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Is it rude to not talk much?
Andrzej J30-May-24
Silence isn't a bad thing, though, and some people even enjoy it. It offers a chance to reflect and sort through thoughts. Actively and respectfully participating in a conversation takes energy even if you're only listening. Your partner, or anyone else, may not have the same conversational energy as you do. What do you reckon? Is it rude to not talk much?
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  • Too many have far too much to say!!! Maybe the old saying "A shut mouth catches no flies" is often very relevant.
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    • Lol
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    • 😆😆 love this!
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  • Um, what, I'm sorry I didn't hear that. Can you repeat it again? Was just listening to the birds outside, not paying much attention to what you said. 😁
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    • It all depends on several things and situations. Plea the 5th doesn't solve much! Two ears and one mouth could suggest the need to listen far more than speaking sometimes. Yet, if asked to respond or speak, then have at it....yet politely enough to allow others a chance too!😊
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      • No, it is not rude to not talk much, sometimes we just have nothing interesting to talk about, some people talk too much, it gets very annoying when some people have to tell you the same stories every time, they see you, which I think is a sign of Dementia, repeated stories
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        • Some people on rewardia chat too much. You can see their writing. About nothing interesting. That tends to bore me .
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          • Too many people have too much to say rambling on. The ones who listen are usually the more intelligent. The old saying is silence is golden.
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            • No. If it's important a discussion about something that matters then you should talk, if it's not important then it doesn't matter. I wasn't much of a talker as a kid, esp around adults. I preferred to listen and take it all in. Sometimes I didn't as well, it wasn't any of my business what the adults were discussing. But you couldn't help overhear things. Some juicy gossip at times. But usually went in one ear and out the other. There are some things that people discuss that bore me and I don't encourage the conversation much. If it is interesting to me then I usually start asking questions. So people usually know when they really have my attention. I don't usually pretend I'm interested.
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              • I think it is more rude to talk a lot but say very little
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                • No definitely not
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                  • No.
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                    • No, I actually think its rude to talk too much and dominate a conversation.
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                      • Yeah. Unless it's interesting, " just don't bother me". 😊
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                    • No it isn’t rudeness! We’re all different; quiet, bashful and withdrawn, loud, outspoken and opinionated, and some of us are a little bit of everything; quietly confident, excitable and humorous, humble and empathetic. Choose who you want to spend time with, keep an open mind, and don’t judge a book by its cover…
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                      • It totally depends on the situation. Are you talking to fill an embarrassing silence? Is someone needing your considered advice? are you just talking because you love your own voice? Are you trying to talk someone out of suicide? Are you being paid to talk? We all need to assess the situation and feel the vibes which will tell us if it is too much or not enough.
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                        • I totally talk to fill an embarrassing silence... I hate that I do this... like all the time!
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                      • God gave us 2 ears, and 1 mouth, so that we can listen more, and talk less. He asks us to be Humble. There are many verses in the Bible book of Proverbs that mention how God feels about our speech, and the use of our tongue. That being said, be quick to listen, and slow to speak. It is not rude to not talk much. It's more rude to talk too much! ;-D
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                        • speak when you are spoken to
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                          • Absolutely nothing wrong with being quiet/reserved. A lot wrong with being a constant chatterbox....
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                            • My motto is speak when spoken to but don't hold the floor.
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                              • Not really, especially if you really don't know what to say or not familiar with the topic at hand. Sometimes silence is the answer.
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                                • It will depend on your 'personal traits' are you EXTROVERT or INTROVERT....also your culture will determine HOW you respond in the scenario you described.... furthermore, other factors could come into PLAY!
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                                  • when you rioted, gleefully causing destruction of other peoples property, shouting racist propaganda and displaying violent aggression, do you think being extrovert or introvert affected the quality of your contribution? Or same-same?
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                                  • yes, you're absolutely correct as always Sir W plus I inherited my mother's "chatterbox" personality! I also tend to talk more when I'm nervous or anxious, even tho I'm a huge introvert!
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                                • It all depends on the info given or received.
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                                  • Personally, I would rather have someone silently compile their thoughts and share them for me to ponder as opposed to dealing with someone who talks to hear themselves without offering anything poignant or substantive. Thus, I find it rude when people commandeer the conversation but still say nothing.
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                                    • I think it is rude to make an effort when someone is trying to converse with you, yes.
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                                      • I tend to disagree, there is a manner in which we can interject into the conversation as such "If I may for just a moment, if you please..." and then say your piece.
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                                      • Melinda, did you mean it is rude NOT to make an effort when someone is trying to converse with you? I agree with that! ;-D Kevin makes since if his understanding is correct. Now I'm very confused!?! ;-(
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                                      • 2025writerrochelle
                                        She means,rude not to make an effort. Lol
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                                    • Talk when you have something constructive to say. Some individuals speak too much.
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                                      • You are right! ESP when your in public. Non stop chatting really irritates me.
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                                    • I'm my own best sounding board, anyhoo... keeping quiet is okay with me. If I want someone's input, I'll ask for it.
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                                      • If you are ignoring people then it is rude. if you are just an introvert or shy then it is not rude.
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                                        • NO ITS NOT RUDE
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                                          • Be as you are (authentic). Being a good listener is wonderful.
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                                            • 👏👏👏
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                                          • Nope.
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                                            • it is rude when hubby does not answer a question drives me nuts
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                                              • Some times it's better to keep ones mouth shut and just listen.
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                                                • Good advice,
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                                              • SO - SO
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                                                • It is much better than not being able to shut up!
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                                                  • You would know that! Look at all the boring chit-chat you do on here, on rewardia. Haha Go seal your mouth up with tape!
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                                                  • omg... that's totally me 😬
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                                                • Depends. If you just sit and ignore the conversation then yes it is rude. You obviously do not want to be there so I think you should leave. Some people are listeners but they are still an active participant.
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