sounds like someone who never got the kick on the backside for being a spoiled brat.

Exactly...

It's terrible to have lousy parents but unfortunately they're still your parents. You can make the choice to not be involved with them anymore when you become an adult.

And by the way Michelle K...are you either a licensed or disqualified parent?..it doesn't sound like it..does it?...if you haven't gone through the process.. at least once... you are just a totally useless rookie with no idea of what this massive commitment entails...come back when you have grown up... Edited 08-Mar-21 20:59pm

so what are the bad biological parents called, dope and doppierEdited 08-Mar-21 20:28pm

yes i di and luckily for me all of mine have done this too

No comment since I'm not a parent?

Being a parent can be a physical & psychological task that requires attention from both parents especially when things go wrong,your child is severely injured,another needs chemotherapy these elements bring together all nurturing which can drive a wedge between the partners because the blame game can be so devastating but the true grit is essential to unite this bond so your children get the help & love so necessary during these trying times.

Being a parent Mum & Dad is a God's gift to Humanity, it all started with Jesus, Mary, Adam & Eve. I think we should guide our children in any way we can do to shape them to be a good and responsible individual. And also, to prepare them to be a loving Parent to their own kids in the future.

Being a parent is the hardest thing in the world. You want to have a child desperately but not necessary able to. Then you have a child and hope they turn out to be the most beautiful thing you have ever achieved in your life. Will they be male or female, shy or outgoing, loving or not so much? Whatever the answer is you do deserve to be called mum or dad - it was you who helped create this person. Unfortunately for some mums and dads it doesn't always turn out so perfect. We may have the child we always wanted but perhaps they did not always want us. Sometimes they need a friend - but wait you cannot be a friend as well as a parent - it just does not work. Friends don't necessarily have boundaries but all children need boundaries of some kind while growing up. Sometimes differences are simple and they don't like the same music as you - meet in the middle. Sometimes they don't what the same education as you feel they should have - we don't all go to University. Sometimes you might like a drink with

whatever man..

wrong sorry that is what the kids no you as or do you wont to be joe and fred

I loved all my kids but at times i didnt have to like them .they came from a good family and wanted for nothing .i lost 2 of my children and i wasnt really the same it caused alot of problems with the other remaining children id have to say it divided the family .if i could have my time again but know what i know now i would have had no children it comes with to many heartaches and pain .

greatest gift you can offer a human being

Being a parent is a gift. We need to cherish that gift and take care of it.

Being a Mum or Dad = 24/7 from day one, apprenticeship being served experiencing how your own parents coped bringing you up and hoping to do better. It's all a trial and error hoping that you have healthy children making everyone's lives just that much smoother to navigate whatever life throughs at you. Mum or Dad is not at title it is a given..

I have never met anyone like that.I feel entitlement to be Mother( & Father) is my right.I agree we have a responsibility & it is sad that some parents don't accept that & neglect their children in many ways.What about siblings do they have the right to be Brothers & sisters ,Aunts & Uncles Even Grand parents .Some people do the right thing & others don't .Titles apply in many ways ,as long as your conscience is clear, that is the important issue here .

does that same rational go for kids. If you have 2 kids and one is a doctor and the other is a dole bludger on drugs. Does that child no longer deserve to be called your child?

As a parent, not only take care of the child, but also accompany and assist him on the way of growth, and become his life mentor. Many criminals commit crimes because their parents did not take good care of their kind-hearts and Mental needs.

Lots of perspectives from the parents point of view here. I grew up with an abusive, addict for a father. Quite simply I had and have very little respect for him, as you usually don't when witnessing someones drunken rampages and beating of siblings. I started calling him by his first name rather than Dad prior to primary school so very early on. My Mum will always be Mum and Grandparents in particular my Grandfather who stepped up for us will always be called by their grandparent names. There are sadly too many parents that are absent in their children's lives or that are in them and abuse the privilege. So no if you are someone who was part of the conception but never involved in a Childs life why should you be called Mum or Dad, leave that for the person that actually raised you.

I'm a Mum, little kids, little problems, big kids big problems, no such thing as a perfect parent or perfect child, can be a real hard road sometimes. I was a Day Care mum for 5 under 18months, for 2 years, when I was in my 20's, loved it but was exhausting.I loved caring for them, teaching them the basics, and had such a good result, lots of love and patience and fun, we had fun, it was a dream to what I have now, 65 years old with a son with a Mental Illness, sometimes rewarding, sometimes hell, just gets harder as I get older, we are making our wills and funerals so everything is in place when we pass away, he could not handle doing any of that, I will Have to organise as much as we can, have taken money out of Super. Don't get me wrong, he is a beautiful child, when he is well, we had a great time, except for a few hiccups as a teenager, when I think what a shit I was at that age, just wish he could improve a bit more, all we want for them is to have a happy life, but at this stage it seems a big ask, I a

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l love being a mum, but if l could have my time again l would not be one again

Michelle K, you are so right! Some people make great parents and some are total disasters!. Like Shree T we had fantastic parents. All 6 of us, knew where we stood, could rely on Mum and Dad but at the same time they taught us to be Fully Independent so that when we left home we knew how to face the inevitable problems. In this modern time we cannot understand why people bother to have children when all they do, and they do it as fast as they possibly can, is farm their Trophy Kids out to Strangers to do the upbringing and then at what they think are "appropriate times" trot out these trophies and pretend they care about them. Then as soon as these unfortuante children are safely in care the parents complain and complain and complain again as to how expensive it is to have their children in care as it takes up the entire income of themselves or their partner!

I'm a mum. It is tough, tiresome and never ending but its so lovely Nd rewarding as well. Like many things you get out of the experience what you put in.

its hard work being a parent its not always easy and does not get any easier as they get to adult children

I was fortunate to have a great mum and dad and there were 7 children. If we misbehaved we got the wooden spoon on our backsides. People call that abuse these day and yes I know that children are being badly abused but I was never abused in a terrible way it was one whack on the backside and it was only ever if I had done something really wrong. My parents taught me to respect myself and others, we never had a lot but we had each other. I loved my mum and dad very much and they deserved the title of mum and dad. I have used them as my roll model when bringing up our two children. And no I didn't use a wooden spoon, any unacceptable behavior was discussed and invariably they selected their punishment which was either time out in their room or unable to go and play for the day. I do believe my children feel the same about myself and husband as I did about my mum and dad

I agree. Being involved with your child/children and their interests (and they with yours) builds great relationships.

It is subjective to the people involved

people need to remember that being able to have children and guide through all aspects of life is a gift for those able to have children

There's no other way.

When a couple have a child they become a mum and dad. They have done what is required to be called that. Whether they become a good or bad mum or dad is what needs to be earned. There's too much changing the meaning of words just to satisfy someones whim. There's a thing called a dictionary that gives the meaning of words.

Having worked in the prison service I have been up close and personal with the results of bad parenting!

If you are not involved with raising your child then you are not a parent but a biological donor. Mums and Dads raise their kids (and someone else’s) often.

i agree with andrew w grow up/get a life

Some people shouldn't have kids especially if they don't care on what they do or who they are are with or even care if they are alive or not. But i think that it is the best thing in my life as it look myself and my husband 5 years to have our daughter. So i do as well as my husband does to do everything thing we can for her as well as to keep her safe. I will always be mum and i wouldn't change it for anything in this world.

Calling mum and dad is a sign of respect.

I like calling my parents Mum & Dad.

I come from a big family (9 children) so we didn't get much love and affection from our parents (mum at home washing nappies all day and dad at work earning money to pay the bills) but I still feel priveleged to actually HAVE a Mum and Dad. And I still call them that. And my kids call them Grandma and Grandad.

it can be one of the best things in life seeing them grow and learn things in life and it can be hard when they get sick or just go off and do stupid things

Yes and no life is hard have to do your best

It's really in the hands of the person saying "mum" or "dad". If a kid calls someone "mum" or "dad", then the kids obviously sees them in that role.

Being a parent is for life...

I can't believe how some people do not share their lives with their children.

Yes I agree. There are times adoptive parents make better parents than biological ones. Some parents work so much that they do not have time for their children but are willing to buy them what they want. This is not good parenting as children need to have their parents take an interest in them. Sometimes children may get involved in drugs how would a parent know when they are too busy working. children do not want material things but time being listened to by their parents.

Being a parent is hard work. Well worth it though. I think that you should have to have a license to be a parent and undergo classes to qualify. Babies don’t come with a how-to manual, and too often parenting is overwhelming.

Prime Minister....President...these are titles that need to be earned..but seldom are...Mum and Dad are words that simply form part of the English Language....it is not a qualification....there is no licence involved...look, there is a duck...look there is a child with its mum and dad...there is a door...if the door doesn't open, is it no longer a door?...You have the most extensive and diverse language on Earth to work with...and you'd like to pick holes in it and cripple it further...God there are some times when I almost lack the will to live.....

YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT IT BIOLOGICALLY

I think it is a very good topic for discussing (because I had a NIGHTMARISH CHILDHOOD - but - I had NIGHTMARISH GUARDIANS - (birth mom, biological father, and step-father))! I became a runaway - when I finished the 8th grade - I was 13 years old at that point in my life! Hence, I can not pretend to be unbias (or impartial) in this discussion. However, I never wanted to have kids! Hence, I do not have any kids. Anyway, I have to go with the famous comment or is it the infamous comment - "NO COMMENT!!Edited 08-Mar-21 09:20am