Discussions of the day

These days, it seems that kids are "dating" or "going together", before they even know what responsibilities come along with relationships of that sort. How old were you when you remember the"love bug" biting you? When you were past teasing the opposite sex because you liked them, but actually wanted to sit together on the bus and tell each other things that were never on your radar screen before? You actually liked someone and demonstrated it in a mature fashion. For me,...
QMY10
At15 met my neighbour started dating at sweet 16 engaged at 17 married at 18 first bub 19 bub2 21 bub3 22 bub4 24 angel bub 27 bub 5 28 n last bub 30 ...now we have 13 grandies n 1 great grandy n just celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary
07-Oct-22

How to deal with bullying and harassment in the work place? I've been at a job for 2 years with constant bullying from a couple coworkers.. Management doesn't do anything I just don't know what to do. Need this job yet being pushed to the edge. Some advice please :/
Neo
It is sad to say that though companies love to say how inclusive they are and how much they don't tolerate bullying that they do nothing when things are reported and even going higher up the chain of command does nothing. Your options are then:
1/ Report the matter to the government authority for action
2/ Tolerate it
3/ Resign
Not fair but this is life and it is sad to say nothing changes.
17-Sep-23

Research tells us that many people are marrying later in life, but why are some bucking the trend and getting hitched in their early 20s? Do you happen to know anyone of those that make up 11 percent of Australians marrying young for better or for worse?
GB
I got married at 23 to my child bride 22. At the end of this month will be married for 57 years. Still going strong.
18-Sep-23

Many of us are told "Hey you're a natural! Have you ever considered ... as a career?" We're often told to pursue our talents, but is this good advice? Isn't it better to learn how to strengthen our weaknesses, which would offer possibly more of an opportunity for personal growth? How many of us have made a career out of our talents anyway? What do you think? Which method have you used, and how has that worked for you?
Aamiya (Sri Lanka)
Depends on what your talents are I guess.
I don't really have any talents unless you count dealing with people. I hate it though! I'm a Legal Executive so I deal with people all the time so I guess I have kind of used my talent.
12-Sep-23

Home loan rates % will they come back down? I am hearing every month that they are rising, and people are becoming highly stressed and sadly starting to miss out on things, and in some case crucial things. My question is, does anyone know what is really going to happen in the near future? Will it get to the point that people can simply not afford to pay?
LindaB
Interest rates are still very low in comparison to historical rates but house prices make the current rates unaffordable. People are borrowing beyond their means to get the house of their dreams first off instead of buying small and working towards the house they really want. My parents built our childhood home when they first married and added on and made improvements as the family grew and needs changed. Our house was originally a 3-bed, 1 bath, 1 living room with a fireplace and ended up a 5-bed, 2 bath, 2 living rooms with an extended dining room and central heating throughout to accommodate the family of 7 that we ended up as. To a certain extent, people's greed and immigration has pushed up house prices, which also has an effect on the amount of interest they have to pay, regardless of the rates.
16-Sep-23

Sydney is going to have a advertising campaign to try and convince residents to stop flushing undesirable objects down their LOOS. It blocks the sewage pipes when they do this, and it's not good for anyone to have this happen. Wipes are not permitted...but its many other things being flushed including oils and even toiletries...etc. Do you think some do this on ---purpose...or do you think they are just thoughtless and careless?
Pongo
This is a pet subject of mine, I’ve been in the plumbing business for over 50 years and in that time I have seen strange articles stuck in drains
Often children put toys in the loo and in England there was a man at the water treatment station employed to look for still births. One really common article was a sanitizer that hung on the rim of the loo. It was just small enough to disappear from sight but never went any further. The clear water could pass but solids would accumulate . I must have cleared hundred out over the years until they made them bigger
07-Jan-22

I have wondered what the reasons behind why I meet more women who start menopause younger and younger. I started just after turning 30. It seems that there is more to this hormonal change in our community of women than meets the eye. Wondering if our meat we are consuming are filled with growth hormones given to the animals before they reach out supermarkets and how it is affecting us in the long run.
APB
Fertility in both males and females is dropping at a quite surprising rate...it might even be as high 5% or more per generation...I suspect the planet has had enough of us....
18-Sep-22

I know I'm not the only one in this situation, so that's why I am asking for advice. So, basically I'm overweight. Not greatly, but enough to make me feel quite self-conscious a lot of the time. Every time I hear someone snicker somewhere behind me, I think they are laughing at me. Even though I know that they probably aren't there is still that little voice in my head making me feel insecure. How can I get past this and get on with my life before it runs out?
Raymond K 449636
Who decides what is normal ? Just be yourself and don't worry about others, and just enjoy one day at a time
14-Sep-23

I was taught to be better 10 minutes early, than one minute late, no matter where you are going, because people who are always late have no respect for anyone. Even for any appointments or interviews, as if you are late, you are going to be stressed & panicking for not being there on time. Does anyone else think the same as me?
Bear
IF I WAS ONE MINUTE LATE FINISHING. I WOULD HAVE BEEN SACKED. I WAS A NEWS VISION EDITOR, IF I DID NOT HAVE THE LEAD STORY IN THE SYSTEM WITHOUT SAYING IT WAS NOT READY HELL TO PAY. FORTUNATELY THAT NEVER HAPPENED. THE CLOSEST I CAME I REMOTED THE MACHINE AS THE READER WAS READING THE INTRO.
13-Sep-23

This is the most controversial topic. One like dogs and the other like cats. Or both? It seems like no one can win, but so many people have their own opinions!
Christine M 323842
Like them all except for the ones that people dress up in stupid clothes and carry around in handbags.
10-Sep-23

Betrayal is a breach of trust and can feel very much like grief. Is it possible to truly move on? Have you ever undergone a huge betrayal? If so, how have you sought to process these lies?
BLM
If you are having difficulties moving on (from betrayal) - try conversing with a mental health specialist/professional.
11-Sep-23

You love cats. You have decided when your last two are gone, never to get another one because of all the damage they do to your home. Someone dumps off two strays, and they are hungry, you feed them, and they begin to lay near your home, you know soon you will be able to catch them. What do you do with them??? You know your first mistake was feeding them, however, you could not stand to watch them starve because one reminded you of one you gave away, and it left...
Christine M 323842
They need to be desexed whether you decide to keep them or not, or else you will have many, many homeless kitties to worry about.
06-Sep-23

Hello everyone. So I have a 6-month-old boy and was wondering is it a good thing to put your child through daycare or is it pretty ok just to wait till kindly? New at this :)
Evie
Get married (if you're not) and Raise your own kids. There's a good reason the traditional nuclear family worked so well.
Triggering in 3...2...1...
09-Sep-23

Are you sick of proving to robots that you are not a robot? Are you annoyed when a robot or AI interface insists you are a robot? What are the most annoying steps you have been forced to endure to prove your humanity (not just in surveys, but in real life) and has failing a test that is supposedly something only a robot can fail inconvenienced you? My answer is all the time!!! Even at work, when we have to reset our passwords and have to have multifactor authentication...
lippy loo
I just truly over them already. You phone a company and you get one of these voice activated robots that goes on and on and then they disconnect you. So much for customer service. Why do we have to prove we are not robots for heavens sakes.
07-Sep-23

My twins are 9. They would like to walk home from the bus stop, is 9 too young to let them do this?
Bugalugs
Depends on how mature they are. Do they know Never to speak with anyone they don't know or who have not visited their Mum and da at home?
I thinke Lorne M, below, has got it right. Safety in numbers.
They Must also klnow that there is to be no wandering off simply because they feel like it and that they Must come straight home and then, with your permission go off with other kids so that Mum/Dad knows where they are going.
08-Sep-23

With so many scams escalating, I would really like to know, what is currently circulating. The latest one I got was a text message just saying "Hello". As we get used to recognising scam calls and text, all of a sudden it changes and something else starts. What is the latest one's you have received?
Heather the Chocoholic
Thankfully my phone usually comes up with a potential scam warning. Most numbers are overseas numbers, Aussie usually. I don't usually answer calls from numbers I don't know, if it's important they will leave a message.
Emails are a bit easier to workout if a scam, claim to be from a genuine company, if in doubt always check the email address, usually a "mistake" in it.
04-Sep-23

When I was younger, I was able to make a few dollars during the summer to be able to go spend at the store how I pleased (candy and ice cream, of course) I was hit with a sad realization the other day when my 11 year old son and his friend looked around to make some money. There was little to nothing that people around would pay them to do. They asked people if they could walk their dogs, tried to sell iced tea and were eager to start up lawn mowers (which I would...
ShawneeBaby
It's a petty sad state of affairs when one has to start working at any age. Once 'work' is started in never ends (even in retirement.) We should try and let kids be kids as long as possible because like time itself, once it passes it never comes back.
05-Sep-23

I often have seen options in screening questions that are obviously fake and designed to weed out robots or people that randomly select answers without really reading them, but I had to laugh out loud when I saw "Raktajino" as a possible answer to select on "what do you drink regularly". For those who are not Trekkies, Raktajino is a fictional Klingon coffee drink often chosen as the goto pick me up across the galaxy. Though there are "recipes" on the internet for...
Andrew C 287196
One silly survey had a question that asked "Are you dead? Yes / No" to test that people were reading the questions properly.
30-Aug-23

Has anyone heard of the 'Bulla Rescue' in Australia which involves horses? I watched a documentary about rescuing Race horses that were left to starve to death by a trainer. There were many reports sent to the RSPCA, but it was not investigated. They found over 20 horses dead or dying from starvation. 23 horses were rescued, but 3 had to be put down. If you report something serious, shouldn't it be investigated. In the end the police were also involved.
Mooi
So much goes on in the racing industry. It is all about money and greed. It happens with horse racing and greyhound racing, rodeos and any form of animal exploitation. It is always about the money they can make out of an animal and when it is spent and considered no longer profitable, it is discarded. These animals are sentient beings, not commodities.
15-Aug-23

Do you think reaching out to therapy is worth it? Mental health awareness. So many suffer from depression yet not everyone seeks help (my good friend :(. ) Need advice on how to help someone to go through a rough patch
BLM
Is reaching out for therapy (mental health) - a good idea? YES! Is this individual at the point - that he or she knows that they need to converse with a mental health specialist/professional? Does this individual have a 'health plan' that covers depression? If not, can this individual afford to visit a mental health specialist/professional on a regular basis for 'an extended period of time'?
03-Sep-23

All I ve noticed is an increase in commercials getting you to invest in real gold. IE .buying bricks and keeping them under your bed? It might be that gold is a good investment for some, but it's not the right move for everyone. Gold is typically considered a low-risk, safe-haven investment, but it's not one that offers high returns. Does anyone have any comment one way or the other? If so, please help me understand via proof or quotes from your sources. In this economy fact...
Glenyse H
Not for me . I have a couple of Company\u2019s that produce gold and the dividends are enough for me.
02-Sep-23

Even without kids, many couples stay in loveless marriages, and there are a few reasons why. Many want to avoid talking to their spouse about how they feel about their marriage because they want to avoid hurting them. However, not communicating can be even more hurtful. Couples also stay together due to social norms. Do you think that a marriage last without being in love?
LindaB
I was in a loveless relationship for 17 years. We ran businesses together and he was a highly respected person within the Irish community in London. It suited him to have me on his arm at formal events and functions and I was never going to give up the lifestyle! It's not for everyone but it worked for us.
01-Sep-23

Recently separated from my husband almost 2 months now. We ve been married for almost 15yrs. I d like to discuss or hear some opinions in your case. We separated because he drank to much and he didn t like me going to the gym. He s still coming around and sometimes gives me money for bills. Should I give up completely or move on? Here s the catch . I already got involved with the neighbor. Fix my marriage or move on? Please be nice. I m totally obviously confused at this...
Christine M 323842
You\u2019ve already moved on if you\u2019re rooting the neighbour Morenita !!!
You\u2019re just feeling a bit guilty because you are accepting money from the ex.
No one knows all the details of what has really gone on so only you can decide the right course of action to take.
29-Aug-23

Was having a conversation with my partner a little while ago about the latest person who won a big amount in the lottery. He grumbled that they probably didn't deserve it. I said anyone who buys a ticket deserves to win. So he asked "So if a rich person like Bill Gates for example brought a ticket then does he deserve to win?" To which I replied "Yeah because he brought a ticket!". What do you think? Do you think anyone deserves luck or good fortune?
BLM
Everyone deserves luck or good fortune - PERIOD!
31-Aug-23

Early motor vehicles were powered by steam, and drivers needed to have somebody walk before the vehicle waving a flag, to warn others of impending danger. We have come a long way since then, and no longer need to waive those flags. Similarly, when Nuclear Energy was in its infancy there were risks and accidents, but whether you realise it or not, Nuclear Reactors are everywhere now - both on and deep down in every ocean, as well as in most major city...
Andrew C 287196
Nope! It's a massive disaster waiting to happen (as Russia found out, Japan nearly found out). It is also far more polluting then every other form of energy creation combined - nuclear waste takes millions, if not billions, of years to disappear and they have no idea what to actually do with it. There are no nuclear reactors in New Zealand and the government long ago banned nuclear-powered ships (including the US Navy) from even visiting here.
04-Jul-23

In the month of June I put Mr Percy a peach face, in my garage, on a cupboard near the brick wall to keep him safe. I gave him plenty of water and sunflower seeds. Then we left to Melbourne for a couple of nights. When we came back the cage was empty. The cage had not been opened and there was no feathers or a trace of my little bird. What do you think happened to him?
Liane H
It was professor plum ,in the laundry with the drainpipe ..
25-Aug-23

There are reports of children on a large scale refusing to go to school, and it has been labelled a medical condition. Is it really, or is it simply a case of children being children? The problem has blossomed since the Covid lockdowns, when I suppose children found all sorts of things they could do at home rather than sit in a classroom and listen to a teacher. Specialists are asking for more money and resources to deal with the problem, but shouldn't parents just tell their...
Pennye R
It\u2019s because parents are letting their children get away with everything. If there are problems at school, then investigate and deal with them. Allowing children to avoid facing problems will only create more problems for them later in life.
28-Aug-23

Despite the rise in online dating, many of us still meet our partners at work. Can it work, and what happens when something goes wrong? How much say our employers should have over our love lives?
blunder boy
39 years ago I asked my current wife to join our work indoor cricket team [the twisted kids] ,she did, now 3 kids 3 grandkids so many houses 4 dogs 5 cars,i digress ,my employer of 20 years asked me to talk to my wife about quitting she had just become pregnant with our first, so i quit along with her and we started a cleaning business which went for nearly 34 yours until covid put an end to that,but it was such a good move ,we met a lot of people,so i thank them for there ignorance
26-Aug-23

My favourite camp as a kid was going to a massive area of land with dorms on it. We went bushwalking, horseback riding, archery, and a scavenger hunt. It was really cool. What was your favourite?
JANN R
I only went to one camp and it was by the sea were we did a lot of things it was the only camp there was when I was at school it was a Portsea victoria
27-Aug-23

What's your go-to quick and easy meal choice for the night?
writerrochelle
15 minute meal in my microwave! I don't cook anymore. Grocery Outlet Bargain Market gets meals in that only cost $1-$2 each, and they're very good, and inexpensive! Latest find, Jenny Craig meals for $.99 each! ;-D
24-Aug-23

I have 5 beautiful grandchildren ranging in age from 18 months to 9 years. They have so many toys, books & games. Each birthday & Christmas I try to think of something different for them. The 9 year old's last birthday I chose a membership to a Kids Conservation club. She gets invited to fun activities, plus receives relevant activity books & parcels every few months. There are activities they can do as a family. Like visiting the glow worms, studying crabs etc. Do most...
Jan H 753322
We have 6 grandchildren, aged 5- 18. We have given them blocks, books, dolls and truck as presents for them to take home. I have always made up a box of things to do when they are at our place . A new board game, craft , paints and an outside toy or basketball etc
22-Aug-23

If someone with a lot of education (law school grad, for example) decided they'd be happier doing something that even didn't require college, like a plumber, bartender, opening a coffee shop or grocery store, whatever, Is that an okay decision to make or a waste of an education?
Smiley
I truly "LOVE" how people see jobs in trades (plumber, chippie, sparkie, gardener, etc) or retail as a lower rated job, like the people who work those jobs are a lesser person to someone who has completed many years of uni or has a high degree.
If it wasn't for cleaners, retail staff, check out operators, tradies and the like, how would you be able to do your shopping or even live? You would not have a house to live in- lots of tradies helped to build the vast majority of homes we all live in, without retail staff there'd be no shops operating, without cleaning staff many businesses would be piled high in filth.
I know of people who have doctorates, people who are A/Prof's who are cleaners or are doing labouring jobs or retail work as they simply cannot get work in their field, or maybe their job got too stressful, so they chose to do something completely different. These people also do a lot of volunteer work in roles some other "well educated" would not dream of doing.
I think it comes down to how you are raised. If you grew up with a silver spoon in your mouth and your parents taught you to look down on those with "lesser jobs", then sadly i think it will be very hard to change how one sees and treats other people and you may struggle with life if you're thrown a curve ball.
If you're raised to treat the cleaners, retail workers and garbage truck driver with respect and talk to them as a fellow equal human being, than i think you're a well rounded person who will do fine in life and be able to handle whatever the world throws their way.
And just as a FYI- Plumbers and tradies do up to 4years study/on the job training.
Bartenders and coffee shop workers also do a lot of training courses and need to get accreditation for some of their roles.
Same with grocery store workers. Yes, it's a job where you can start with no experience, but after doing the job for a while, you will realise you deal with many different things- abusive and/or rude customers, customers who they tell their deepest secrets to, you will sometimes be the ONLY person an individual (customer) interacts with, you will form friendships with customers, you will learn a lot about how a business is run.
If you study for a decade and are still miserable, was it all worth it?
If you start an entry level job and thoroughly enjoy it, do you consider this to be a waste of your education or the fact you have had an amazing opportunity open up for you?
23-Aug-23

1. Planning out a week s worth of meals before going to the grocery store and then not wanting to eat the meal I planned but having to cook it anyway everynight. 2. How incompetent everybody is. when I was a child, I thought adults knew everything. Turns out... that's not true. 3. There s always something you have to do. Like even when relaxing, there are things you really should be doing. 6. Having a job I don t like but can t quit because it pays well...
GB
Adulting? what do you mean, At 80 years of age I don't understand. Adultery I'm not allowed to do that.
21-Aug-23

There are rational considerations around a decision, small or big, be about buying something or getting married. We all have come to somehow to a decision. Some people writing down the pros and cons, some follow an outside advice, some...well, some follow their gut feeling! What about you?
Robert L NZ
GUT FEELING FOR SURE!!! THE LONGER YOU PROCRASTINATE THE BETTER THE CHANCE OF GETTING IT WRONG!!!!
20-Aug-23

Skin specialists warn that soap and detergents used in baths and showers can remove vital oils from your skin...this could lead to skin complaints. Wrinkles and ageing the chemical companies respond by making shower products that make you at least as greasy after your shower... Ecologists warn that we need to conserve water...and having everyone showering or bathing on a daily basis is an extravagance the Earth does not need... Now Hollywood has joined with some...
Lachelle B
Hollywood? The owners of five+ bedrooms, three+ bathrooms, swimming pools, manicured lawns and three+ cars in the driveway with only two people living there? Oh yes, they definitely know about saving water \ud83e\udd23.
19-Aug-23

What piece of advice would you give your younger self? My advice would be not to care what anyone thought of me. Just do what made me happy. Missed out on so much I feel as I cared what anyone would think, or I let fear get the best of me
Lones
Be more frugal, I was just told I am too frugal? \ud83e\udd23\ud83e\udd23if I didn\u2019t purchase the groceries we would be skin and bones
18-Aug-23

I've heard and seen so much horrible behaviour by people lately... Animal abuse, Child abuse and family violence, Crimes against society, Corporate greed, Inequality, Online bullying, Scamming, Looting, Road rage... need I go on? What the hell is going on with people. Things are only getting worse, especially as times are hard financially with the cost of living, not to mention Climate change and the after affects with Fires, Floods and Drought etc. Why aren't...
DeANG
As we already know in every country around the world there are good and bad people. Although when we stop for a moment and hear the media such as the news or read newspaper all we ever hear is bad, bad, terrifying news which involves crime, Stabbings, shootings, theft, assaults., hurting innocent people, causing pain to families, causing injuries/ death, road rage.Running people over and leaving them on the road to die and not render help. Hurting our kids, the elderly especially that are more vulnerable and easy targets especially if they are blind or deaf. I think personally if society keeps going this way we will not even be able to step outside of our homes , because we are all too scared and feel we could be next targeted. We are all struggling, whether it's due to the cost of living, job, unemployment, or health, People's moods and mental thoughts do not give the right to anyone to take it out on others or hurt those who are innocent and destroy people's lives. There is not enough hard punishment in place.
16-Aug-23

Cheeky creatures, great and small, they do naughty things yet somehow always find their way back into our hearts ... What are some classic habits or stories you have?
Victoria 1322770
Bad behaviour in pets should not be allowed. If you are considering caring for a pet, make sure you train it! Most problems stem from not enough attention. Give your pets love, attention, exercise and mental stimulation, and their behaviour WILL improve.
13-Aug-23

So I have a daughter who worked at a warehouse in customer service. Her hours have been cut so low because she's not needed at the checkout since self service is available. As a matter of fact it's all self service there now. What do you think about machines taking over some people jobs? I find it quite frustrating
LizzieLucy
They\u2019re asking me to do a job that I\u2019m untrained for and don\u2019t get paid for so they can save money, then they still want to check my receipt at the door.
12-Aug-23

According to a recent Variety magazine statement, the actor felt his approaching age of 81 as an action star was an important factor he wanted to convey for Indy, explaining that he wanted the character to look old and for the film to be highly ambitious in that fact. Ford turns 81 in a few weeks, and in his own word has 'grown up' and 'grown old' with his dear "Indy." "It completes 42 years of work," says Ford, of this emotional moment in his career. "It's a...
Lachelle B
I grew up watching Indy and grateful they haven't replaced him. Unlike most Hollywood films that butcher 'originals' to be more PC. Cheers to you Mr Harrison Ford.
14-Aug-23

Your son, daughter, grand child....has finally passed their licence. They don't have a lot of money, but would like a reliable one. They ask your advice. So what car would you recommend? Manual? Auto? Hybrid? Safety rating? Brand? Yes, a broad subject, but from experience or knowledge what would you choose for them? Public transport or walking is out of the question as they have to travel. Thanks.
Bugalugs
Toyota or Mazda but, but as Roslyn A says, hybrid or EV would be great but at present too expensive even for a used one. Manual or Automatic. I know this may sound a bit sexist but I think most young men would prefer a Manual as they are more fun to drive!
11-Aug-23

Being chronically late isn t just rude or inconvenient it s now considered a medical condition. A person recently went viral on TikTok for saying in a tearful video that she was reprimanded for asking for accommodation for "time blindness," a condition she said makes it harder to show up for work on time. People with time blindness struggle to keep track of and estimate time. So, is being late a real medical condition?
Andrew C 287196
*Everything* is a "medical condition" and has to be labelled these days, because nobody can take responsibility for their own decisions and actions. \ud83d\ude44
30-Jul-23

I had a friend who recently got scammed buying puppies from unlicensed sellers, he confronted him and managed to get his money back and that was that for him, I didn't get that I wanted to bring him down, so I ask you, you catch someone scamming you or misleading the public do you get your money back with an apology [maybe] or do you pursue them with the law and shut them down, hopefully, maybe get jail time for them
APB
sorry this one in a lot list of where Rewardia could have added another word to make the title make sense (no offense Blunder)..it should be their job to fix these easy problems..it's happened me too..its not necessary and embarrasing
..nobody home?
10-Aug-23

I have this issue with doing washing every single day for our now 11 and a half year old. The GP says it's a phase that he will overcome. My girlfriend wants to keep on using these night pant products called dry nights.... I told her that we would be better off taking him to a pediatrician or something alike... Being our first, my question is does make a near 12-year-old wear these products to bed do more harm than good? He also has camp coming up in late August......
Liane H
It's quite common in boys, My son was the same. Except we didn't have those in that sizing back then so it was bed liners and washing each day . There is a nasal spray that can help to slow things down, but basically in most cases it's simply hormonal,( the hormone responsible for concentrating the urine overnight is less present than it should be) and you will find once the 12yr mark kicks in or soon after ,. It will just stop. It's very frustrating I do remember ,but it's important not to let your child feel like it's an issue, They can't help it, It's not from trauma and it's not going to help restricting drinks before bed either. There are plenty of tips online . Don't bother with the bell and pad system either,, all it does is wake the child up when they wet with an alarm and interrupts their sleep often twice a night, more! .. not worth it . As I say it will just miraculously stop once his hormones kick in . Hope that helps some :)
08-Aug-23

Have you ever argued with a friend where you decided to end the relationship and all of a sudden they start posting on Facebook about relationship experts and the subjects are always about what you did wrong? I unfollowed this person and haven't contacted them since. What would you do? Did I do the right thing?
Lou
I hate people airing their dirty laundry on socials.. not a true friend to begin with by the sounds of it! Goodbye and good riddance
04-Aug-23

Education is rightly seen as one of the best ways to develop a country s economy, as more productive workers can create better living standards for everyone. But is there a limit to the benefits of education, and should countries be wary of this double-edged sword? Are we overeducated?
Pato Lo Duck
It is being un-educated that is allowing the likes of Trump and Putin to take control of the fate of the world..
02-Jul-23

What do people think about the wisdom of buying into a retirement village where the purchaser or their family doesn't receive back the price paid when they leave the village? You are buying lifestyle advantages like gym, heated pool, library, 24-hour support person, transport, restaurant/cafe, entertainment, companionship and new friendships etc, but the cost can be regarded as quite high given how much is taken by management when you leave the village. Usually when buying...
Muzza999 NZ
Not all retirement villages are run like that. I live in a Freedom Lifestyle Village where I get the capital gain if I was needing to sell. We have a great manager and I am very happy here
05-Aug-23

You can't tell the difference....it is saving the planet...it stops animal cruelty.....and this runs against... you can taste the difference...it is made of vegetables, so why does it cost twice the price of meat...if you are going to stop animal cruelty there are better ways...........surely being a vegetarian means eating no meat, so why do you need a meat substitute? Are you missing your dead animals? What do we think?
WonkyandProud
I see no point in humans becoming vegetarians. What do we do with the animals that we have on the planet? Cows have to be milked, and there's nothing better than beef in my opinion. People are not herbivores. Why do we think we are so civiilized that we are too good to eat meat? God put them here for us to use, but not to abuse! There are humane ways to slaughter animals. I think it's more important to focus on people slaughtering other people! What the hell is going on there? We need to figure that out ASAP! Get rid of the drugs, cults and mental illness and automatic weapons. The founders of this country did not mean for us to be armed like the armed forces. The US is the worst country for murder, why? Are we too spoiled that we are bored and are looking for love instead of drugs or material things? I think it's a combination of drugs and working and divorced parents. Homes are broken!
01-Jul-22

Is it inevitable. Companies are getting smarter and gathering more personal data with every click - what's your experience so far, do they get the 'suggested' products or services right and does it actually suggest things you would like?
Pennye R
I really don\u2019t like the fact that my phone is listening to my conversations and Facebook is tracking my likes. I prefer to look up products that I need myself.
07-Aug-23

I've read on a few news sites that the younger generation of teens, twenty something's , are blaming the older generation of Baby-boomers for the higher property prices that we have in some countries, like Australia, New Zealand Do you think they are right or wrong?
Kylene B 113680
Property has ALWAYS been beyond the reach of working Australians, They were lucky to have a car per household, not one per person, Now we have credit cards, tech and everyone wants everything now,
17-Dec-21

If kid's education is so important to these New Zealand teachers, then why do they keep striking. We came from a time when there were 50 students in once class and the teachers were getting paid min wage. And today teachers are wanting smaller classes and more pay and our kids are suffering in all this, along with their parents !
CILLY0
These days people want the highest wages they can get and are no longer interested in what they are doing. Politicians are in there for what they can earn not to look after constituents and teachers are no longer interested in teaching their pupils a love of mathematics or English or science. Just want a high payment
05-Jul-23

From not having your finances in order to rush through the inspection process, common mistakes made by homebuyers can derail the path to owning your dream home. How to avoid common home buying mistakes?
LA
Wow! Such a GREAT TOPIC in these times!
1. If you can\u2019t pay off a credit card each month STOP dreaming
2. Assume your mortgage will increase by 25%
3. Assume the \u201cbread winner\u201d may get sick with no insurance or financial help. Do you have a contingency fund?
4. Don\u2019t waste your money on \u201cHome Inspection Companies\u201d\u2026unless you fluke out and get one that has a lengthy PROVEN track record ( lol\u2026they all say they do) \u2026.save money and get the info you need by getting a reliable plumber , electrician, roofer, buy a moister meter and potentially more experts in their field accordingly to spend an hour instead
I could go on\u2026.if anyone wants me to keep advising\u2026let me know. My list goes on:)
03-Aug-23

My neighbour keeps asking me for toilet paper, sugar, whatever. Usually in the early morning. I keep giving them whatever they re asking for, I just wish they wouldn t wake me up. What would you do?
Lizzie
It\u2019s nice to keep giving you also may need them some day just let them know that your happy to give but could they please come a bit later as you are sleeping and are being woken up
02-Aug-23

I kept wondering what would happen if there were no electronic devices for the young kids of today, (10 and under) so my son and daughter-in-law tested the theory to see what would happen, so for a complete day they took away the devices (did not charge) and the TV was not working (took it off the main plug). At the beginning they were angry, and it did take about an hour, but they all went outside, played any thing and everything they could find, some cricket, riding...
gordy
We need to go back to basics and take technology out of our lives. Only use when we have to. So much to enjoy in the outdoors. Well done Kat, I hope a lot more people heed your comments.
01-Aug-23

If your neighbor's lifestyle bothered you, would you say something to them? Many people like to smoke cigarettes and marijuana, which I have nothing against. However, if you are one of those people who do not do either, but your neighbors do it non-stop, and it affects you, would you let them know?
Roslyn A
I had a neighbour who used to complain about me for digging a hole for a tree at 5pm, sanding a wall at 9am and other petty things - yet I was up earlier than her and at work earlier than her and in bed later than her. I say, leave your neighbour alone!
31-Jul-23

I have a colleague who 'aks' (instead of asks) for an 'expresso' when we go get coffee. I cringe. I let it go twice, then when I realized she wasn't doing it to be silly, I did mention to her so she wasn't embarrassed in front of other people. She laughed it off and was fine, and thankful for the heads up. I also went to school with a girl who cant say 'woolworths' and uni with a girl who couldn't say 'rigor mortis'. Cheer me up with some more funny stories
Amaya B
for some reason, no one seems to be able to say pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis except me... A lot of people I know with the same last name say things like 'fravourite' instead of favourite. I have no idea why, it just seems to be what comes out. At least three kids I know from the same family also say 'free' instead of three and other things like that. There was even an old lady I heard of that said 'coinkedink' (pronounced co-in-key-dink) instead of coincidence.
04-Jan-22

Some believe aliens are getting ready to invade, others think they've been here among us for millions of years. What is your belief?
BLM
Do I believe in Alien Life Form (aka ALF)? DEFINITELY! FYI: ALF can also be spelt as: D O N A L D J O H N T R U M P.
26-Jul-23

Your mother has met a man only 6 weeks ago, and tells you she is about to marry him. You found out some information about her new husband to be, and this information is extremely distressing. You tell your mother, but she still marries him. Do you attend the wedding?
Ketyad
6 weeks is much too short a period of time to decide to marry unless the man is 99 with a foot in the grave and a few million in the bank, then it should be "where do I sign up"!
18-Jul-23

Australians enjoy one of the highest life expectancies in the world, at 83 years. Now, science is giving us the potential to live even longer. How do we make sure we re leading a good life and not just a long one?
APB
There was a news item recently about a nun who has passed away...I think she was 114...to pad out the news story they found some footage of her at her last birthday party...she blew out the candles..and clearly said, in front of a crowd of well wishers...when asked a question "I just want to die"...they clearly didn't notice in the editing...so they left that bit in there.......you only need to live as long as you are enjoying it....
24-Jul-23

The day the earth stood still, the moment you absolutely knew you found your true, everlasting love? It's one of those life-changing experiences that are hard to forget. For some people though, it's more than that. They can't let go, and are determined to rekindle the old flames. People are using the internet to track former sweethearts. Some even get back together and live happily ever after. But the path of long lost love doesn't run smoothly. Do you remember your first childhood...
TERRIE K
Definitely. I was sitting at the back of the bus with my best friend when these 2 guys got on and one sat next to me. I was reading a comic and as I turned the page he said "I haven't finished reading that page" so I let him finish reading it. He asked what I was doing the following Saturday and I told him my baby brother was having a Birthday party. Apparently he looked for me on the day and couldn't find me. The following week my friend and I were walking in town when a bus stopped, where they aren't meant to, and he got off the bus with his mate. We started going out that day. I was 13 and he was 15. When he actually saw where I lived he told me he used to live at the bottom of our street and saw a young girl collecting the newspaper from the front lawn one morning and couldn't believe it was actually me. We got married when he turned 21 and we were together until he passed away from cancer just before his 63rd Birthday. It's been almost 5 years now and I still miss him. Especially his big warm hugs.
06-Jul-23

We should all have a happy place. A happy place is a situation or activity that makes you happy. For some, it may be when they do art or write. For others, it may be taking a walk, reading a book or perhaps doing online surveys :) What is your happy place?
BLM
I go for a walk (my happy place) - every day (regardless of the weather - but - I reside In Sunny Southern Cailfornia - LOL). I set a fast pace (I walk by myself), I walk in the evening, and I walk for two straight hours. I can literally feel the stress leaving my body.
28-Jul-23

My husband s co-worker recently had a stroke and he is only in his 30s. He is still suffering from the post-stroke effects but started coming back to work full time because he is the breadwinner for his family and his kids are still very young. He knows the stress from work is probably the trigger for his stroke, but what other options does he have? One can argue that your health is more important, but there are bills to pay. It is easier said than done to just change the job....
WonkyandProud
In 1989 when I became unable to work due to a nervous breakdown, my husband kept telling me I couldn't quit my job because we would lose our house. I realized that, and I worked and worked until one day, I was on my way to work, and I just knew I couldn't go to the office one more time. Therefore, I had a complete breakdown, and I haven't been able to work since because of anxiety and depression. These are very difficult disabilities to prove. However, with a lot of determination, I did manage to get retirement Social Security disability. It took several months, but I had enough vacation and sick days saved to keep my paycheck coming until the disability kicked in. It was so difficult, and I have not recovered from it. I had a wonderful government job that I loved, but my boss pushed and pushed until my brain completely shut down. I could not even comprehend anything my husband was telling me, and I cried constantly! I spent 3 months in the Psych Center! Finally, they let me go because I was better, but nothing more could be done for me at that time. I tried to sue the government for causing this, but I lost my case. They blamed it on the fact that my father had died during that same time period. I was not permitted to take time off to even visit Dad in the hospital where he was dying a painful death from bone cancer! I regret that to this day! We were in the process of building a new office building and no leave was allowed. I wish I had stood up to my boss, but I just couldn't! I still have not come to terms with how he treated me. He even made negative remarks about women, and he made no effort to hide that the men had more respect that the two secretaries! I wish that had been brought up at the hearing, but my attorney prohibited me from mentioning certain things. You can't beat a government attorney. They play so dirty. They even said that I married my husband, who was older than me, as a father figure. That was so not true! I knew this man for 15 years before we got married, and I never believed Dad was going to die. I could NOT accept that! Thanks for letting me vent. I hope it helps. I still want to talk to my boss and tell him how he ruined my life. My job was my pride. After that, I lost my self-esteem. I realize now that who I was shouldn't depend on the job I have. It is defined by the person I am, and I'm proud of who I am now! I hope this helps someone. Don't let people define who you are. They don't know you!!! God Bless you all!
27-Jul-23

Lately I find nowadays you gotta be careful who you talk to not everyone deserves access to your heart How many chances should you give a "friend" who always belittles you and bully's you constantly but never listen to how you feel? Lately I've felt so alone while with friends as they seem like frenemies instead of friends. Only there at my best times, never at my worst
Maria B 89860
From what you have described, to me it seems like they don't sound like friends in deed but like "friends" in need of having someone handy to vent on or boss around. I'm not sure if it's worth your while at looking around who are avoiding them and they might be more like the friendships you could cultivate.
29-Jul-23

I am a big fan of Bayern Munich (especially Arjen Robben). Partner is committed to Borussia Dortmund (must like watching them lose more than win)! So cricket, lacrosse, netball, skiing........... what sport do you love or team?
OSCAR
I PLAYED BASKETBALL (OUTSIDE) IN MY TEENS AND TWENTIES NOW I SWIM MY DAD WAS A CHAMPION IN THE DAY I STILL LOVE IT AND I'M IN MY 70'S
25-Jul-23

For me, it's all the following : 1. Any survey that wants my specific contact details as in name, address, email etc is a no-go for me. I don't mean general info like post code, but actual address etc. 2. Surveys that want to record my facial reactions - no, thank you buddy-not using my camera for surveys at all 3. Surveys that expect you to download an app on your phone or device, so they can track your internet use/ ads viewed etc. Not happening. 4. Surveys...
Bugalugs
My other special dislikes are those endlessly repeated preliminary questions which are a waste of time such as:
1) If you had a Superpower what would you want to be able to do?
2) What are your views on technology?
3) What is your favourite meal?
Just what is the point of them?
The other is when you click on a survey and are told that your profile doesn't match but "We have another survey which does" (or words to that effect) so you click on that only to have the same response multiple times. Either our profile matches or it doesn't!
20-Apr-22

If you take a look back in history, carrying a few extra pounds was a sign of wealth because rich people were the only ones that could afford fattening food. Fast forward to 2020 and junk food is cheaper than healthy food and poor people are fatter than rich people. One would assume if we were to raise the price of junk food exponentially. Our health would improve. Thoughts?
James
no, i limit my intake a lot now, sick of everything going up. Also sick of do gooders raising prices of fuel, power, water, cigarettes, alcohol because its better for me or the planet.
But if it make you feel better about your intake, roll your next burger up in a tight ball, and stick it up your bum!
27-Aug-20

Whatever happened to all cars having a strong steel bumper bar front and back and a thick chassis underneath? Back in the day if you had a crash you can mostly be guaranteed to either drive away or have your car fixed quite quickly with minimal cost. Today have a small bump on the car and it's a completer write-off. Bumper bars and chassis were there for a reason and that reason is safety for the occupants of the car. You may have got a bit shook up but you were never seriously...
Joanne Y 440141
Sure as hell felt safer driving around in my 1957 Chev compared to my 2009 VE Commodore. Older cars were made of real steel and made to last, new cars are just throw away items hence why they have the safety of the air bags etc etc.
09-Mar-21

Growing your own food can be cheaper and healthier. With the rising cost of produce, many of my family and friends started growing more produce. I myself grow a few things which I find taste better as there is no need for insecticides/chemicals. Have you tried growing your own produce?
LindaB
We moved to a rural property - a year ago tomorrow, actually - and since then I have grown potatoes, kumara (sweet potatoes for those outside NZ), NZ yams, carrots, cauli, broccoli, capsicums, corn, onions (red and brown), spring onions, pumpkins, beans, snowpeas (mange tout), leeks, cabbages (red and savoy), spinach, silverbeet, swede, daikon radish, beetroot, garlic, rhubarb, courgettes (zucchini), several varieties of tomatoes and herbs and attempted eggplant (aubergine) but was unsuccessful with those as I planted them too late in the season. We have also harvested feijoas, lemons, limes, mandarins and peaches from trees that were already established on the property. We also have chickens for eggs. I have made several batches of pasta sauce, tomato relish, peach jam, onion marmalade and feijoa chutney. I also make my own Irish soda bread, naan bread and focaccia. We are loving the flavours of fruit and veges fresh from the garden and are looking to add more gardens so we can grow more produce.
14-Jul-23

With all the needs in infrastructure and the health sector, why is so much tax money spent on various sports? I believe that elected officials should be more concerned about their constituents instead of entertainment for a minority group.
Crazy Chef
I think that they actually spend too much money trying to get minority groups to take the COVID vacation.
24-Oct-21

Hello everyone, question: Is it too risky to get an investment with no experience whatsoever in this industry ?
Andrew C 287196
Just stick to normal local bank term deposits. They're much safer - let the bank take the risk of the ups and downs of the stock market. Stay well away from stupidities like cryptocurrency and transferring money to overseas "companies" that are more likely just scams!!
22-Jul-23

Everyone has different tastes and needs, so we all have different food combinations in our pantry. What do you consider to be your main pantry staples that you strive to always have in your pantry or fridge?
Michelle S 553303
If you strive to always have SOMETHING in your pantry then I would strongly suggest that you get multiples of everything starting now! As much as MSM won't talk about it, there IS going to be a global famine and even now it has begun in African and some poorer Middle Eastern countries too. There is simply NOT going to be enough food to feed everyone and with a deficit in supply only one thing is certain and that is that prices will continue to rise in ways that we who have grown up over the last 50 years have never conceived of! Farmers are being told NOT to grow food or they have seen prices for fertilisers go up so high, if available at all, that it isn't worth planting crops but taking the insurance money for a lost crop instead. The "environment" has become the reason for the slaughter of millions of additional animals which would not have ended up on our plates this year or next because the "Nitrogen Minister" of a country has stated that the animals have to go so that "Mother Earth" is saved from the ravages of sheep and cows! Crops are failing due to inclement weather either drowning the plants or drought drying them out. Water is and will continue to be restricted for farming and even the growing of rice, a stable food item on the menu of billions of people all around our planet isn't forgotten by the architects of this intentional disaster. There IS a war on food and if you and your loved ones WANT to eat in the years to come you MUST make ready now before supply slows and rationing becomes widespread. It sounds science fiction or like a novel but we are ALL going to go through times we simply can't begin now to imagine in our near future! Fill up that pantry now, buy as many Mason jars as you can find and fill them, get kilos of salt as it's a valuable commodity and plant a garden with non GMO seeds! All the best to you all.
23-Jul-23

Should having a pet be a right as a tenant, within reason? I see more and more people being forced to give up family pets because no landlords allow them anymore, and I can t imagine how heartbreaking that must be.
Neo
I can't believe that we are having this topic again. It was already done within the last month.
In Australia, at least in Victoria, a landlord cannot refuse you on the basis of pets and nor can they kick you out if you get pets afterwards. I think that this is terrible as, at the end of the day, it is your house and your rules.
The other problem I have with it is many people that rent do not care about the property they rent to start with because it is not theirs and these type of people would allow pets to damage and destroy the house and the type of damage these tenants do, the bond is not enough to even pay for the materials needed to repair the property, much less any tradespeople to do the work.
The other issue I have is certain tenants are always behind on their rent and bills and will use pets as excuses on why they are behind. Even worse, they may not be able to afford to care for the pet (basic food and vet care) and this is abuse.
I am a pet owner but would never even think about having a pet unless I can afford it.
21-Jul-23

We all have many friends in different parts of our life. Some will be super good people whom we can trust for life, but some people acts like they care in the beginning, and slowly we can see their colors. 'The fake friends'. So if anyone wants to share any such experiences, you are most welcome to share
BLM
Smiling faces sometime pretend to be your friend. Smiling faces show no traces of the evil that lurks within people. The TRUTH is in their 'eyes'. Their 'eyes' don't LIE!
28-Jun-23

Doing Shift Work I find it Really hard to have that Balance . On my day off I am so tired I never get to catch up on what needs to be done. Anyone else feel the same?
Edith v
Yes I have done shift work 1 week 6am-2pm the next week 2pm -6pm the worst one 6pm-6am however the money was very good.it was in UK in the 50's.I earned double the wage my uncle earned & he had a wife & 3 kids to support .I was the only Australian in the whole factory.Any time I had off I visited other counties. Only 2 weeks holiday but then it was over to Europe The factory girls were fabulous We went to Liverpool to the Cavern because a new group were there called "The Beatles"It was a great era & for me "I had the time of my Life"
20-Jul-23

Do you think that there will ever be a time when the whole world is at peace? Judging by past history the chances are slim.
APB
Jacqueline R 353303 AND boston 1352573...have exactly the same response to this question...just take a look below....word for word...what is going on here?...same person with two accounts?....
08-Jul-23

From what I have seen and heard, they do a good job for animals that are neglected. One local resident informed me that they would not help a dog, possibly being prepared for food. They had informed her there is nothing they can do. Can this really happen in Australia?
Jellypony
Well I really hope not but a long time ago my parents would eat Chinese at a shop some where in Brisbane any way the shop was caught enticing the local street cats and they served them up as chicken. Yuk so my parents do believe they have eaten cat, not by choice of course. The shop was closed down obviously. A woman I knew was really upset by some people that lived near her as they were trying to catch ducks in the local park. Setting traps for them and yes using them as food. I am pleased we don't have wet markets here in Australia but I am sure if you knew where to look there could be a black market and you could get what ever you wanted at a cost. We use and abuse animals for a lot of things and food is only a part of the whole situation unfortunately. I do eat meat don't get me wrong but I do feel for the animals especially if we treat them so badly. Big problem we have now is eggs, a dozen is now going to cost us $15 because we aren't allowing caged hens. All hens have to be free ranged or barn laying. I was a little put off as I will refuse to pay that much for eggs. An alternative to using an egg/eggs in a cake is 1. Apple Sauce 2. Banana and 3. 1 teaspoon of baking soda and 1 tablespoon of vinegar (per egg) 4. plain or vanilla yoghurt. Maybe when they realise some people will refuse paying that price the price will drop but only time will tell. We do have alternative solutions for this problem and we are not reliant to them for our needs. We will adapt and find other ways. I like eggs but I will slowly learn to live without them.
17-Jul-23

In driving at night I've been blinded by headlights on 4-wheel drives. I flash my lights to let the other driver know they are on high beam. Then the other driver flicks up to high beam. So I've been blinded by their low beams. Should the 4WD vehicles have their lights lowered so they are not so blinding as they are a higher vehicle than the ordinary car?
MoB
Probably, drivers now have no idea about lights. A car was following me on a dark night with no lights at all, when we pulled up at the lights I let him know that he didn't have his lights on, he said I can see so why should I put my lights on. I tried to explain that the lights were not for him to see with but for other people to see him. I got the finger, very nice. Knowing about lights on your car should be imperative if you are driving, it might help to lessen the number of accidents we have.
19-Jul-23

My hair, at 62 years old, is starting to do grey. It's streaked grey in my dark brown. My hair is long. I need some opinions, suggestions. Should I dye it?
Elizabeth J 447888
After having dark hair since I was a baby I find that I am loving my greys. I really think grey can look quite stylish. I see grey hair everywhere these days. Are people going grey at a younger age or are young people dying their grey. I really feel it is the latter. Dark hair on a older person with a sallow complexion looks comical. A good bottle of purple shampoo and let it be is my recommendation Ruth.
15-Jul-23

As a kid, fast food was a treat for me. Going to McDonald's for a happy meal was a treat. Every weekend maybe, but never every day. My question of the day is... how much is too much consumption of fast food? Can you make a balance of it? Is all consumption, no matter how much bad? What do you all think? I'm craving a Big Mac while typing this.
Kylene
It\u2019s like most things eating it in moderation is ok. So once a week or fortnight as long as you aren\u2019t having huge portions of it. I\u2019m always shocked at school holidays seeing parents not only buy them mcds for lunch plus the soft serve ice cream plus the frozen fizzy drink. Way to much sugar!!
16-Jul-23

Online education offers access to programs for many who can't afford the time or tuition of a traditional degree, but they rely heavily on written assignments and quizzes that AI can easily answer. Can online schools survive in the world of ChatGPT, BingChat etc.?
23
AI will pose challenges to civilization and people, as did the Industrial Revolution in the 19th Century or the introduction of computers in the workplace. AI is an extension of this, and it will be interesting to see how people and the workplace will change.
12-Jul-23

In NZ is winter and that means cold and flu time. How do you usually treat cold / flu? Do you buy pricey miraculous pills or hot drink from pharmacy? Do you have any tips from your grandparents or other family member? What work for you when you are sick?
Roslyn A
Stay away from work so I don't spread it! Anyway I usually have the flu vaccination so it would be unusual for me to get the flu.
21-Jul-21

You are taking a walk in the park when you notice a person stumbling, do you assume they are intoxicated or do you ask if they are okay? This situation happened as I was at work and noticed a man stumbling on the lawn. Another worker also saw him and went to check on him and realized he was a coworker who was diabetic and needed assistance. What would you do?
Sandra C 12043
Of course, wouldn't anyone do that ?? Why would you even need to think about it ?? Just imagine yourself in that situation. How would you feel if people ignored you thinking yiou were drunk?? Thank heavens 2 cars stopped recently when my husband had a fall on the footpath, it was darkish, but they stopped and helped him up. He was only a few steps from home, so he was fine. I can't believe that you would have to stop and think before acting,.
13-Jul-23

Do you think genetically modified food is making people obese? It seems that when people use more and more genetically modified food they put on weight quite fast. Whereas those people who only eat food grown locally and meat that has not had hormones added don't put on weight so easily.
BLM
If you don't trust 'genetically modified food to be safe, then don't buy genetically modified food. However, this is a capitalistic society (aka profits over people)! What do you expect when it comes to making money (short cuts are going to be involve to raise the profit ability level)?!
10-Jul-23

It's a new landscape, a foreign language, a different culture and new people. You'll never be more exposed to new things. As a result, you'll have to adapt to your new surroundings. This will broaden your perceptions and force you to become more open-minded. Do you think that taking a vacation can change your life?
Liane H
Anyone watch banged up abroad? Schapelle Corby story.. or if the plane goes down I guess your life as you previously knew it would change !
11-Jul-23

Falling victim to a scammer is an awful feeling. It s not only the theft of money or personal information that stings, the thought of being tricked by lowlife crooks is enough to enrage anyone. Statistics show more than 95 per cent of Australians are exposed to telephone, text and internet scams each year. Even more alarming is the amount of money these thieves are stealing from us. Last year it exceeded three billion dollars. Is there a meaningful solution to stopping scammers...
Lt p
Prison, hanging, electrocution, firing range\u2026\u2026I am getting so tired of people trying to screw over innocent people. And wasting my time answering their stupid calls.
07-Jul-23

I can't help but wonder how many people think the government can turn old abandoned schools/buildings into homes for the homeless people. There are several abandoned schools which have been just sitting there for years. What are your thoughts on this matter?
Judy CH
A lot of homeless people choose to be homeless, it is not up to the taxpayer to pay for everything for them, a lot of working people can't afford to buy, cigarettes, alcohol drugs etc but are expected to pay for people who have chosen their life style. The Government uses the money from tax payers but treat it as it is their God given right to spend it the way they choose. And yes I do know what it is like to go hungry, not have shoes to wear. I was sent out by my Mother to steal peoples milk money when I was young. Mum always had enough to buy hers and my oldest brothers smokes and go to the movies 2 or 3 times a week while I at 8 years old was left to look after 3 brothers and a sister aged 6, 4, 3 and 2 years old. Often all we had to eat was stale bread with hot water poured over it. The more she was given the more entitled she felt. Never worked a day in her life. My brother who was 6 years and sister 5 years older than me had already been put in care because Mum could't look after them. I made up my mind when I was young that I was not going to live like that. I never smoked, started working at 14 and only brought what we could afford. It was going well until we got scammed through an invoice 4 years ago.
03-Jul-23

While some look to get cosmetic surgery to change their appearance, others are learning to love and accept their physique and be body positive . But not everyone thinks the positivity movement is healthy or realistic. What are your thoughts?
Evie
A bit of surgery is one thing, but don't change who you are. Additionally, I get not everyone is a size 2, but the obesity that's being accepted in the name of "positivity" is unhealthy and leads to additional health problems.
26-Jun-23

I have been doing work as a genealogist for my family and friends for Over 10 years. I have used DNA test results for myself and also for my parents and my adult children, etc. It has proven invaluable for me in my research. I feel the positive outweighs the negative. How do others feel about this?
Michelle S 553303
I have no desire to give my DNA to ANYONE for ANYTHING! I don't believe that many people are aware that DNA is the new information source of the 21st century and that companies get paid big money for DNA samples from people who donate their genetic samples, thinking that their privacy will be maintained and that they still have a say in what their DNA is used for, but the industry is far more nefarious than that. I certainly have no intention of having MY DNA sitting in a database in China but China DOES have millions upon millions of genetic sequences from people around the 1st world who wouldn't themselves have consented to such violations of their genetic property.. The future is targeted vaccines and biological warfare,and bioengineering and DNA can tell a Scientist SO much!. Whether it's determining how to use racially diverse or gender specific targeting for "health care", the creation of organs through the creation of stem cells from the DNA and creating a '"cloned" organ, which IS possible within a laboratory setting, the use of DNA in Science would simply blow many people's minds. Whether it's buccal cells from the cheecks, mucosal samples from the nose, sperm, ova or blood, genetics can be manipulated in labs in Communist nations without moral or ethical safeguards we here in the West would anticipate and expect. I UNDERSTAND that people have a curiosity about their ancestral linage and good for them, but for me there are 2 reasons why I won't do a DNA test through 23 and Me, Ancestry. com or the other companies out there. The first is that I have ZERO interest in opening up a can of worms, which I believe would be the situation in my case and secondly my distrust in exactly where my DNA would end up! Science has given us many, many benefits over the years but we've gone too far with our curiosity and that can be a very bad thing! Thanks for reading.
05-Mar-23

A new advert I've just seen...the FIRST bottle to use 100% rHDPE plastic!!! (rHDPE is recycled High Density Polyethlene)...sounds great right?....what these creeps are ACTUALLY doing is making bottles that are 50% rHDPE...and half VIRGIN plastic...but the recycled component is rHDPE....with people like this "helping" it's going to be a long hard battle to recycle our plastic waste just cowboys making a quick buck out of lying...
Tim @miAimTIL
All current plastic produces can be made from Hemp that grows in 3-5 months and 100% degrades to nothing in 75 days
01-Jul-23

Once we collected and signed for our pay packets at a pay office. Now we have given, the control to banks that are closing, and for those whom don t trust ATMs and computers, how are they going to survive and how are they going to be able to pay their bills. Out of control Banks, with our money? Does anyone in your family struggle to with this?
Pearlz
You have no-one to blame but yourselves. You vote with your feet and if you don't like what you are offered then take your business elsewhere. The banks introduced ATMs' and you queued to use them not giving a wit about the teller whose job it replaced. You were offered internet banking and you were in a hurry to sign up for it, once again replacing people. Then it was the banking app and use your mobile all the while doing people out of a job. Branches closed and ATM's were removed, do you now why? Most ATM's are owned by people who buy them as an investment, they cost money to own because the Reserve Bank charges people for the money they put into ATM's so when you paid at Woollies or Coles with your phone and took out cash the costs of keeping ATM's was more than the earnings so they were removed. Don't complain, don't whinge because you brought this upon yourself. I don't have a smartphone, I don't trust them, especially with my personal banking. Apps aren't as secure as websites, not your side but the other end and people you interact with. I still use the website but my bank is trying to close it and push me off onto an app of course because it's cheaper, but I'm not going without a loud noise. Not everyone wants to bank online, some people forget how to do things online as they age, some people aren't as capable as others to go online or on an app so Banks should be somewhat responsible for pushing everyone online where they get ripped off or scammed. It's too late now the horse has bolted, you chose a machine and technology over a person. I'll use technology when it's a benefit but I MUCH prefer to deal with a real live person, I queue at the checkout to keep the checkout person employed and I like to shop in stores to keep the sales people employed. Any business that tries to push me into having a smartphone I ditch because I don't want one or the apps they insist I need. Every action has consequences and not using people results in no people being required. Think about that the next time you use serf service.
30-Jun-23

How do you deal with increasing cost of living? Groceries, gas, travel, utilities etc are all going up with no increase in pay.
Sammi
Stop giving to Charity, no eating out, only replacing what we use, no more takeaways, use the car less, no new clothes or shoes, no cinema and more internet purchases. In other words NO LIFE
06-Jun-23

Well, I am a 51-year-old female with terrible decision-making skills. (Had mental breakdown July 2019.) It has gotten to the point that I'm almost scared to decide anything. What I want is to have my boyfriend take over my decision-making so I avoid bad decisions. He isn't okay with it for his love for me gets in the way. How can I get him to understand that this is for the best?
Sandra C 12043
You need to seek professional help. Asking your boyfriend to make your decisions is putting too much stress on him and you may lose him. Get help from a professional and keep your relationship on a loving basis.
29-Jun-23

If you could change one thing in the neighborhood you live in, in an effort to make it a better place, what would it be?
Larry S 382961
Clean out the drug dens,put road horns off the streets. Make councils do what they are paid to do and not bend to minority groups
24-Jun-23

In previous generations, children left home at 18 years old and became independent. Now with student debt and the increasing cost of renting and buying a house, we are seeing the rise of the 'Boomerang babies' who stay or move back home for well into their 20's. Is this good for our communities and have you noticed it in yours? Do you know any 'Boomerang Babies'?
Teri 1282723
For many reasons my two sons haven't left our home. One is on the autism spectrum and will always need help, the other works part time and has committed to looking after his brother when I'm gone, none of us could afford rent on our own, plus other stuff I don't need to get into. We are all respectful of each other, never raise our voices, and contribute to the bills in a fair and agreeable way. For us, this works beautifully.
I realize other families will have their divorces or loss of jobs or financial issues, etc. and need to come home for a while. Home should always be a safe place to come to when extra help is needed.
Just don't let them take advantage and use you without contributing what they can - financially, with chores, repairs - while they're with you.
27-Jun-23

Do you strictly prefer the IQ system or do you value other factors more like social intelligence, quick thinking ability, an amazing memory, possessing highly specialised skills or knowledge, creativity level, or a general knowledge champion etc? I was discussing with someone who resonates with the IQ system and believes people are born with intelligence, but I feel intelligence is mostly acquired over time. The way I see it is that no one can be a BMX champion in a...
Pato Lo Duck
When it comes to intelligence, my theory is the best strategy is to play dumb, that way people don\u2019t see you as a threat and you can get away with murder almost..
22-May-23

I was pleased to see Victorian tax dollars of A$215 million going towards training nurses and midwifes. What a great idea. Of course provisos will be put into place to ensure these students when they graduate put in some years in hospitals etc. This is not ongoing but for just a number of them. Do you think all states should do this? What thoughts do others have on this idea.
Gypsy
When I trained as an EN (Enrolled Nurse) in the early 1990's I was paid for the entire year, whether it was a study day or a working on the ward day. As a newly divorced mother with 3 young children I could not have done it if I had to pay for it instead of being paid. Having hands on training is best for good patient care. Years later so many times young RN's would come onto the ward doing a 'placement' and they would complain about having to do some basic nursing task, they would say that they are supposed to be giving medications and taking blood for tests not making beds and emptying bed pans. They are just in the job for the money and the 'prestige'.
25-Jun-23

Yes I have but struggling at the same time, it's just going tuff. Expensive too much.
Norman M
Absolutely. Someone came knocking on the door, said he was collecting for the orphanage, so I gave him my 2 kids!
16-Feb-22

Does anyone else experience seeing things from their dreams in reality and get a deja vu moment ? Or am I just tripping, ha-ha Happens quite a bit for me ...
Peechy
Allllllll the time, worst thing for me is I'll say something then it happens, eg phone rings or dings, son drops an egg on the floor etc etc etc
18-Jun-23

Having siblings or no siblings has a major impact on how we turn out. There are pro's and con's for both scenarios, for example scarce resources but large social network in big families or loneliness for single child families but better resources. How do you think your family situation has shaped you?
allinyourhead
on my own until 17, no siblings, joined the army, 8 year infantry,, raised 2 boys, life is good most of the time,,, when you have to learn life on your own, the hard way, you appreciate life more, you try to help when help is needed, as i got help when i needed it, so i pass it on, i have no use for narcissistic people, people that start unfounded conspiracy theories, i reckon that includes those that like their own posts as nobody else will, lol,, folks that constantly complain,, they should just be happy to have a roof over their head, a lot of folks in this world do not,, people dividing the USA with their far right conspiracy crap, but i reckon they have that right to be buttholes, as someone's son/brother/father/mother, gave their all so y'all can
17-Jun-23

What are your thoughts when you first walk into a store. Would you prefer someone who works there to come up to you right away and greet you and ask if you need assistance, or would you rather browse yourself and ask for assistance when you need it? I've had both scenarios where I went to a store to look for shoes and nobody greeted me or asked if I needed help looking for a size when I needed help, to someone constantly asking if I need help while I'm browsing every...
Liane H
A friendly smile on entering or if they are busy when you do ,then an acknowledgement that you are instore at some stage of the game is always welcomed! Can't stand indifferent rude staff.
21-Jun-23
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