I think you know the answer to your question and are just asking for confirmation. He is a loser and will never change - you sound like a very nice person and can deserve much better than him.

No way, when he left you for another woman, that's when it was time to move on. he don't care about your feelings at all. Just another user, the loser.

Ghost-time. Call it a $400.00 non-deductable business loss. I suspect he needed to cover household money he gambled, drank, smoked or snorted and played you to keep peace at home.

Don't answer his texts. In fact, block his number. He's using you. But you already know that. That's not love. Nor is the emotional manipulation where he says they're not working out. Plus, you know you can't trust him. He left you for another woman. RUN!!!

Move on - enjoy your own life

sounds a bit suss. Agree with what most have said here, he's a loser who's trying to hook someone else in - namely you. His wife probably does not know you exist, or, that you are his horrible ex wife who doesn't understand him.... Get well shot of him, and move on, consider yourself lucky you got off lightly. Some peeps are just using losers, who like company on their journey to hell.

Only you can answer thst question but just remember thst a leopards does not change his spots

His not worth your time and energy. His just using you. Don't ever feel sorry for him again. No contact at all.

Ignore him change your number, start living for you not him,

I would ask his current wife for the money, this kinda falls under the how can I soar like an eagle when I hang around with geese type of thing

Tell him to take a hike

How silly are you? Why not lay down and just let him walk all over you. Wake up sunshine. You're being used.

Ask for your money back then vamoose.

girl drop him, he is NOT worth your time. you’re a queen and deserve to be treated like one. if he asks again, tell him to choke on his ego

Looser, if you want to get rid of someone I give em $200 never see them again ask for ya $200 back😜

he chumped u, prayed on your emotions. Leave him behind you, hes a dog. You deserve much better. Change your number & cut your losses.

Forget him lady ,he is a user

Big mistake. Get him to pay you back then block him out of your life totally. You're asking for more trouble and heartache if you don't.Edited 24-Apr-25 07:51am

Omg do not give that man money, spend it on yourself lady 💅

I would not have done it for him. He took your money and left you hi and dry.Tell him have his wife do it..Get the money from her.Edited 23-Apr-25 19:14pm

We are here to learn from our mistakes and teach and helps others through life with our knowledgeand experiences... When he left you and married someone else, that was your sign that he was a mistake..!

Tell him to shove it and ask his wife and if you happen to run into her ask for your money back and tell her why.

I wouldnt do sh** for him sorry that just makes me very upset that some men would stoop that low you dont owe him anything tell him to go ask his wife or go use someone else your not his check book or his bank tell him to kick rocks

I think this guy is using you for his own selfish needs sorry, walk away from him because he will most likely hurt you again.I wish you all the best Sarah!

You are clearly taken for a-ride by your ex. Don’t you think it’s not a genuine advance? So use your brain not to get caught again. Love means not having to say SORRY!😞 Good Luck!

ask for your money back even if it is in weekly/fortnightly installments then delete his phone number and block him. He is just using you

Please don't give him any more money and ask for your $400 back immediately. That's terrible he even asks you for financial help after he married another woman. I wish you all the best on your future endeavors; you will find someone who truly loves you and appreciates you 💗

Never loan money if you expect to get it back! If he texts you again, tell him you need to borrow money from him.

First mistake you made was to give him money. Second mistake you made was to trust him. He abandoned you. End of story. Learn from your mistakes.

Pay me my money back!!!!

ignore him he is using you

Tell him where to go but get the money back if you can, then run, run forrest run

He can not be trusted, ignore his calls and as the previous person said RUN

Run

Leave him alone Don't answer his call

With respect, if you have to ask, you are not adult enough....Especially as you state he betrayed you already...

Cheating alots of times

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." You know the answer to your question. He's already used you twice! ;-o

Forget him he is not worth it.

Put a knife to his tires, what a jerk

Don't waste your time on him. Move on. you deserve better

Tell him up yours, as you should have in the first instance. Don’t waste your time and money on a person like this, who is just using you.

Why even respond to him when he texts? He left you and is married. That should say it all.

Once bitten twice shy. It's an old saying. Have nothing more to do with him. I have a feeling that might be hard, But, he sounds like a user.

My divorce/ property settlement involved selling the home so he could get his share, then move back to the Phillipines leaving me with 3 children and no child support. He had already forged my name to borrow money against the mortgage so there was very little left. I got what little there was. THEN he called me to say how much he loved me and could he borrow the money off me. Guess what the answer was?Edited 23-Apr-25 14:49pm

Tell him sorry I can't help you, you will have to ask your parents

I was with my Thai bf for 14 years, but he was taking me for granted and I got involved with another one. I left but then the new one had a gf in another place who contacted me and it was so crazy but it took me about 8 years to get over it all and find someone else but now I'm in Canada and totally single.

Bad move giving him money ... he's a user ... Block him

Ask for your money back and if you get your money back them block his number. I don't think nothing wrong with his marriage just used you as you are a good person. Keep the text as you may needed years later. Move on find some one that good to you or travel place.

If he texts you again, ask for your money back. Don't get any more involved than that. If he doesn't repay you, take it that you've just spent $400 to never see him again. And don't! That means no answering phone calls, text messages, or door knocks. Otherwise, the only person you're hurting is yourself!

Gosh honey you’ve been taken for a ride by this person …. Time to send him and his problems out of your life

Send the bill to his wife and ask her to pay you back.

Ask for your money back

Absolutely nothing. A lesson you never need to repeat as in ever.

Just say give me my money back, please.....

I can't understand why you needed to ask for advice, it's so obvious.He's a user and if you let him use you it makes you a loser. Have absolutely nothing to do with him! Edited 23-Apr-25 13:03pm

Don’t let him do that to you sweety. You were nice to help with 400.00. He will keep coming back just because he knows he has you at his fingertip. Please don’t give in. You deserve better. your worth is so much more valuable than that .Good luck and god bless you sweety Edited 23-Apr-25 12:56pm

be nice but do not move back to a train wreck

Move on with your life as far away from him as possible. Change your thinking to I DESERVE BETTER.

Move on

Tell him to take a long walk off a short plank.

Please don’t give him anymore money.

They are called ex for a reason. Move on!

Sounds to me like he's a selfish user. You are lucky that you found this out before YOU married him. Don't give him a thing!

Don't get sucked in with his stories, he left you and married someone else that should be enough for you to steer clear of him. Never, never give him any money as he will be just stringing you along.

Tell him to piss off!

He dumped you, married someone else, decided he’s made the wrong decision and asked you to help him get his car out? Best advice I can give? Let the ass swing in the breeze! Move on, it’s a big world and there’s more caring guys than a selfish person like him!

He is an EX, leave him as an EX...get on with your life, He is now married can no longer be yours. YOU deserve better, he is a loser.

I'm broke. Can you send me $400 too? 🤣🤣🤣

Tell him you want the money back but not him.

That was a very hard lesson. But at least you can't be hurt again.

Put him back on the lot!

Oh dear call him up or his wife and ask for the money back

You need to block and erase his number so that he can't contact you again. Sounds like you are wanting to keep hearing from him. He's married, let his wife deal with him.

Why would anyone financially support someone who has betrayed you ?????

Currentlty I am waiting for my new Girlfriend to come from Kansas USA Michael

First off, I’m really sorry you went through that. You were kind, trusting, and still had empathy for someone who hurt you—that says a lot about your heart. But it also sounds like he took advantage of your kindness. Here’s the truth: someone who left, married someone else, then only came back when things weren’t working out—and asked you for money—is not looking out for you. He’s looking out for himself. And the fact that he disappeared after getting help? That speaks volumes. If he reaches out again asking for money or trying to rekindle anything, it’s completely okay—and honestly, healthy—for you to set a boundary. You don’t owe him anything, especially after what you’ve already given, emotionally and financially. You can say something like: “I helped you once because I cared, but I need to look after myself now. I wish you well, but I’m not in a position to do that again.” Simple. Respectful. Clear. You deserve someone who shows up for you, not someone who only pops up when they’re in trouble.

First off, I’m really sorry you went through that. You were kind, trusting, and still had empathy for someone who hurt you—that says a lot about your heart. But it also sounds like he took advantage of your kindness. Here’s the truth: someone who left, married someone else, then only came back when things weren’t working out—and asked you for money—is not looking out for you. He’s looking out for himself. And the fact that he disappeared after getting help? That speaks volumes. If he reaches out again asking for money or trying to rekindle anything, it’s completely okay—and honestly, healthy—for you to set a boundary. You don’t owe him anything, especially after what you’ve already given, emotionally and financially. You can say something like: “I helped you once because I cared, but I need to look after myself now. I wish you well, but I’m not in a position to do that again.” Simple. Respectful. Clear. You deserve someone who shows up for you, not someone who only pops up when they’re in trouble.

This AI generated nonsensical unbelievable story with grammatical errors, confirms that AI is producing time wasting phenomenon that is definitely not worthy of a reply. Maybe a human should write the story ~!!! Ha !! Ha!!

Ask him for your money back and if he doesn't pay it back in a certain time frame sue him. Don't give him anymore of your money.

Get your money back and turn the page otherwise consider it a goodbye gift and block his dumbass

I'm single. Not applicable to me

Really should have blocked him and moved on the first time. He is using you.

Seriously? Sorry your a fool.

I think you know.... Don't let your emotions get the better of you. This is when you need to do critical thinking. If you have to get a pen & paper and list all that you have overcome since he left you. I am sure you have grown in many ways! Just think you can afford to help him with $400, but he didn't have it.

Should be obvious. Hang up on him. He's playing with you!

Say, "No, thank you. Good bye". "BTW You owe me $400,00."

Sarah write to him and ask for your $400 back and when you receive it forget him.

He’s a liar and a scammer Block him

Really? What arrangement did he make to pay you back? Nothing? Oh well, let his wife know.

Find a way to get him to pay some of your registration. Don't give in to him again, and forget about it. If you have children together, make him pay 400 dollars more towards an AI robot birthday present. Charge him interest. at 7.6 %, if that doesn't help try 9.4 %, or 9.45% might grab his attention. Take his new girl friend out to dinner, then run away make her pay the bill. Edited 23-Apr-25 09:36am

DITCH DITCH DITCH

Send the texts to his new wife. Women should stick together. Look at how he managed to scam money out of you after hurting you that bad…imagine what he’s telling her.

He sure sucked you in

Dear Sarah very sorry to hear of your problems you are best rid of him

You were scammed. Learn grammar and spelling. Then send him a letter, posted to his wife so she gets it and sees what he's up to. Maybe she put him up to it.

It should be advious, he used you for money and then ignored you, that should be a huge red flag. Your letting him know that he can use you when he wants to and you are letting him do this to you. Wake up

Just delete his number and move on

Delete his number and block ,he knows that you are gullible as you still have feelings for him .He has moved on and so must you. Taking money from you is just a low act and disrespectable and using you to his advantage .Look for signs in your next relationship and never loan money to anyone without a pay back plan .If he turns up ask him to leave the property or you will call the police .

Run!