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What is sexy and attractive?...and who decides?
APB29-May-22
While some young women are paying massive amounts of money to have minor things that set them apart and make them unique...removed...so they look more like everyone else...other already attractive women are pumping poison into their faces to stop wrinkles (20 year old women worrying about wrinkles)...and most alarming is everyone pumping "fillers" into their lips to look like a younger Mick Jagger...as their lips expand, they lift clear of their face...some call it "Duck face"...because it is almost like a beak...and their teeth look goofy and prominent because closing their mouth is difficult...aside from everyone looking the same...who decided that this is SEXY?...it is just so sad......
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  • To me a smile can be sexy and I find confidence very attractive. Physical attributes are only taking you so far. It is your manner, spirit and soul that define you.
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    • At the end of the day you shouldn't have to resort to any cosmetic procedures to make yourself feel or look sexy especially if it is to attract the opposite sex or in some cases the same sex because it's all about embracing what you have and aging gracefully without the need to go under the knife plus you will be saving money because they don't come cheap.My sister just recently had a mini eye lift done and botox but she is 51 and in all honesty she didn't even need to do this.
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      • Who are you people to judge these girls? Everyone has their perception of beauty. If someone judging, means they are not well themselves.
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        • But they aren't authentic.
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      • Lol
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        • To member Kyle b. You must be respectful to other members at all times. Please, do not post rude, inappropriate, insulting or offensive comments.
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          • The terminology is coined by those with an inflated level of self worth. On the other hand everyone has attraction to someone else.
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            • I honestly can't see that people think that the person on the right is Sexy, or God's Gift to Men, they look revolting, Beauty does not come with looks only, it starts by the way you behave, sure that the girls on the left is attractive, and looks respectful but, does she behave herself in public, and at home, But I will trust her, the one on the left is asking for trouble, or Idiot Men and their money, I hope I did not offend anyone by my comment
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            • Me
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              • sex appeal depends on persons perceptions
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                • IT IS ALL IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER.
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                  • It is a pity that so many young women are having cosmetic surgery, and yes, they do all look alike. I get tired of seeing the unbelievably white teeth, no-one has teeth that are THAT white. Then there are the lips and cheeks, they all look as though they have been made in the same factory. I have no idea why they do it to themselves because it does not look natural. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I much prefer a person who is beautiful on the inside.
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                    • Agree re the Trout Pout- its horrid. I don't get it at all or do some men/women like it??
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                      • Actually, getting Botox and fillers can in the long term damage your skin. Yes, many women focus too much on their looks...why others could not give a stuff. I think they are trying to be more attractive to men. But you know, I think our grandma's would of looked better in their youth...than the cheap so called young women in their twenties alive today. They knew how to dress with some class and present themselves. Intelligence is a much more attractive trait than looks. Also a character worth while. There is a trend now for big artificial or penciled in brows, or brow implants. They look proper ugly! Also I noticed on some news sites that the media are showing more celebrities who look half or semi naked. They often show pictures of the Kardashian clan in bikinis it showing their boobs or butts. What sort of message does that send to kids growing up? They should cover up and I don't wish to see their private parts half hanging out. Take MADONNA, she's been letting it all hang out lately. Why does the Australian media force this shit on us? We don't need to see it FFS.
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                        • In the world of showbiz there are actually people who decide, there are certain physical attributes they are looking for that they know appeal to the general masses. But in the real world, as long as someone is confident in their own skin that is plenty sexy/attractive...
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                          • Natural is sexy…
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                            • Its a figment of a woman's imagination.Men who find a woman attractive Are individuals & they have different tastes but most look at a womans neckline.Some find eyes alluring or a mouth kissable,some find legs appeal a woman should make the most of what she has .The surgery when she reaches middle /old age can make her look rediculous
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                              • Ridiculous. You are right!
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                            • Duck lips to me are not attractive but women pay huge money for their lips to look like they got stuck in a plunger.
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                              • Ugly
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                            • I think I am sexy and attractive....trouble is, nobody else does! LOL
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                              • Lol
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                            • If you watch the media then they decide who is sexy. For instance how can Mick Jagger be sexy with a face like that ? Unless sexy goes along with success & money.
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                              • Yes, success breeds popularity...no matter what you look like. Ask the Kardashian clan who changed their looks Via surgery.
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                              • No Martin, it's Mick's money that make him attractive.
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                            • what is sexy and attractive is different for every body so listening to any body else is fruitless and wannabe reaction , Listen to yourself not somebody else's ideals
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                              • They all look deformed and disgusting and certainly not sexy in any sense of the word..!
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                                • I don't think any of those things make a woman look sexy - and I am a great believer in BEAUTY BEING SKIN DEEP. I think a kind, caring thoughtful person IS FAR MORE SEXY - and that goes for men too........
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                                  • It is extremely sad that people destroy their natural looks to feel they look beautiful. The woman in the right picture epitomises the duck look however, that is a kind description. Her mouth looks more like an anus than a ducks beak. Modern "sexiness" is not sexy to me!
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                                    • Labia lips !
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                                    • lol
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                                    • mary cBiscuit
                                      yeeikes haha.
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                                    • The public 1 point
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                                      • I just cannot stand the lip pouting.
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                                        • They prob think they are more kissable!
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                                      • Oh, APB, this is one of the most laughable encounters or submissions that I have read so far....it is very sad indeed for some women to treat themselves like...I can't say the word...indeed you are right, hope these comments of ours shall deter them from being silly and stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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                                        • I agree the most women have such procedures but have you seen the lead singer of 'Dead or Alive'? His lips are so large and so operated on that he is worried he may lose them.
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                                      • I like natural, the rest looks too plastic. Sex appeal is confidence in who you are. It's also natural. Everything else is false!
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                                        • Loath pumped lips literally can't look at someone that has them ..As for sexy the day my body is more important too my husband than my heart n mind will be the day I walk out the door...
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                                          • Well said. I have that read physical attraction might get people together but won't keep them together in the long term as relationships are much deeper than that.
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                                        • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I find beautiful or sexy May not be every one cup of tea. But I like it. Natural is good
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                                          • The Grand Masters who painted the nudes and not a single one of those Pictures would be considered as attractive now.
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                                            • Are you kidding? They looked much better than the trash we see now.
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                                          • My sister says that women, and, believe it or not now some men, are doing it, who have their lips pumped up look like a pig's anus with a prolapse going up a hill! Do any of them ever think of the future? What happens if they over-fill those already full tyre tubes and they burst? With regard to the use of Botox - which freezes the nerves and muscles so that they cannot move naturally. Some of the world's most renowned Neurologists and other Medical experts have warned that as a result of this freezing of both Nerves and Muscles after prolonged and repeated use of Botox both end up dying and are incapable of being brought back. Total Collapse of the face and any other oart of the body people Choose to inject with this Poison. When it comes to Plastic Surgery, yes, it makes a 70-year-old Facially look like a 20-something BUT there are some very public areas of the Human Body which, as yet, the peddlers of Plastic Surgery have not yet come up with a way to hide the ravages of Time: They are the Hands, the Neck and the Arms. Those ageing claw-like talons and that Turkey skin flapping about are a dead giveaway that the face, breasts, 6-pack Abdominals are all Plastic, Dishonest, Phony. Why can't people simply accept themselves as they are? That does not mean you should not look after your appearance. Your face is the biography of your life, be proud of it.
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                                            • Yes. The pig's anus description is spot on. Honestly, it's crazy.
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                                            • And Romac, that's for all the info. The death of nerves by botox is important to be aware of, plus, many other concerns as you listed.
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                                          • at the end of the day.... Internal personalities is what shines through to make true beauty
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                                            • Rubber lips I call them. Not attractive at all, same with tattoos, what will they look like 20 years from now.
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                                              • Depends where the tattoo is. I have a phoenix on my hip and so it doesn't get a lot of light. However, it will no doubt get saggy as I get saggy. I prefer not to have the rubber lips though!
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                                            • Wow I have no idea why some women do what they do to themselves and why to god's name would any one want to look like some with their faces that can not move nor can they smile or surely be happy. I am all natural the way I was made and if some one doesn't like it, don't let the door hit you on the way out. Don't change for any one, just be happy in your own skin. We are all beautiful the way we are and I don't even wear make up because I just can not be bothered. Media has a lot to answer for as we see what is in magazines and younger women think that is the way they should look well I wouldn't give them the time of day quite frankly. It's not and far from natural as you could possibly imagine. Stay just the way you are, except your self and be kind to your self.
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                                              • I believe the entire individual is equally beautiful
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                                                • I love big full lips but only when it is natural. The one with the plug looks ridiculous.
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                                                  • think a lot is brought about by black envy. Look at the 'juicy lips' and white teeth on black faces. But who decides what is attractive, each individual should and not be swayed by advertising. Beauty really is on the inside-who the person is not what their looks are
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                                                    • Why would they be envious of BLACK people?
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                                                  • the thing on the right has overdosed on ugly pills, the other one is pretty.
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                                                    • It is certainly not attractive. You are right. It does look like duck lips.
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                                                      • beauty is in the eye of the beholder
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                                                        • I am a male, don't have to worry about all that rubbish.
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                                                          • I don't know why the "blow up doll" look is so popular but it is, and people are lining up to get lip fillers and botox to look that way. I think drinking/party culture doesn't help because it makes everything sag faster. What happened to just taking care of yourself properly (both inside and out)? The things people do to follow trends just baffles me... Be grateful for the skin you're in because I've noticed that natural tends to look nicer and easier on the eyes than pumped up any day and there's several celebrity examples showing this.
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                                                            • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and a smile is attractive to everyone. Next time you walk in the street catch someone’s eye and give them a wee smile……see what happens…..lol
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                                                              • At my current age I can't get excited about stick out lips or having my back teeth removed to give me a "different" look. So, it's what you see is what I am.
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                                                                • you shold be happy with what god gave you
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                                                                  • I think it's great that women gained the right to dress themselves, and present themselves, in exactly the way that they want to - and not be dictated to by the patriarchy! I mean, who has the right to tell any woman what they should or should not do, when it comes to them displaying perceived sexual attractiveness? Not me..... I'm happy to sit back, smile, and keep my comments to myself.
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                                                                    • Keep plastic surgery for burn victims and people born with deformatives
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                                                                      • You can’t improve of what God created
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                                                                        • Natural is best - no big shocks for others when all the makeup etc comes off.
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                                                                          • The old adage applies here, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
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                                                                            • I can understand if you needed it done because of an accident or you're a burn victim. But some people just have too much money and very little common sense.
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                                                                              • I wanted to dye my hair when I was 11 I think because my older sister had dyed hers, an older male friend of the family asked me why and then said if people don't like you for who you are they won't like you any better just because you change your looks, I always remember that. Also when I was at school and anyone had big lips everyone used to call them Jubie lips and laugh at them, now people pay to get it done! I haven't used any makeup for years and I am 71 now and people are always telling me I look much younger. I think if you would not eat it why put it on your skin so it sinks into your body.
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                                                                              • What makes you think that only women are doing things to themselves. There's plenty of men doing the same kind of things.
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                                                                                • I keep hearing that....just haven't seen any male victims yet!
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                                                                                • 2025APB
                                                                                  maybe you should read some magazines then. Men don't boast about it as much.
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                                                                              • EEEEEEk, duck for cover ... thank goodness for old age with its can't hear and see half the things pouting and grinding along.
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                                                                                • They must have too much money !!!!!!!!!
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                                                                                  • just be yourself
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                                                                                    • As they say in life, every wrinkle means you’ve lived. We shouldn’t be ashamed of what we have become, embrace life and enjoy.
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                                                                                      • The most attractive are those who exposes that. The principle of burka. You put it on , no one can see your face. The decision about what is beautiful is made either by those who have too much time to spare or by those who are professional in the industry.
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                                                                                        • tall thin athletic
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                                                                                          • Kardashians while looking picture perfect, are unnatural. So therefore i dont consider them attractive. Top models with natural beauty such as Kate Moss, who is gorgeous and linda Evangelista are sophisticated, real beauties. As soon as it looks manufactured its not attractive to me.
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                                                                                            • they should be happy with wat they have
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                                                                                              • The one who is looking
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                                                                                                • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But the big lips look ridiculous.
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                                                                                                  • Women who have their lips puffed up look ridiculous,they look as if the they are puckering up for a kiss lol.They look so ugly
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                                                                                                    • The human body is beautiful its a work of wonder cleverly created by the Almighty God, nothing else should be added to it. Being sexy plus all other attributes of the human body, of how it was made. Some female have taken upon themselves, to create a sexual appetite in their body, for my peace of mind, their body does not match with their face, they look more a monster from a dark place. Selling your body is an ancient profession, and some still do it, it is different from cutting up your body and injecting it with poison, WHEN THEY ARE OLD, they will see the nasty affect
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                                                                                                      • The comment that published by member kyle b (29-May-22 07:57am) has been deleted
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                                                                                                    • Beauty is definitely 'in the eye of the beholder'. In the same way that hoarders cannot see that they are hoarding and anorexics are incapable of seeing that they are not overweight, evaluation of beauty (not at all the same thing as sexiness) is definitely in the mind's eye. What people see through their own eyes is definitely not what others see. It is important not to get beauty and sexiness confused. They are very different things.
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                                                                                                      • Fat lips are so off-putting! Who looks attractive depends on the opinion of who is looking. There is no one look that is attractive to others.
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                                                                                                        • Confidence and being natural effortless beauty
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                                                                                                          • Best reply I have seen Sarah. I get so sad when I see young women doing horrible things to their bodies and especially to their faces which makes them look like Barbie dolls. I detest false eyelashes, false extreme eyebrows, and puffed up lips.
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                                                                                                        • beauty is in the heart, people that get a smile from the little things in life is beauty to me, we are what we are, my wife of 36 years and I have never tried to be anything but ourselves, I think social media has a lot to answer for the problems in this question,
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                                                                                                          • From a male point of view filling lips make women unattractive so I would not advise them to do it. The only exception is if it is for a medical reason.
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                                                                                                            • I agree I don’t know why we can’t love ourselves as we are. Beauty comes from within. Those who only look at the outside are missing so much, I feel sorry for them.
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                                                                                                              • Some adjustments that seem minor are actually beneficial like correcting a deviated septum. May improve appearance but can reduce sinus problems by making drainage easier.
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                                                                                                                • Well I know what isn't sexy, those ugly trout pout lips. I'm dumbfounded that anyone does that to themselves thinking it looks good!
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                                                                                                                  • I don't care how people looks except myself.
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                                                                                                                    • i don't care what anyone wants to do to themselves, if you are that insecure with how you look and you want to be something you are not, get over it, you are what you are, changing the wrapper does not improve that gift,, JMHO ;-))
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                                                                                                                      • To Me this shows how many programmed or insecure people, too much idiobox makes idiots of everyone to some degree
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                                                                                                                        • I think if you look at pictures and paintings of women back as far as a hundred years or so, I'd say they looked a class above what some modern women look like. So Natural and untainted. They might have had their bodies covered mostly, but they looked like real women. Not trussed up BIMBOS trying to be something they are not, or trying to be better looking than the next lady. We live in a very superficial world and that's life.
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                                                                                                                          • I'm 62 years old. My views are only mine, but I think less is better. More natual, less makeup, no botox. Cover up your body, don't show them everything, leave something to the imagination. As my Mom used to say, RIP Mom, a person can be beautiful outside, but rotten inside. So, that's just my opinion.
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                                                                                                                            • Not just women but men do all these things to themselves also. Plus they have the fake abs, remove every bit of hair off their bodies, sculpt their eyebrows, etc. I agree the lips just look ridiculous as do the over round boobs. Place all the girls in a row and they all look the same. I cannot wait until this fad disappears.
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                                                                                                                              • 52 and no bad wrinkles, a little(dab) of sagging due to old age. Just make sure to use moisturizer and keep hydrated, unless you're genetically prone to wrinkles then be happy about it anyways. Be happy with who you are and look like, when you get to be of any age you should embrace it and be grateful that you're still kicking. Men really don't care about that stuff, all kinds of men like all kinds of women and they are gonna talk and look regardless. They will still cheat on a beautiful woman just like they will do with an ugly woman if they are prone to. If they don't like what they see, they can turn and go the other way.
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                                                                                                                                • Who cares about the dumb sheep, if they want to waste money and go through surgery...who cares? Its usually only a select group that does it. They will still get old... More important things going on in life than concerning our selfs with a bunch of wackhead bimbos. They aren't even worth mentioning. Like the fake Kardashian family.
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                                                                                                                                  • I don't really care! This topic has been raised before. If they want to be artificial then let them....as most of us know they can't accept themselves as they were born. Its a form of cheating...but if they have to make themselves more attractive through surgery...then it means we know they aren't Natural. They loose some respect. Funny how the fashion changes with the decades. In the 1920s ,1930s it was the Bob hairstyle, and above the knees. 1960s it was short skirts and big hair doos. Today its the big lips and thick eyebrows. Both look ugly...if they aren't Natural. I think they are not very bright and just follow the trend of the day. Most are just sheep!
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                                                                                                                                    • I hope at this point in my life - I have move past superficial judgments (I kept telling myself I pick "character (substance)' over looks - HAHA)!
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                                                                                                                                      • I was never shallow and into looks. Back in my day many girls looked for cars to see if they wanted to date a boy. I was quite happy to take the tram or train or taxi. I am still the same now albeit I have not had a date in years. Unfortunately, looks have played a part in many peoples lives whether it is because they are attractive or not. I have seen men who forgot to shave for weeks with big fat tummy's overhanding their belts judge a very lovely pretty girl with a lovely figure and this I found disturbing. Men can be very nasty in their judgements and I was the recipient of calculated insults by one of those men for many years but although my self esteem dropped I was smart enough to eventually walk away. Women also can be very judgemental towards other women and also to men. I am not sure how we can educate people to be more accepting and realise that individuality is more attractive than the current pouty look and also that a persons character is what is important.
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                                                                                                                                    • Sexy and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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                                                                                                                                      • Agreed
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