to any questions you may have! May Jehovah God bless you! ;-D

Oh Sherry… you can totally change your life moving forward. Reach out for support my lovely, and have trust in yourself. And know that one day, something really good WILL happen, and that will create a mind shift. It’s all within you. You’ve got this. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please don’t let the cancer your loved ones suffered take power over your life. Take your power back! Use the inner strength you have within you, positive thinking, manifesting, prayers or affirmations, and you can totally get your life back on track. There is a light ahead and a way out of the dead end street and (without sounding airy-fairy) it starts with you giving yourself love, self-care, kind words and think positive thoughts. Please stay in touch through this forum and I wish you all the happiness you deserve 💕

I lost my precious husband to cancer in 2019. He was only 56 years old. We had planned to grow old together but didn't have that opportunity. Six months after he passed, my father also passed away. My mother could not live alone due to health issues so I became a caregiver a second time withing that year. In May of 2020, just one year after my husband passed, she got covid and died from it. At that point, I moved to the beach to be closer to family. It was quite and adjustment learning to be alone. I have to keep telling myself that they all would want me to carry on with my life and live a happy life. I find it especially difficult during the winter months when it's too cold to go to the beach so I try to keep myself busy cleaning things out and going out with friends. I have also started traveling more, which gives me something to look forward to. I am also about to start volunteering for charities in hopes of meeting some new friends. Hang in there and know that there are others who walk in your shoes but most of all, think of what your dad and brother would want you to be doing at this stage of your life. Take advantage of every opportunity and live life to the fullest.💙

Both my sister's died of cancer. Mum died with heart problems and dad died with a stroke. But life goes on. Now I have two great grand daughters and life couldn't be sweeter. We are all born to die so make the best of what you have now.

It's so hard to face life when the ones you love are gone. My mum also died from cancer and my older brother died suddenly from a cardiac arrest. I miss them terribly but the pain dulled a bit over time. Maybe you should consider joining a group even if it's online for people with similar experiences. It might help to make you feel less alone.

Sometimes I just find it so so hard to believe how good looking I am, my great physique and my high intellectual capability. Still I guess I am The Chosen one.

I understand your pain and emptiness I lost my sister due to cancer in 2023 and pain cut so deep. My family watch her stuffer from the cancer could her help her only be there for her and pray for her. She left behind a 14 yr old daughter and Son 26. To be there for them. I say to you stay pray up. Mighty God Is there for you

You must be going through a very difficult time, and I hope you found some peace and comfort from here. I see life is a journey with learning experiences. The journey can be joyful with some people and rough with others. This is probably a chapter of grievance and condolences you are going through, which is always hard. And it’s hard because these are people you found joy with, the fond memories and the love you shared… all made the separation harder. But it’s not unexpected, it’s a destination we are all heading towards. Since we are still alive and on the learning journey, we need to better ourselves after the grievances. We need to recognise the loss and cherish the time that others don’t get to experience. What we need to do is to realise the footprints others left with us, and make sure we have the same for others. Only love is real ❣️

Sorry you are facing such hard times and we can't predict what will happen or when it will happen. I take life as it comes. I learnt not to worry about the things I can't control and take goods things as well as bad things in my stride, help others if I can and always remember there is always some one worse off than your self. Sherry don't take your life for granted it is some thing to cherish and be thankful for. We all lose loved ones that is life, it's how we chose to deal with the trauma and upset that makes us who we are today. Remember you're not alone and I think maybe finding a support group near you so you can talk about your feelings with out judgement could help you. There is always hope and help if one needs.

Bad things happen to good people. There is no reason why so I don't waste my energy on things I have no control of or can change.As we age it is inevitable that we will loose people we love and care about. It hurts ,really hurts and it's easy to fall into depression .Where am I coming from? My husband died suddenly and unexpected 18 months ago and my daughter lost her first child, full term after a long labour just after birth.I have family and friends who support me and I am lucky to have them.Life is for the living.

I totally understand and feel for you Sherrry. Hang in there you never know what may happen.xx

I am so sorry for the loss of your loved ones. I can honestly say that I can hear what your saying. I too have lost the majority of my family,was the eldest one left by 35years of age. I want to say that the grief and hopelessness you are experiencing will go away. But I can't. It softens. It's taken most of my life to come to terms with mine. If I may offer some advice ,try to find moments of happiness,small things. I found choosing my happiest memories of what I did with the ones I lost and doing that helped me. Because in my heart I new they wouldn't want me to just exist,they would want me to live,and somehow find those moments of happiness again in your life. God bless you Sherry,you are in my thoughts.

need to be positive in any situation

Try to be positive about the good things in your life, if you dwell too much on the negativity you will become depressed if you are not already.

I think most of us would like to change or alter things we have been through. No good dwelling on the awful stuff although it must be difficult loosing a child, a brother or a sister. Try to be around positive, supportive friends and family and keep praying.

Good is probably all around you but you are focusing on the sadness you feel. We need to understand that we are born to die from the moment of birth. The first death is always the hardest after that the next one is not necessarily easier but we learn to cope better. Look around, take a breath and try not to always focus on the negative. Take time out in your own time. Everyone grieves their own way but ultimately get help if it does not at some point start to lift. All the best you sound like a lovely caring person and probably one I would not mind being around.

Kk she will only see them in Heaven if they are ALL Born Again. Only 1 way to Heaven, Jesus, who forgives ALL sin is the only way to Heaven. Don't be fooled into believing you are okay without Salvation. God Loves YOU and gave HIS only Son to die for YOU, so YOU don't have to die and go to Hell. Repent and be saved, today is the day of Salvation. Tomorrow may be too late.

I’m so sorry for your losses. Remember you’ll see them both in heaven so keep that as an end goal to cheer up your spirits. Don’t know if you believe in God. But for me therapy or counselling works. It’s painful but beautiful at the same time. Have you tried it to heal a little more. And always reach out to friends or family or services like crisis etc. if you have those numbers. It helps. Take care.

Sherry, please ask God to increase your Faith, trust that Jesus is with you holding your hand, the Holy Sprit guiding you. Claim Jesus' promise that if you believe in him your life will change for the better. TRUST me. I have no immediate blood family left, I am still grieving for the last one whom I have lost five years ago, but I HAVE SURRENDERED EVERYTHING TO God, I keep on praying and doing my commitment as a good Christian. The trials in my life have changed me a lot for the better. I have learned to be humble , not trust in what my money can do because in the end we shall leave everything, anyway. Meantime, live a life. I am praying for you now.

Everything that happens to us was meant to happen. It is up to us how we deal with it. Turning it into a personal pity session is Not improving our lives. We have to snap out of it and realise there are so many people so much worse off. Look at the poor little ones in refugee camps through no fault of their own, Think of those suffering famine, war etc. Yes, I have lost my brother far too young, I have had lung cancer and partial lung removed plus other cancers- four surgeries in one year. I had an emotionally abusive mother who never let up and got worse with dementia. However we only have one life and I choose to make every day worthwhile. I founded my own little charity to help impoverished children both here and overseas. I give school talks about koalas, knit for an overseas charity and serve on several community organisations. I write, give talks and run acting workshops. I could bemoan that a crazy, greedy, woman hater, megalomaniac is now trying to grab world power but pray people will come to their senses and get rid of him before he starts WW3. Now at 81 years old I am busier than ever and am so grateful for life. I am far too busy to feel sorry for the awful things that happened to me and I cannot tell you half. I can’t change them but I can learn from them and I can try to make someone smile each day I have left. Edited 11-Mar-25 10:17am

Life seems to be full of trials and tribulations nots sure if we can do anything to change it to full of joy and joyfulness.

I have also lost family and I take one day at a time. Things do get better.

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to change you is one of the greatest accomplishments you will achieve in life. I wish you all the strength you can muster. I lost 5 people over 2 years: mothers and brothers, sister-in-laws, and friends. i lost myself for a while,i discovered the simplicity of a smile and the warmth of a hug that came from my granddaughter. that was 4 years ago life can turn in a second i wish you well sherry

I live in some kind of BS hell, shit keeps falling on me. I don't know why, I am a good person, I've come close to ending my life because the pressure was so great. But I'm still here. I have returned to my faith, and I let God. I ask the universe for guidance. Things happen for a reason. I hope your situation rights itself.

I am in the same boat. Lost my dad to Leukemia at age 11. Dad was 34 years old. Then lost my cousin to cancer, he was 11 years old. Then my brother just passed away from brain tumors just recently. After watching my dad so sick, when my brother got sick, he chose to end his life through the assisted dying act. He did not want to suffer like my dad did and did not want his children and wife to have more suffering. I know my brother said don't be sad, please remember the good times and keep enjoying your life. I am trying, it is really hard. Just remember your loved ones will not want you to be so unhappy. Be kind to yourself and sending you love.

Life can be so hard but I will not let it bring me down. I lost my mum and dad and younger sister when I was 30 years old. My husband and I have both had cancer, and have recovered quite well from it. I will not allow this to beat me mentally. To me, every day is a new day to make better memories.

Just because you can't see, or know of, other people's problems don't imagine for one second that you are worse off than they are. We just have to roll with the punches, I make no apologies for saying this but this "god' you refer to simply does not exists. If it was the Oh-so-Loving, Gentle, Kind, All seeing, All knowing being Jews, Christians and Muslims are brought up to believe in then why does it allow the horrors of the Russian-Ukraine , the Israeli-Hamas wars? The Famine, the Starvation, the outbreaks of painful and fatal diseases? Why did it allow the First World War and the monstrous Hitler regime which led to World War II and the murder by starvation, intentionally injected diseases and over-work of an estimated 13 million Innocent people? This deity simply does not exists, it was an invention of Control Freaks, mostly men who wanted to control everyone else. "Do this and you go to Hell", Do as I say and you will go to Heaven". Yes, we all lose loved ones, I lost 3 in the space of 4 months but life goes on and we just have to not allow ourselves to feel full of self-indulgent Self Pity.

Life has its challenges but also its beauty. By looking for the positive you can find fulfillment

Life is a crap sandwich and it's lunch time. You just got to live with the cards you are deal with. Religion has nothing to do with it. As someone dealing with a medical condition that has no cure for, I just take one day at a time and happy I can get out of bed.

I have lost so many to all forms of cancer and many different forms of medical issues. I certainly agree with what you said about only the good get taken and not the bad, I'm constantly saying that. I really wish I knew the answer to that, maybe we are meant to find answers to all sorts of things. Try not to dwell on it, which trust me I certainly know it's easier said than done. I lost my mum when I was 15 and I was completely lost, it took me a while to try and work out my life and what to do. Try and find a new hobby or just something to make you start thinking positive, baby steps can take time but it really is worth it. I have a great husband and son, a few cats and dogs and strays so they all keep me smiling. I believe Karma might have a few things to do for the nasty people out there. I feel for you and I can completely understand your way of thinking. The might not be any use to you but you aren't alone. Take care of yourself and I hope you will be able to smile again 🐾🙂

Unfortunately life has its ups and downs as I know it well. Walking with my dog each morning helps me as well as eating healthy meals. Drinking water most of the day also helps to detox the system and your mind. Try to get out more and socialise to give you something to look forward to.

You seem to have a bad case of "survivor's guilt." You need to seek out some counselling to help you move on and love yourself again.

good that sharing your story has helped you. Many people have gone thru a lot that others don't know about. keep strong

Cancer is so common know people who have tit I see so much on different medicines that are not the regular cancer treatment I think I would try everything like soursop and other things

Do your own therapy and write a blog….works for me.

sorry to hear of your sadness Sherry

Oh, Sherry; I'd hug you right now if I could. I am so sorry for your losses and the awful ways that they happened. It's much nicer when someone you love just goes peacefully in their sleep. I'm really glad that you haven't lost your faith in God. He is there for you. Wherever you are you can just close your eyes and cry out to Him all of your pain and questions. He and I are very close now but that is after a long and abusive marriage and a lot of other really horrible things. I got mad and yelled at Him. He's an all-forgiving and all-knowing God. He knows what your heart is feeling but it will be very healing for you to let it all out to Him. He's there for you. Always. He wants you to turn to Him for comfort. I won't promise that nothing bad or painful will never come into your life again, but I will promise that with God, you can get through anything. I'm praying for you to find peace. And please don't feel bad for reaching out. We get to know each other a little bit through these discussions and you may find some peace in knowing we care about you. You are never alone. Love to you, Sherry

Sherry, I hear what you are saying. You are surely going through a horrible time, but you would be surprised how many people are going through the same thing. I am one of those people. I lost my husband, son, and mother and brother , then my remaining son developed a debilitating disease, and my daughter has coeliac disease, now I have recently been diagnosed with cancer. It is what it is. Life is certainly cruel, but we can only accept things and try to bring joy to someone else. I would suggest getting active and not sitting around dwelling on things as you will go down a rabbit hole very quickly. Do anything to try and occupy your mind, do gardening, visit an elderly person, preserve some food, knit, crochet, try writing some poetry. Good luck my friend!

My most sincere condolences for the loss of your brother. I agree sometimes life is not fair at all. But you seem to be a very resilient and a strong person.

TYVM JANN R

I recently started a gratitude journal, focusing on the positive things in life. I think it’s amazing that you are asking for help right here. Only smart people ask for help. You seem like a religious person but maybe your area has a place where you can speak about your problems, like a social worker or psychologist. Wishing you the best.

Believe in yourself and I hope things get better for you but dont put pressure on your self take very day at a time and I hope things improve for you have faith in your self that always helps hang in there Sherry

I was a runaway - I have not seen anyone in my family (on my mother side or my father side) for decades (and I am not trying to reconnect with anyone in family) - my marriage lasted long enough for me to alimony (and when I was marriage - we did not any children). I am not a people person - other words I don't know HOW to response to your post - so I am going with NO COMMENT!Edited 11-Mar-25 18:43pm

I think we will suffer but God simply wants us to be grateful for ALL of our circumstances and praise Him no matter what. Eventually, we will survive our tragedies and traumas with His help

You're not the only one I feel like giving up and sometimes have felt suicidal I'm just lucky I have a partner that supports me

Just pray and hope that we don't suffer.

Life goes on, you win some, and you lose some. They say If dwell in the past, it will weigh you down, and your life will not be worth living anymore. Keep them love lock in your heart and live on happily. One day will meet again

Im so sorry

I have blood cancer and take chemo pills every day for the past 10 years. Sure it makes me nauseous and sick. I pick myself up and go about the business of living for my daughter and husband. Life has ups and downs. It is what you do with each day that makes life worth living. Don't waste any precious moments. Just a Sunset, , a bird , a smile from someone can make the day worth while.

I was just tearing up watching the interview on Current Affairs with Professor Richard Scolyer discussing about his brain cancer coming back and he has about 3 months to live. And now reading this thread, it’s very sad. Please don’t blame God for all the tragedies and disasters, it’s just the reality that we live in a broken world. Unfortunately pain and suffering are part of life but we somehow find hope to keep going.

Can you name someone who doesn't go through similar life events? No, it is difficult to get through this life without death in this case. what you need is counselling and stop playing the pity card because this is a part of every life you are no better or worse. One other thing you can easily do is stop praying expecting 'god' (an imaginary man in the sky) to help you. If there was a god don't you think he has bigger issues to deal with like wars, dying and staving children, that he isn't helping either ( I wonder why? think about that). These couple of things make your 'normal' life a lot less important. Now if you don't believe in the man in the sky please take my counselling advise.

Heaven may offer up these challenges until you find out what about you needed that adversity, but also perhaps because there is something about you that had to learn from it and then to become greater yourself as a person. Persevere and grow. Be optimistic.

Always hard to loose a love one,hang in there..

Thanks!!

Try JW.ORG When someone you loved dies.

Thanks everyone for being so nice and understanding it really does mean a lot to me. But unfortunately I have lost 2 more family members in just the last week due to a intoxicated driver.Edited 11-Mar-25 02:57am

I sympathize with you ...keep praying...have faith...God has a beautiful plan for you ..Bless you xxoo

Granny told mom and mom told me, when something bad happens, toughen up and keep going.Don’t over identify with something we can’t do anything about.

I've have had the same experiences lost a brother in law, uncle, mother in law, 2 more brother in laws then my husband and right after my mother everyone died because of cancer besides my mother. Before my mother passed I got diagnosed with stage 2 lung cancer I had just got home from hospital from removing my right lower lobe when I found out she had passed. A never ending story with nothing going good.

Life is unpredictableI. I just take life day by day and not to worry about tomorrow or the things that are out of my control. Enjoy the moment and live your life.

Sorry to hear of your losses Sherry. Unfortunately life is not fair at times but in spite of it, one still has to go with the flow of it and keep moving forward in the present. I lost my father when he was 56, then my mother and sister one year apart. I miss them dearly. One sibling was in the hospital during covid. He was in bad shape but thankfully recovered. Best Canadian wishes to you!Edited 11-Mar-25 01:05am