As a sensible variety of feminist I agree. To my way of thinking having expanded choices and civil equality doesn’t rule out this kind of social nicety. It’s about respect and good manners wether the recipient is capable or not. Just the other day as I made to go into a meeting venue a lovely man held the door open. I felt like a princess.

I love it when a door is opened for me; I always thank the person as I am going through. What I really hate is when I open the door for a female and don't get any acknowledgement whatsoever - that really pissed me off and more than once I have called out "Thank you" (loudly). Some women are just plain rude and ignorant!

Self-opening doors should be mandatory, solves a lot of problems.

I am a 60's child and grew up with some feminists crying foul if a man opened the door, paid for a meal etc. but they missed the point. We wanted equal pay, equal rights, etc. but not to lose our femininity. I love a man showing politeness, opening doors, respect, etc. I taught my sons these basic manners but also to give women respect and support. Now you see men sitting when a woman enters the room whereas once they used to stand (if they knew them or were in a social circumstance). Old people are left standing and often pushed or shoved out of the way. I think manners is something that has been missing in teaching many both males and females.

I think it is lovely too. People should always be kind to one another whatever their gender.

I only wish these young whippersnappers,take a page of these, GENTLEMAN, manners books, cause the world will be a better place

Me too

Agree with you Johana. I love when a door is opened for me and I am just as happy to open a door, or keep it open for others to follow through. It is just good manners in my opinion.

Wonderful

I love it!

a sign of a gentleman?

Been opening the door for years.. it is well liked by both sexes

Manners. Hard to come by now

As a Man today, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

It doesn't fall into the "sexist" category at all! A man opening a door for a woman is delightful (and kinda sexy!).

Manners, whats that is today's moto (unfortunately)

It is common sense to open the door anyone although with COVID-19 it is a little more difficult.

I was always taught to open Doors for all women. I dont see it as an issue, just nice manners

I like good manners regardless of feminism

its nice when someone holds or opens the door

I also hold doors open for people if I see them behind me. It is called having good manners but also I think it's rude to let go and shut the door in a persons face. Gender doesn't matter, however I still think it's nice when men do this. The woman you spoke to clearly has some anger issues towards men if she thinks it is something sinister.

I think it is good manners to open the door for a lady

I open or hold the door open for all walks of life, it's just common courtesy, good manners & respect.Edited 10-Aug-20 15:07pm

My late husband used to open the door for me and anyone else when necessary. I will hold a door open for both men and women. It's called courtesy.

If a guy did that for me, I'd normally be halfway through it before he could try

I totally agree that it is lovely when a man (or anyone) opens the door for me. That lady's attitude of think men think she is incapable is ABSOLUTE RUBBISH in my opinion. She is the one with a very BAD ATTITUDE .....I say. Keep on opening doors ......................

Good manners and common sense to open door/s for a lady or anyone behind you in a store etc.

How beautiful is this photo. Both are looking happy.

Sadly, mostly, chivalry is dead.

I always appreciate it when someone holds the door open for me. It's a lovely and thoughtful gesture. It's manners. Something that is sorely lacking in today's society.

Don't understand why some people can't appreciate kindness. Stop whingeing please.

It's an act of kindness and consideration of another human being. I'm always grateful that someone has thought of me, not just themselves.

Opening a door for a man or woman is lovely - fixed it from a 50's saying.

Hardcore feminestas (borrowed this one from Futurama) made it impossible for a man to behave in a gallant way, things are way too politically correct nowadays

It would be rude not to for either female or males or any other gender for that matter.

i am 82 and i still open the car doors to a lady,just a habit i dont want to break

I will generally open the door for a woman. To me,it's good manners. Perhaps i'm getting old.

I agree. Sometimes I simply feel like letting the door slam back into the face of someone following me who is heavy laden. Of course I don't do that, I just feel like it because so many people - men as well as women - simply either verbally abuse you or make no effort whatsover to smile and give you a simple "Thank You". Manners have become for so many a thing of the past which is a great pity. As a male, I do not hold a door open for a woman (or a man) because I think they are incapable or the ill-named "Weaker Sex" I do it simplyif it means nothing more than to stop the door smacking them in the face! Which is something some of them deserve!Edited 10-Aug-20 12:28pm

Agreed, I think opening doors for others to go in first, is an act of chivalry, and manners. If someone is unwilling to do the 'gentlemanly' thing for you - or anyone else, really - in the small things, what's he going to be like in bigger matters. It's the "little things" that give the truth away about someone's nature and/or intentions. Common courtesy - like it's cousin, (sense), is not so common, these days. But it also depends on which door he's opening for you....;}

Opening the door for anyone is lovely but it isn't lovely when you aren't thanked for opening the door by a adult whom you opened it for.

Man or woman both are equal hence there is no Question of insulting each other

i also hold the door open for people of both sexes,hang on,im going to get hammered now for saying both sexes,theres really 57 now. lolololol

I open doors for both men and women and since I have aged a bit I now notice that both younger men and women open the door for me. It’s absolutely delightful to see such courtesy’s from the younger generation

yes I do it all the time and only get abused now and again. Bt I still do it.....

I also open the door for either sex. But like it when someone either man or woman opens the door for me. It's part of having good manners. I also say thank you to whoever it is. Edited 10-Aug-20 10:57am

it’s great chivalry isn’t dead

I completely agree with you Johana C as I do the same. Kindred spirits and great minds think alike from the smallest to the largest act of human decency. Yes, chivalry still exists in pockets that aren't full of the crap of cluttered minds full of mischief of how to break things that have solidly existed amongst people who just want to have a peaceful and cooperative life.

I agree, opening the door means that you acknowledge that person. What does she want the person in front of her to slam it shut in her face

I think that Woman who complain about a door being held open for them deserve to have someone let it go and the door hit them, they would soon change their stupid views. It is good manners for someone to hold it open for you!

it shows a sign of respect i was always told it was good manners to open the door for a women

I appreciate it when a door is held open for me and always say Thank You. However I also hold doors open for other people, be they male or female, old or young.

Johana, i would be delighted to open a door for you any time.Edited 10-Aug-20 09:31am

Absolutely. The good old days where we had manners. Men act like real mean and women recognise they are of lesser physical strength and need that help.

I think opening a door for somebody regardless of their gender is just good manners and common courtesy. Why do some people have to make acts of common courtesy into something they are not? No wonder more and more people these days are becoming self centred and rude.

it is lovely but we seem to have lost this custom

It should be encouraged, it is just simply good manners.

I do all these things to both men and women and I think they're beautiful gestures that are a nod to our past and upbringing. But I can see why it makes some women feel uncomfortable, these behaviours were prominent at a time when women were viewed as possessions and had no rights (they needed a male relative's permission to do ANYTHING)

My personal view is that if you are in a group or by yourself and more than one person wants to go through a door the person who gets there first should hold the door open for the others, regardless of their gender. It is only polite to do so. Sadly politeness and manners are lacking nowadays in many people of all genders.

Yes l think its a nice gesture

I totally agree with you Johana... I open doors for everyone and give up my seat for pregnant ladies and elders

Yes it is good to be kind to one another

People thinking this way is one negative result of feminism. I think it is considerate and I also hold doors open for both men and women as I think it is polite. Let's not go to the topic of men who are actually chauvanists. :)

If its by nature then its always a win win

I was brought up to open doors and still do for both men & women but so many people take it for granted and can't even say thank you.

It is manners and shows how they were raised, I like it, myself

The days of men opening a door for a woman has long passed. I like for a man to open a door for me. I do not know what has gone wrong with women.

Individuals can have impeccable manners and still be a racist and or a sexist. Also, some of the most notorious criminals in our society had impeccable manners. It isn't about OPENING DOORS (unless the individual is physically disabled) - it is about OPENING UP our society too everyone - which our society still REFUSES to do! Chivalry is a myth - in time all myths DIE! On a personal level - I open the door for men and women - and I feel FOOLISH - every time!

agree

It is a lovely thing to do. It is polite and courteous.

Sorts the true gentlemen out from the boys